Me and my girlfriend are starting to become pretty sexually active. A few nights back, we decided to have sex for the first time, but as I begin stripping her, and my own, clothes off I notice my erection has decided to leave at this most unfortunate time. So I think no big deal, I just crawl into bed with herd and caress her naked figure, and give her a little hand sex to try to get me hard, and eventually resort to try to jerk off to get it up, but I only manage half mast. That is enough to get the condom on though, so I proceed to insert myself, even though i'm not all that hard and begin making love to my woman. This is when my next problem occurs, I prematurely come, wayyyyy faster than I would have liked, I don't know time but it couldn't have been more than a few minutes. I am slightly upset at myself and finish my girl off with my fingers and tongue. The next day, I tried to do some research. I found some info pertaining how certain emotions can lead to this, so I reflect and realize I was very depressed that day, prior to the sex, and make note of how to try to correct this problem. Then a few nights later we decide to try again, I make sure that I clear my mind of expectations and anxiety and just try to be at peace with my self no matter what the circumstances, but again I come much faster that I would have liked. Further more my dick went soft before I could get a condom on, I even had my girlfriend rub it, and once again I could only get it up halfway.

These problems are even more troubling though, because when I lost my virginity, a little over a year ago, I didn't come at all and could keep an erection just fine. I had sex for near three hours and still didn't orgasm.

I was wondering if these problems are due to my severe emotional problems that are probably still being manifested on my subconscious, despite my best efforts to clear my mind, or is this just inexperience. When I lost my virginity it was to a slightly slutty girl that I wasn't really attracted to, but I am very turned on by my girl friend. One other question, is it safe to blow your load in a condom and continue to have sex until your erection dies or should I definetly pull out after I come.

I'm not really all that interested in sex for me, I'm going to have to leave my girlfriend soon because of a change in my life, and I really want to have a few memorable nights with her, for her. I have given her countless tongue lashings and clit rubs, but I want her to have something special before I go.

Maybe you are just stressed. I am sorry to hear about your emotional problems, but strap a condom on your player and try once more to get back into the game.

about the condom thing, you should pull out because constant pumping could make some sperm come out the ends near the base and thatmay enter the vagina, increasing the chances of pregnancy and/or disease.

Sounds to me like a case of mind over matter. Your mental state can wreck your sexual drive, if negative. I would recommend doing whatever you can to clear your mind, and only thing of the job at hand.

BTW, I don't think there is anything wrong. But if you are a happy dude and you still can get it up, there may be a problem.

I'm still in my teens, that is why it is so strange that I can't get it up. I have a court hearing coming up in the first few days of August, so maybe after that I willl be a little less burdened. I appreciate the help greatly.

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