Alright...I dunno im in a weird mood right now and kinda confused on what I should be feeling. So I suppose maybe i'l come tot tose for some input.

Well ive been seeing this girl for a few weeks now...things have gone good so far and it seems we both care alot about each other, were both mid age teens but anyway, She had to go away last week to a cottage her parents rented, she dident want to leave but she had to.

Anyway she met a bunch of people up there she became freinds with, and they had a party or two. Anyway she got extremly drunk (drunkest shes ever been she claims), and doesnt remeber much, other then some things what what people told her.

The first party she ended up sleeping at some guys house, who she dident really know but he had a gf, who was always with him. So he let her stay there the night (couldent go home wasted) and woke up in a bed alone, I was paranoid at first but she convinced me everything was ok. (he had a gf with him, beat up a few guys hitting on her lol, ect ect)

Next party she tells me about she did the same thing, got wasted ect ect dont remeber shit. Then she tells me, she lied - shes sorry and she cheated on me. Well I flipped when I heard that, I went off - she told me, she had a 3 some with 2 other girls. Instantly I was kind of confused...and dident seem to care much anymore, she felt really bad, since shes not bi she felt akward ect ect. So I kind of let it slide..until she told me after they were done - she'd found out 2 other guys were watching. At first I was kinda pissed off...and im what the fuck. Then I kinda calmed down.

So I went off on my own to watch a movie...and I couldent stop thinking about all this - espeicaly the 2 guys watching part. For whatever reason that botherd me alot.

What should I do about all of this?



confused.

Acid

It doesn't matter the gender of the people she cheated on you with. She cheated on you. Not in a very dignified manner, either. Make of it what you will.

thats true, but I dunno...ive always told myself I couldent give a damn if my gf does crap with chicks..as long as shes not bi. I dunno...I care about her alot, other then this screw up she seems to be the same.

quote:Originally posted by stephanina:

It doesn't matter the gender of the people she cheated on you with. She cheated on you. Not in a very dignified manner, either. Make of it what you will.

I don't quite know how to discribe it, but some guys find the thought of lesbians attractive enough to distract from what happened. That's not a very good explaination. Can someone else help me here?

Adic, treat the situation exactly as you would had it been a threesome with 2 guys. What would you do then?

Dump the bitch. She cheated on you, and she got completely wasted on top of that. Fuck drunks, they'll bring you nothing but heartache.

Then again, you could forget about it and and keep her around just for the sex. What the fuck do you care, she cheated on you.

dude I think she lied to you, she probably slept with some guys but is just using the chicks as an excuse. most people get wasted but they can react and kno whats goign on. alot of time they use booze as an excuse to cheat. fuck girls same shit happend to me what a bitch. grrrrrrrrr

quote:Originally posted by Acid-Killer:

I couldent give a damn if my gf does crap with chicks..as long as shes not bi.

so you would prefer your girlfreind to dump you and be a lesbian? this isn't making sense to me.. She cheated on you, that would be end of story for me. Beeing drunk isn't an excuse either. Obviously you werent on her mind at all, otherwise she wouldnt have done it. So I would come to the conclusion that she is just one of those girls waiting for something better, and your it for now so to speak. If you decide to stay with this girl, I strongly advise you to keep a VERY close watch on her, and don't get too attached for now, keep yourself from having any deep feelings, and if you have feelings now, you need to get rid of them.

thanks psycho, I dunno but when I think about my girlfreind, fucking 2 other girls. Its more of a turn on thought then a "she fuckin cheated on me!" thought. But you all are right...she did cheat. I dunno, like I care about her alot...and I know she cares alot about me. Could it be she -really did- get so wasted, she couldent control herself? Like I dont expect her to think of me 24/7.....but then again I'd also think she would think what she was doing before she starts giving face to another girl.

It doesn't matter. If she got so wasted she didn't know what she did, then did it AGAIN, she knew exactly what she was doing. She knew that she wasn't in control of herself, and that second time, she didn't give a shit.

Dump the bitch, because threesomes with your girlfriend and another girl are nothing but bullshit. Trust me, you DO NOT want that.

quote:Originally posted by Acid-Killer:

thanks psycho, I dunno but when I think about my girlfreind, fucking 2 other girls. Its more of a turn on thought then a "she fuckin cheated on me!" thought. But you all are right...she did cheat. I dunno, like I care about her alot...and I know she cares alot about me. Could it be she -really did- get so wasted, she couldent control herself? Like I dont expect her to think of me 24/7.....but then again I'd also think she would think what she was doing before she starts giving face to another girl.



Ok, here's how I see what you are saying...

I'm going to pretend im you.. "Ok, So my girlfreind had sex with some other chicks. thats hot as shit. I hope I get to have sex with these other girls as well. Or at least watch them. Ya know, I'm not in this for a whole relationship thing, even though I seem to be convincing myself of that. I just want as much pussy as humanly possible. Whenever I realize this, I think I'll do a lot better, and just fuck the slut. Then, when she cheats on me with a man, and i know about it. I can dump her and not care."

I tend to not be too angry when people cheat. Though I don't think anyone has ever cheated on me. ...one guy, I suppose, but that didn't matter at the time (what mattered was the dumping me bit). The fact is that she didn't care about these chicks (romantically) and she didn't care about the guys either. It was just sex. Yeah, she wasn't thinking about you. Big fucking deal. If she's really sorry and gets down on her knees and cries and says she'll never do it again, just take her back like nothing happens. Then if she does do it again, burry her in a ditch with gasoline and set her body ablaze. You don't need someone who would cheat twice.

quote:Originally posted by GlitterPunk112358:

It was just sex. Yeah, she wasn't thinking about you. Big fucking deal.

You're not too hip or keen to this whole 'relationship' thing, are you?

You're being extremely sexist and unfair if you treat this situation any differently than if cheated on you with guys.

i once dumped a girl for cheatin on me with another chik,my best friend.i didnt like her so it was a good excuse.

I say once a cheater, always a cheater.

Same goes for lying.

quote:Originally posted by Green Lantern:

You're being extremely sexist and unfair if you treat this situation any differently than if cheated on you with guys.

Sexist...no. Am I turned on when I think "my girlfreind is fucking some guy". No. Do I get turned on when I think "my girlfreind is giving and getting face from 2 chicks". Yes.

But when you add in "found out 2 other guys were watching" It throws it all off.

I do care about her alot, sure I love pussy as much as the next guy, but still....I dunno what the fuck to. I need a bottle of jack, and a good place to get wasted and bitch and whine until I figure this shit out

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Discrimination based on gender, especially discrimination against women.

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EDIT: As I'm posting this I'm realizing that you cannnot tell someone life experiances for the most part. Dude, go with your gut. If you think this girl is sincere with you and thats the reason, go for it. If you think youll get some lesbo action, go for it.

You have to learn the hard way.





[This message has been edited by Psychotogen (edited 07-25-2004).]

Why do you get turned on by that? That's 2 human beings your girlfriend would rather have sex with than you.

She doesn't care much about you, why care about her?

I swear to the gods, dudes are fucking idiots. What, you think you're gonna have some sexy 3-way like a fucking porno?

Porn isn't reality, my friend. That's something all kids should learn REAL quick.

I got dumped for a chick once. It sucked. Especially because the girl had been cheating on me with that girl, another girl, and a guy for 4 months.

quote:Originally posted by The_Rabbi:

You're not too hip or keen to this whole 'relationship' thing, are you?

No, not really. I really shouldn't be giving advice

This has happened to me before.

I didn't know what to feel either. But the basic principal is that she cheated on you. My girlfriend thought it was alright cause it was with another girl. I was first sad then sort of happy cause I thought maybe I'd get some of the action. Then i realised that was just stupid, I should be just trying to figure out what to do and how to do it. In the end I dumped her because she just didn't realise that what she did was cheating. And I knew that if I forgave her she would think that she would be able to get away with it again. It was a really hard thing to do but I knew it had to be done. I still don't know weather it was the right thing to do. She was such a cool girl. *sob*

if she's getting drunk with other people that much and not you then you should dump her. and think worst case scenario all the time, if she sed she woke up at a guys house alone chances are she fucked him and lied to you.

So, maybe you don't mind a few STD's? Chances are your Sweet Drunk didn't use protection. Do you mind if they traded Bugs & she gives them to you? I mean as long as she got them from someone Cute?

Slip on a rubber & Sodomize her.

She was unfaithful. How can you trust her again? How can you trust that the 2 guys just watched and didn't join in? How can you trust she didn't feel something for one of the girls she was with? The sooner you get rid of her, the easier it will be.

The bitch must go!

Listen to Teh_Rabbi, I think he knows what hes talking about =D

quote:Originally posted by Acid-Killer:

Instantly I was kind of confused...and dident seem to care much anymore, she felt really bad, since shes not bi she felt akward ect ect.

Damn straight she's not bi, she's a straight up lesbian.

Way to pick 'em, champ.

Shes not Bi, She aint les. She was drunk and either experimenting or , just really drunk...

Gah...as much as I should dump her I dont want to...this really does suck.

Experimenting, huh? Well now you've got a reason to get really drunk & horny. Got any guys you'e had your eye on?

Now she's got a reason to get real drunk.

It's all so cool.

Maybe you're a couple who just likes to do it with anyone handy.

if you keep her, make sure she only does it when your around, if she's to do it again



ohw, and never ever make the mistake wich i made, tellin your girl at a party the if she wants to kiss any girl it's okee......

Acid-Killer, seriously dude, you need to get rid of this girl, for your own good. You shouldnt submit yourself to this kinda of crap, if my grilfriend which i totally adore did this i would ditch her right off the bat. Once somethign like this happens, theres just nothing else to do.

quote:Originally posted by Acid-Killer:

Do I get turned on when I think "my girlfreind is giving and getting face from 2 chicks". Yes.



there is the problem, you are letting the lesbian fact get in the way of the fact that she still cheated on you...

quote: I couldent give a damn if my gf does crap with chicks..as long as shes not bi.

If she doesn't like girls, the only reason she would mess around with chicks is for the gratification of other guys. Doesn't this bother you?

EDIT:

quote:I tend to not be too angry when people cheat.

Glitter, I seem to remember an incident when you were annoyed with me and the guy wasn't even your boyfriend.

Everyone gets jealous, and nobody likes to think that they're not the best and the one-and-only, even if they know they're not.

[This message has been edited by stephanina (edited 07-26-2004).]

-nods- yeah I guess your right steph. and it does bother me - thanks for slapping me in the face with the reality of things....I need that once in awhile.

So what are you planning on doing about this whole situation?

Dump the fucking slut already, stupid! Good god.

Though you might listen to moony about that little sodomy thing. Sodomize her bitch-ass good, cheat on her, and THEN dump her.

shes gotta go man... please tell us youve done the right thing

This thread broken for anyone else? I've tried refreshing on both pages and checking other threads, but it's definitely something about this thread. The left and right areas are moved to the bottom of the page so the forum part itself takes up the whole screen left to right.

EDIT: of course after I post this it fizes itself.

[This message has been edited by Green Lantern (edited 07-27-2004).]

kick her in the balls.

But seriously, once a girl is unfaithful to you it ruins the relationship. Even if she says she'll never do it again, you'll never trust her again. She could be completely faithful for the rest of your lives (not that i'm saying you two will last more than a few months) but you'll always have that question lingering in the back of your mind.

Bang her one last time then drop her

[This message has been edited by SyncMaster (edited 07-27-2004).]

quote:Originally posted by Green Lantern:

This thread broken for anyone else? I've tried refreshing on both pages and checking other threads, but it's definitely something about this thread. The left and right areas are moved to the bottom of the page so the forum part itself takes up the whole screen left to right.

EDIT: of course after I post this it fizes itself.

[This message has been edited by Green Lantern (edited 07-27-2004).]



yeah it happened to me on this thread when i was on yesterday.

Why the hell did she tell you? Couldn't she have easily just kept it a secret from you?

What would be the reasons behind you being angry if she had cheated with a guy?

She was drunk, everyone does stupid things when they're drunk and I think that the fact that she told you what had happened and could have easily not told you that there were guys watching means that she genuinely regrets being unfaithful to you.

what did you do with it?