ok I'm not going to crap on and give you all the details but basicly I need to know if it's true what they say that when you shag a man on the first date he'll never want to see you ever ever again!!

I made the above mistake with someone I reeeeaaaly like and get on with really well and I text him and he finished work 2 hours ago and still hasn't text back and I'm getting really fucking paranoid because I really like him and I don't want to text again and run the risk of looking like some desperate obssessed psycho. (and please don't just reply saying I am a desperate obsessed psycho- because I already know that but he doesn't lol)

You've ruined it forever. I'm sorry, but might as well give up lest you risk looking like a fuckin tool.

Thanks. I apreciate your honesty.

Unles this guy is a jerk, i doubt that he will 'never want to see you again'. If you two get along as well as you say you do, you shouldn't have too much to worry about.

As for the texting thing-you're just being paranoid. I don't know you/him/the situation you two are in, but I'm guessing he just didn't text back, no real meaning. Call him later tonight just to say hi if you are really worried about it.

I know it's near impossible to do-but try to put this on the back burner temporarily, or the rest of the night you will be ripping out your hair wondering where he is and why he didnt text. Wait a few hours and call casually as i suggested before. I really don't know your situation but that's the best advice i have, being a female myself. (I assume you're female)

Good luck

EDIT- spelling.



[This message has been edited by Saline Colors (edited 07-19-2004).]

this is tricky. unfortunalty, it looks kinda bad.

1. hell drop you cold. not too likely bcause of 2.

2. hell fuck you a few more times than bounce ya.

3. this will turn into a great relationship. doesnt look good though.

Oh, call the dude... if he was just trying to hit it and quit it, then it wasn't meant to be. Let love come to you.

Listen up treacle!

Giving it away on the first date is a bad idea...Believe me!

It will get you hurt and there will be rumours that will hurt you further...It's the way people work!

Give it time...Maybe he's playing it cool...Maybe he's telling his mates about how you shagged him on the first date...I don't know for sure...Nor do you.

My advice is wait until at least the third date to jump in the sack with the bloke.

Also...Chill out...If he's as nice a guy as you make him out to be or think he is then he'll text you back.

If he don't...Fuck him off and find someone better darlin'!

Take care.

I'll let you in on a secret: Men think about sex. They think about having sex with nearly every woman they meet.

When you give it up on the first date, there's nothing left for them to think about. You're conquered territory.. it's time to move on. Sure, there are women that are still sought after (in a love way) post-sex but this seems to the exception and not the rule. If he does talk to you again, it'll most likely be for sex.

If you wait, everytime you hang out with him he'll be thinking, "I wonder what ______ is like in bed." It's give you some mysetery. He'll be more apt to want to talk to you and hang out with you in his quest to have sex.

Sometime along the line they notice that you're more than a hole they can stick their dick in and genuinely start to like you.

Or they realize you're annoying and the lay isn't worth the time they're spending with you.

Or they develop no feelings whatsoever but the sex is now more desired than it was before.

Whatever the outcome, you have a better chance of initiating a relationship if you make them wait. If they don't have to put any effort into fucking you, why would they put effort into actually being with you?

Sorry to say but I think you made a bad decision. I hope you learn from this and realize that the longer you keep your legs closed, the better odds you have of finding a worthwhile relationship and not regretting the night before.

Dammit I'm such a slutty loser

If he doesn't ever want to see you again, I would take that as a sign that you need to get some better sex skill going on.

"How could it ever be just us two - I never loved you enough to trust you, we just met and I just fucked you"

-from Eminem's "Superman"

If you were stupid/slutty enough to let someone fuck you on the first date, you deserve to get dumped. Jesus Christ, people.

jeez, some of these replies make me loose whats left of my faith in humanity

sex is just sex, it's not something we should obsess over like we do

either he has real feelings for you and he'll phone you back, or he's just another dumbass guy obsessed with sex whose not worth your damn time and your better off without the headache he'll cause you

and as for this whole "dont give it up on the first date so he'll stick around", why the fuck would that lead to a healthy relationship? either he'll stick around cause he likes you, or he'll stick around till he gets sex and the outcome will be the same

oh, and for the record, i'm a guy, and in my longest running relationship (10 months, hey, i was 18, that was pretty good), we had sex on the first night

If he really likes you, I'm not sure if he would have wanted to have sex on the 1st date. If he was the one trying to get you to have sex with him, I doubt this is gonna be a long lasting relationship. If it was the other way around (you putting the moves on him), I can see him being really happy but confused. If you really like him, I think it's probable that you two will last.

Well its been a few days... things aren't looking too great. Fuck it... I'm going to become a nun lol.

quote:Originally posted by hannahmanson666:

Well its been a few days... things aren't looking too great. Fuck it... I'm going to become a nun lol.

You can star in a pron movie now: "Altar Boy Smackdown.....Hot AnAL rammMING nUns!!!!111!!1Holy Cunt!11!!!!"