okay so this is it, my girl calls me and she saids "we need to talk" FUCK FUCK now shes at her friends house and she crying her pants off

i already know what it is, but i dunno WHAT THE FUCK TO DO!

help!

What did you do?

I feel your pain, man. When my girlfriend broke up with me, she said "we need to talk" also.

Wait a sec, WTF is it??

i didn't do anything! i've been loyal to her ! i didn't cheat nor anything.

FUCK i know she going to break up with me, but its because her mother told her so.

FUCK

she told me " it's hard to say" and then she wont talk to me she starts crying

Well, good luck and keep us posted.

How old is she? Hopefully old enough where if worst comes to worst she could move out. Though it sounds like that may not be an option.



Nokio

My advice is just take it like a man. Don't do any of the "dump her first" bullshit or the "take the sympathy" crap. Just take it like a man and don't bottle your emotions.

Yea, well don't run around crying everywhere. You'll look like a bitch. We can't have that can we? If you're going to cry, go in your room, lock the door and turn the music up. You be alright though man. Happes to everyone.

Hm. Well this is just me, but.. If she was breaking up with me, I'd ask for a reason. If she said her mom, then I'd just say something like "Well I guess it's better that it ends now, before one of us wastes our time, since your moms advice is so much more important than a significant other. Goodbye." And then walk away. Provided of course that you could walk away. Doesn't quite have the same effect if you're just in your house Anyways good luck whatever happens. We're here for ya.

quote:Originally posted by Nokio:

Nokio

Are you like nokia?

Relax. She's probably not even gonna break up with you. She's probably just pregnant or something.

Seriously though, I think it would be best to think about the good times. I know it might make it hurt more than the alternatives, but it's better in the long run because the less hurtful alternatives have bad side effects.

Think of bad times and how you're better apart because she was a bitch: You turn into a bitter ex-bastard

Try not to think about it: AKA Denial, not good.

Just tell yourself that it was great while it lasted, but that you're probably better apart in the long run. We're here for you man. If you get really depressed, find a totser who lives near you and tell them you want to meet so you have a shoulder to cry on...okay, I'm probably the only person on totse faggy enough to go for that. Even the gay members aren't that sensitive. I need a girlfriend. What a sec, when did this post become about me? Fcuk, I missed my stop on my train of thought. Oh well, I'll just get off here.

Dude what if she needs to tell you that she has cancer or that her mom is going to die?

Dont be so self centered. Gosh hahaha ha ha ahhhhhhhhh.

If she breaks up with you tell her you have cancer and that you have 5 months to live and you want to spend it with her. Lol it would be funny after 2 months shave your head and eye brows for the fool effect. Lol it will be really funny after 5 months have your friend call her and tell her that your gone. That way you dont get dumped and she gets what she deserves and her mom will feel bad too. Haha Iam a jene us. I just came up with that too.

Whoa,

Deja-vu,

Anyone else feeling just a tad like Bill Murray?

she´s probably "just" pregneant take it like a man...

quote:Originally posted by [G-Prime]:

I'd ask for a reason. If she said her mom, then I'd just say something like "Well I guess it's better that it ends now, before one of us wastes our time, since your moms advice is so much more important than a significant other. Goodbye." And then walk away.

Best advice for that situation.

quote:Originally posted by Tikolx333:

...fool effect...

Fool effect indeed.

OKAY this is what happen last night. she was crying her ass off, and i had to relay to her best friend everything i said. all she could say was this " it's too hard to say" and then she would start crying. then late night i left her a message to just tell me. she called like 5 minutes later and she told " I can't go out with anymore" then i cried a little and she cried a little more. I dunno i asked " why" she told me, that her mom found out and all this bullcrap and told her she cant have a b/f

Her mom's a fucking bitch. How long were you going out? Is she like 13?

15, and we were going for two months

hey man, i know it sucks losing a girl one way or the other, but at least you werent together like a year or more before she dumped you. just let time roll a little and see if it gets better.

Talk to her mom... Ask her why she said all that stuff, and give a good reason for you to be allowed go out with her... Then talk to your (ex)girlfriend and ask her why she put up with her mom's tyrrany... All I can say...

I swear, kids have no backbone these days. When I was younger my mom tried to impose stupid rules such as not being able to date on me. I argued with her about it, amoung other things, and it usually ended with me being kicked out for a week or two. At the end of it she'd ask me to come back and she'd let me do such thing that we argued about. Of course I never bitched about rules that were actually useful or kept me safe.

That blows. If that happened to me with my girlfriend of 7 months I would flip out. I recommend talking to her Mom and if that doesn't work just go behind her Mom's back and lie, cheat, and steal.

I don't get it. If this happend to me (it never has) I wouldn't even think twice about what her mother said. Why is she even acting like you're broken up? What her mother says has NO bearing on the situation and how you feel about eachother. You act like its the end of the relationship... Who says it has to be? Ignore her mother, pretend like nothing happend.

Her mother dosen't have to know you're going out.

And if your gf is one of those types that always does and respects what her mother says, then you're going to have to talk to her. She'll either have to disobey her mother, if she can handle that (haha *rolls eyes*) or I guess you'll just have to be broken up.

I was guessing someone would have posted this but do some investigating Kosmonova.

Are you 100% sure that's the reason?

I'm not saying this is the case but the whole mom thing could be a cover up for another boy she's seeing. While your feeling sorry for her and yourself she could be out with someone else.

quote:Originally posted by KriminalMinded:

I was guessing someone would have posted this but do some investigating Kosmonova.

Are you 100% sure that's the reason?

I'm not saying this is the case but the whole mom thing could be a cover up for another boy she's seeing. While your feeling sorry for her and yourself she could be out with someone else.

thats what im pondering about too, i dunno,but i asked her last night, "have you been loyal?" and she replied "yes!"

It sounds like she has a paranoid, non-trusting mother. Could be implications there. Your best bet is to find out what the relationship is there and talk with her about her mother and their rel., and take it from there. There is the chance your GF wants to break up but doesn't have the heart to come forthright. Have you met the mother? Does she have a problem with you, that you're aware of? Sensitive sounding shit going on here.

she tells me that her mother doesn't trust her a ne more, no i haven't met her mother cuz she sounds like a real bitch,

they yell at each other like crazy.

I DONT FUCKING KNOW i need some fucking weed, or X or something i feel soo much pain

Dude, I know what it feels like.

But since it was different for me I can't really give you any advice on the subject, other than to persist in trying to yourselves together, or, if it's final that she can't see you, deal with it yourself.

It's not the end of the world, mate you'll get over it. I was playing with knives a bit more frequently after the incident. But it'll get better.

You'll see.

Dude, when you have to start asking your girlfriend "Have you been loyal?", its time to end the relationship.

well she this is the thing, she thinks that i have other girls on the side, since im a really big flirt. but i was just worried and i just wanted to know he she cheated on me or if it for real it over. now i feel fine. we decided to stay friends. but i still am hurt as she is too. i called her again and we both started to cry.

quote:Originally posted by Green Lantern:

Relax. She's probably not even gonna break up with you. She's probably just pregnant or something.



I am soo glad your back. You comrade, are a funny, funny man.

You're all pussies.

Who gives a fuck what her mother says?

well because we did it behind her back, and she got pissed cuz we were going out behind her back

the cancer idea was great.

if you really want to keep her do what I told my friend, which was to get her pregnant. Dont trip though if you mean anything to her after 1month or 2 she'll call you back wanting you to take her back. I guess its your fault though for being pussy whipped, but i know what it feels like to loose an investment. you find another chick to invest in.

FUCKKKKKKK it went really bad!

OKAY so after we broke, like everything was going peachy keen we acted that like nothing happen.

but then in her tone u can hear it that she was kinda hiding something

then one night she told me that she had gotten hooked up with her Bestfriends Godbrother

she told me that she still loved me, and that it wasn't fair for him, because she loved me still.

then she tells me that they went to the movies, and they held hands AND "THATS IT"

she told me that she was really sorry, but she didn't want to lose me

and then i kinda started to hate her, i felt cheated, then my friends were all like that she a bitch, and she stupid and she playing me so i was like

"you know what u fucked up" and then i told her this exactly what you guys told me

"Well I guess it's better that it ends now, before one of us wastes our time, since your moms advice is so much more important than a significant other. Goodbye."

then she called me jerk, and she was like "I GIVE UP!whatever"

My girlfriend always thinks I'm going to break up with her whenever I say "we need to talk". So when I say that she gets that worried face. Then it's usually something stupid.

THERE IS A POSSIBILTY THAT SHE IS SEEING SOMEONE ELSE, IN THAT CASE FIND OUT WHO AND BEAT THA MUTHA FUCKA DOWN, AND MAKE SURE SHE WATCHES IT, WHILE YOU HIT HIM SAY THINGS LIKE "YOU DID THIS TO HIM NOT ME" I DID THAT SHIT IT WAS HELLA FUNNY, BUT IF THATS NOT THE SITUATION, MAYBE YOU SHOULD CALL AND TALK TO HER MOTHER AND TRY TO FIND OUT WHY SHE ISN'T ALLOWED TO DATE, TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL AND ALL THAT NONSENSE, MAYBE HER THEN SHE WILL UNDERSTAND AND ACCEPT YOU."BUT WTF DO I KNOW MY GIRL IS BIENG A BITCH LATELY SO YEAH FUCK IT TRY THAT SHIT"

Fuck that bitch up.(the mom, not your girlfriend. unless your into that....in which that pun seriously hurt.)



If i was you, i'd tell her mom to pound salt and sit on a stick and rotate. It's her daughters life, not the moms.

Cuz, your a bitch. Fuck her mom. If she really loved you she would go out with you regardless of what her mom says. You can find someone who cares about you more.

sounds really bad but whatever you do, dont isolate yourself and dont turn to drugs. when my fiance and broke up, it was cuz she found someone else and didnt tell me. i went to drugs and all i did was drugs and slit my wrists for 2 months, still got scars today but i came to realize that life still goes on, other girlfrinds, new friends, a break-up isnt always a bad thing...

NO! yesterday were got into a fight, and she called me a jerk, and she just stopped talking to me, she going to Hawaii and wont be back for a week, so i dunno, if she will call me.

quote:Originally posted by Kosmonova:

she told me that she still loved me, and that it wasn't fair for him, because she loved me still.

then she tells me that they went to the movies, and they held hands AND "THATS IT"

she told me that she was really sorry, but she didn't want to lose me



GET RID OF THE BIATCH... NOW

Kos, she's a manipulator. Get over the bitch and find someone else.

I'm not calling you an idiot or immature, but you're 15.

I may only be 17, but you have to realize that you're probably gonna be alive for another 50 years. Rememeber the good times, and the bad times forget about them.

From this relationship, you've probably learned something and that's the main thing. You've got the rest of your years to make mistakes, but in the end you'll probably find a relationship which you don't have the same pain in.

When you're older, you won't have dumb parents sticking their nose in (you'll have a ton of other problems!) but you'll be in a more mature world.

Relax. Realize that this relationship won't work after this and that there's someone else worth seeing.

And may the force be with you.

quote:Originally posted by Lazzaro:

My girlfriend always thinks I'm going to break up with her whenever I say "we need to talk". So when I say that she gets that worried face. Then it's usually something stupid.

Ha, you should say "we need to talk" be really serious then build up to it... and when the tension is at its highest and you think shes about to cry, tell her to get you a coke or something equally retarted. Do this everyday for a few weeks.



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quote:Originally posted by ZeroMalarki:

I'm not calling you an idiot or immature, but you're 15.

I may only be 17, but you have to realize that you're probably gonna be alive for another 50 years. Rememeber the good times, and the bad times forget about them.

From this relationship, you've probably learned something and that's the main thing. You've got the rest of your years to make mistakes, but in the end you'll probably find a relationship which you don't have the same pain in.

When you're older, you won't have dumb parents sticking their nose in (you'll have a ton of other problems!) but you'll be in a more mature world.

Relax. Realize that this relationship won't work after this and that there's someone else worth seeing.

And may the force be with you.



but i fucking still feel for her, and i want to completely forget about her, i started talking to new girls and hit on girls, but it's not the same.

but thanks guys for the comments, i kid you not you guys have helped me

Rape her mum.

Get over it man, trust me.

She hooked up with another guy man, that PROVES that she is confused and doesnt know if she really wants to be with you.

If she REALLY wanted to be with you she would have told you straight up about her mom not letting her go out with you, and she would've wanted to find a new way for you guys to be together.

You guys are young and I dont know how experienced you are with eachother, but she's not worth it.

No girl is worth that much pain, and especially if she's playing you now when you guys are only 15, think about any future you guys would have together.

She's a bitch for holding hands with another guy, dont try to talk to her until she tries to talk to you; when she does come to talk to you (which she will), just act like she's a fucking moron, because she is.

quote:Originally posted by g-r-a-m:

Get over it man, trust me.

She hooked up with another guy man, that PROVES that she is confused and doesnt know if she really wants to be with you.

If she REALLY wanted to be with you she would have told you straight up about her mom not letting her go out with you, and she would've wanted to find a new way for you guys to be together.

You guys are young and I dont know how experienced you are with eachother, but she's not worth it.

No girl is worth that much pain, and especially if she's playing you now when you guys are only 15, think about any future you guys would have together.

She's a bitch for holding hands with another guy, dont try to talk to her until she tries to talk to you; when she does come to talk to you (which she will), just act like she's a fucking moron, because she is.

thats what i've been acting like and she gets all mad at me. im justing being mellow and shit. and she gets all pissed and sad. i just want to tell her off, but she not worth it. i say and my friends all say. She in Hawaii now so we cant talk to each other. i really dont care, so fuckkkkkkk that bitch!

Listen, out of personal experience, walk up to her, start talking then casually bring up "I want to the movies with *girl she is insanely jealous of* and we just kinda started holding hands, I'm REALLY(try to give a spark of sarcasm in your voice) sorry, wait for her to respond and say "Wait a minute, I'm not sorry at all!" Start laughing while your walking away while saying things as "Yeah enjoy yourself" or "Have fun playing with your new toy." Seriously, I know you feel for her, I'm about your age, I know what your feelin, but trust me if you stick around, your only going to find out how deep the hole really goes, and it's chock full of razor sharp spike o' pain all the way down followed by a wonderful pool of self doubt, depression, and feelings of worthlessness and stupidity. Trust me friend. you don't want to go this was, lose her for you own good, turn your back and never talk to her again, she is tearing you up, and will only continue to do so. Take it from someone who found out the hard way.

c2

quote:Originally posted by c2:

Listen, out of personal experience, walk up to her, start talking then casually bring up "I want to the movies with *girl she is insanely jealous of* and we just kinda started holding hands, I'm REALLY(try to give a spark of sarcasm in your voice) sorry, wait for her to respond and say "Wait a minute, I'm not sorry at all!" Start laughing while your walking away while saying things as "Yeah enjoy yourself" or "Have fun playing with your new toy." Seriously, I know you feel for her, I'm about your age, I know what your feelin, but trust me if you stick around, your only going to find out how deep the hole really goes, and it's chock full of razor sharp spike o' pain all the way down followed by a wonderful pool of self doubt, depression, and feelings of worthlessness and stupidity. Trust me friend. you don't want to go this was, lose her for you own good, turn your back and never talk to her again, she is tearing you up, and will only continue to do so. Take it from someone who found out the hard way.

c2

well she knew that i had lots of female friends, so she was jealous by that. but here goes the thing, im not talking to her nor anything, but i know for fact she going to come back crawling. and for the record im 17, and she's 15. myyy badd!

smoke alotta pot i suggest.

edit: then go find a beat ass chick to get with.

*note* this works much better with a smokin hot girl.

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quote:Originally posted by greyhat7:

the cancer idea was great.

if you really want to keep her do what I told my friend, which was to get her pregnant. Dont trip though if you mean anything to her after 1month or 2 she'll call you back wanting you to take her back. I guess its your fault though for being pussy whipped, but i know what it feels like to loose an investment. you find another chick to invest in.

Dude see my cancer idea was great. You should do it and keep us posted on totse. Its will be hella cool. Come one please please.