I dont get it. I am attracted to females, and not males. I am a guy so i guess thats normal. I have a relationship with this female partner. We have sex and kiss and love eatchother but theres something wrong. I am not turned on by sex, and i dont realy want to have intercourse. Its not that i have the problem with it, its just that i dont feel a need to reproduce i guess you could say. It doesnt bother me its just that i dont think im normal... Does anyone have this thing that i do? Or know someone similar? I think somethings fucked up with my hormones or something along those lines.

I DON'T HAVE A GOOD RESPONSE TO THIS BUT IF YOU'RE LIFE FEELS EMPTY AND YOU NEED SOMETHING TO DEDICATE YOUR LIFE TO I WOULD SUGGEST OUR REVOLUCION

VIVA LA REVOLUCION!!!!!!

viva zapata

Come on guys its realy bothering me. I had sex with my seingificant other an hour or so ago, and it wasnt all that emotionaly stimulating or anything, i mean i get that conection of love. But for some reason i feel i dont need sex to show my love fer her...

I say you load up on vagria and show your love by haveing a two day fuck fest, i suggest but dont recomend useing a condom cuz they fuckin suck they ruin the feeling.

I can get an erection and fuck just fine. I can cum. I just dont get any kicks from it.

Maybe it's just become a routine. Have you tried something new? Techinques? Stuff like that? Aphrodesiacs? Tantric Sex?

quote:Originally posted by The_Goddess:

Maybe it's just become a routine. Have you tried something new? Techinques? Stuff like that? Aphrodesiacs? Tantric Sex?

It never had a bang in the first place... Not even when i lost my virginity. I dont know whats wrong with me. *slams head in table*

quote:Originally posted by HempMaster:

I dont get it. I am attracted to females, and not males. I am a guy so i guess thats normal. I have a relationship with this female partner. We have sex and kiss and love eatchother but theres something wrong. I am not turned on by sex, and i dont realy want to have intercourse. Its not that i have the problem with it, its just that i dont feel a need to reproduce i guess you could say. It doesnt bother me its just that i dont think im normal... Does anyone have this thing that i do? Or know someone similar? I think somethings fucked up with my hormones or something along those lines.



you spelled each other* wrong.

quote:Originally posted by Cornpuff Mgruff:



you spelled each other* wrong.



You forgot to Cappitalize the y in You.

^capitalize*

quote:Originally posted by HempMaster:



You forgot to Cappitalize the y in You.

Notice that Cornpuff never cares about capitalization. It's the spelling errors people make that bother him. Fucktard.

Cornpuff, I always have and always will salute you. Keep up the good work.

quote:Originally posted by HempMaster:

I dont get it. I am attracted to females, and not males. I am a guy so i guess thats normal. I have a relationship with this female partner. We have sex and kiss and love eatchother but theres something wrong. I am not turned on by sex, and i dont realy want to have intercourse. Its not that i have the problem with it, its just that i dont feel a need to reproduce i guess you could say. It doesnt bother me its just that i dont think im normal... Does anyone have this thing that i do? Or know someone similar? I think somethings fucked up with my hormones or something along those lines.

It could be some sort of personal hangup. So you don't get any pleasure from sex? Because it's not just about reproduction, you know.

quote:Originally posted by deptstoremook:

It could be some sort of personal hangup. So you don't get any pleasure from sex? Because it's not just about reproduction, you know.

Thats basicly it. I mean. Yeah i dont know what i mean. But i get a feeling that sex is over rated.

Hempmaster you are a fool who takes what he has for granted.

Try going 15 years without any poon like me and then you'll start to "get into it". Trust me .

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quote:Originally posted by VladimirIllyichLenin:

Hempmaster you are a fool who takes what he has for granted.

Try going 15 years without any poon like me and then you'll start to "get into it". Trust me .

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Im not taking it for granted. In fact i could care less if i got any poon, thats my problem.

^^^loser.

Hempy, just relax. Why does sex have to be such a intrical part of your life? Is it such a big deal that you're not really into sex?

quote:Originally posted by Little Pea:

^^^loser.

Hempy, just relax. Why does sex have to be such a intrical part of your life? Is it such a big deal that you're not really into sex?

It just bothers me. Just like when i am late for work it bothers me. Or if i fail at something it bothers me.

Hmmm...well, give us some info.

How often to do you masturbate?

How often do you have sex?

Do you get horny/have a sex drive at all?

Yes, speak of your non-partner sexuality. How long are your non-coming stretches? Do you find

yourself having sexual fantasies? Do you have fantasies/dreams about people that when you consider: you are not actually attracted to?

Consider that many long term couples have less sex than when they first began sexing.

Masturbeating has pleasures different than partner thexxth. Have you ever thexxthed yourself for an hour or three?

quote:Originally posted by Little Pea:

Hmmm...well, give us some info.

How often to do you masturbate?

How often do you have sex?

Do you get horny/have a sex drive at all?

Hmm last time was like 3 months ago.

Every couple of days when she kinda forces it on me.

Not realy. I do get an erection from stimulation. But i dont get an urge to do anything about it.



quote:Originally posted by moonmeister:

Yes, speak of your non-partner sexuality. How long are your non-coming stretches? Do you find

yourself having sexual fantasies? Do you have fantasies/dreams about people that when you consider: you are not actually attracted to?

Consider that many long term couples have less sex than when they first began sexing.

Masturbeating has pleasures different than partner thexxth. Have you ever thexxthed yourself for an hour or three?

I can cum like any other person.

No.

No.



Edit- If it helps any, when i was younger i was diagnosed with depression and having a mild schizotypol disorder.

[This message has been edited by HempMaster (edited 07-07-2004).]

Well, everybody is genetically different. This means each individual responds uniquely to a given stimuli.

So, when you don't come it doesn't bother you. Well you could take up not coming or coming less often. Guys are notorious for being less interested in their partners pleasure after an orgasm. You might be a better lover if you forget about pleasing yourself.

Have you become an expert at holding back from coming? You should be an expert if you're like you are.

Are you an expert at * Love-you-long-time *?

I don't think you should classify yourself as "wierd" or "odd" based on how interested you are in sex compared to many other guys. I know that's hard because usually guys are the ones who are pushing for sex and use it as a way of "expressing their love" (if there's any there in the first place) for their girl.

This would probably be more 'comforting' if I were a guy but I'll say it anyway - a lot of the time I feel the same way as you. I think I could go ages without sexual intercourse (not without kissing and all that though), and I'd rather just express my love for him through other ways. I hate it how we can't be intimate with each other without it eventuating into sex. I dunno - it's hard to explain.

I guess that's all for now.

I'm a lot like that with my girlfriend. Whenever we're together, I don't want to make out or screw or anything like that, but I get horny when the oppurtunity presents itself. Its like I want to on some lower, primal level, but the thought of it doesn't appeal to me in the least. When we do, I feel good physically, but mentally and emotionally I don't really enjoy it.

The thought of doing all these things with someone not my girlfriend does appeal to me though. I think I'm bored. Its mean, and it makes me sound like a jackass, but thats how it is. Maybe your a jackass too.

Its not mean, if it's boring then it's boring. You can find ways to spice it up, or find another. I think some people get bored when it becomes very routine, you know like the morning kiss goodbye. Sometimes I find being intimate without actually having sex is more emotionally stimulating than sex itself. There are so many other ways to show someone love. I think alot of people still hold sex as "the ultimate act of love" but nowadays its just so much easier to have sex than to put time and effort into something else so thats what they do. For me, its the connection.. and the connection doesn't mean nor guarantee sex all the time.

Nokio

quote:Originally posted by HempMaster:

...It doesnt bother me...

quote:Originally posted by HempMaster:

Come on guys its realy bothering me.

I'm not reading the rest of this thread.

quote:Originally posted by soul_assassin_girl:

I don't think you should classify yourself as "wierd" or "odd" based on how interested you are in sex compared to many other guys. I know that's hard because usually guys are the ones who are pushing for sex and use it as a way of "expressing their love" (if there's any there in the first place) for their girl.

This would probably be more 'comforting' if I were a guy but I'll say it anyway - a lot of the time I feel the same way as you. I think I could go ages without sexual intercourse (not without kissing and all that though), and I'd rather just express my love for him through other ways. I hate it how we can't be intimate with each other without it eventuating into sex. I dunno - it's hard to explain.

I guess that's all for now.



Maybe im just feminine...

quote:Originally posted by Green Lantern:

I'm not reading the rest of this thread.

You are picking of segments that only make sence in context. The fact that im not interesting isnt bothering me. But the fact that it isnt NORMAL does.



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Theres no such thing as "normal". And hell you've already had 2 people identify with you. Both male AND female!.

Nokio

quote:Originally posted by Nokio:

Its not mean, if it's boring then it's boring. You can find ways to spice it up, or find another. I think some people get bored when it becomes very routine, you know like the morning kiss goodbye. Sometimes I find being intimate without actually having sex is more emotionally stimulating than sex itself. There are so many other ways to show someone love. I think alot of people still hold sex as "the ultimate act of love" but nowadays its just so much easier to have sex than to put time and effort into something else so thats what they do. For me, its the connection.. and the connection doesn't mean nor guarantee sex all the time.

Nokio

God damn, this is exactly what I was trying to say but mine just turned out as gibberish haha.

I supose im making something out of nothing. My girl says im a good lover, and thats all that matters... right?

quote:Originally posted by Nokio:

Sometimes I find being intimatenot without actually having sex is more emotionally stimulating than sex itself. There are so many other ways to show someone love. I think alot of people still hold sex as "the ultimate act of love" but nowadays its just so much easier to have sex than to put time and effort into something else so thats what they do. For me, its the connection.. and the connection doesn't mean nor guarantee sex all the time.

Nokio

Women often complain that men don't spend enough time in foreplay. What with the average time spent in * Intercourse * being under * FIVE Minutes...one could see many women losing interest.

Many Marriage Councellors say it isn't uncommon for busy couples to go many months without any sex. To serious cost in intimacy.

I understood ya soul.



Nokio

quote:Originally posted by soul_assassin_girl:

...This would probably be more 'comforting' if I were a guy...

Don't worry. Just about anything that comes out of a female's mouth (or from her keyboard as it were), on TOTSE, is pure gold.

I'm surprised that cindy hasn't asked this yet, as she is the to usually ask it when a guy posts about having no sex drive/can't cum/can't get it up), but are you on any medication?

quote:Originally posted by Little Pea:

Don't worry. Just about anything that comes out of a female's mouth (or from her keyboard as it were), on TOTSE, is pure gold.

I'm surprised that cindy hasn't asked this yet, as she is the to usually ask it when a guy posts about having no sex drive/can't cum/can't get it up), but are you on any medication?



Used to be on Meds for Mild shizo and Depression. Yeah i dont know what that was about.

stop taking all of your meds and see if it gets better.

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[This message has been edited by deadlycindy (edited 07-08-2004).]

Dont let it get you down man, everyone is unique. I'm totally shutdown and pretty closed when it comes to people. Like I can interact with people fine, but I dont like getting personal with people and even if that has not a fucking thing to do with your post, my message is just keep on rolling man dont let it get you down

^^^^

Good advice, thank you.



quote:Originally posted by Xtreme:

stop taking all of your meds and see if it gets better.



Ive been off them for a few months, but the effects dont completly roll off for about a year. Maybe thats it. Damn medications.

A buddy of mine is bi-polar and his medication treats that very well but it does have odd side effects like changing his personality, not wanting to sleep, etc. I wish you the best...

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Perhaps abstain from sex and see if you miss it? Maybe you're doing it too often to be that excited (this may not make sense to some of you guys, but it happens). You know how after you've just come you're not horny at all, and can't fuck for (at the very very least) a quarter of an hour or so? You need time to recharge. Maybe this guy just needs a really, really long time to recharge. Don't fuck her for a week, see what happens.

quote:Originally posted by stephanina:

Perhaps abstain from sex and see if you miss it? Maybe you're doing it too often to be that excited (this may not make sense to some of you guys, but it happens). You know how after you've just come you're not horny at all, and can't fuck for (at the very very least) a quarter of an hour or so? You need time to recharge. Maybe this guy just needs a really, really long time to recharge. Don't fuck her for a week, see what happens.



Umm, i just went like 3 months...

3 months...!!! Didn't she get awful sore? Did you stop for food or sleep or anything?

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quote:Originally posted by moonmeister:

{i]3 months[/i]...!!! Didn't she get awful sore? Did you stop for food or sleep or anything?

No thats how long we didnt go for. We had sex 2 days ago, and yes she is sore. What are you getting at?

Just getting at silliness. As in: you had sex continuously for 3 months.

So, how long did 1: foreplay last? 2: how long did sex last? 3: did you hold yourself back from orgasm? how many times?

Is the orgasm better when you hold back a number of times?

Would your basic food choices be considered well balanced? Didn't you say you don't smoke

much pot anymore? Does pot make much difference to your thexxth?

I think moonie may be on to something. I've noticed that smoking lotsa weed can seriously diminish my libido. I dunno why this happens, but maybe this could be your problem?

HempMaster, I can totally relate to your situation. I'm attracted to girls, but not too interested in getting sexual. With me though, it's an intimacy thing. I could only go through with sex with someone I trusted, and I have yet to find anyone I'd even be interested in getting to know better/trusting. Not a big deal, but sometimes I do feel bad about it because of the images of "a healthy sexual male" I'm bombarded with by the media.

Dude Iam not trying to be mean but maybe your gay.

If you don't wanna fuck then don't... simple as that. I mean, if you can live with your hand for the REST of your ENTIRE life then go for it. Me? I need a change of pace every once in a while, and that would be, as you say... poon.

If I was to mention...Sheep...would it be too soon?

quote:Originally posted by moonmeister:

Just getting at silliness. As in: you had sex continuously for 3 months.

So, how long did 1: foreplay last? 2: how long did sex last? 3: did you hold yourself back from orgasm? how many times?

Is the orgasm better when you hold back a number of times?

Would your basic food choices be considered well balanced? Didn't you say you don't smoke

much pot anymore? Does pot make much difference to your thexxth?

An hour or so. 2 and a half to three hours. Held myself back like once. Yes. Yes. Nope like once a month. Not realy.

quote:Originally posted by SkiPpYP:

HempMaster, I can totally relate to your situation. I'm attracted to girls, but not too interested in getting sexual. With me though, it's an intimacy thing. I could only go through with sex with someone I trusted, and I have yet to find anyone I'd even be interested in getting to know better/trusting. Not a big deal, but sometimes I do feel bad about it because of the images of "a healthy sexual male" I'm bombarded with by the media.

Hmmm. Thats basicly it. Exept i do trust her, i just am more of a romantic. I "get off" on making her smile, bringing her flowers and such.

And to the person who asked if im gay, I can assure you that im not.

How does your girlfriend feel about adding another to your relationship?

I'm thinking: Hot Ewe.

Are you physically fit? I always feel more up &

horny after regular serious activity.

quote:Originally posted by HempMaster:

I dont get it. I am attracted to females, and not males. I am a guy so i guess thats normal. I have a relationship with this female partner. We have sex and kiss and love eatchother but theres something wrong. I am not turned on by sex, and i dont realy want to have intercourse. Its not that i have the problem with it, its just that i dont feel a need to reproduce i guess you could say. It doesnt bother me its just that i dont think im normal... Does anyone have this thing that i do? Or know someone similar? I think somethings fucked up with my hormones or something along those lines.

hey man you just have erectile dysfunction or have been smokin too much weed

quote:Originally posted by rockermansixbillion:

hey man you just have erectile dysfunction or have been smokin too much weed

No i dont have ED. And i quite months ago.

quote:Originally posted by HempMaster:

Thats basicly it. I mean. Yeah i dont know what i mean. But i get a feeling that sex is over rated.



I share the same idea over sex. It means nothing to me, nor do I feel it ever will. I wouldn't say it's anything to worry about. Some peoples lives revolve around sex, others could care less about getting any at all. Everyone is different, and if you are happy with the way things are, then there is nothing wrong.

If you're looking for possible reasons on the other hand for your lack of interest, you may want to take a quick glance at your username. That right there tends to have an effect on you. I have schizoid personality disorder, so I don't have any interest in sexual activities or contact.

But no, I doubt there is anything wrong with you.

quote:Originally posted by HempMaster:

I dont get it. I am attracted to females, and not males. I am a guy so i guess thats normal. I have a relationship with this female partner. We have sex and kiss and love eatchother but theres something wrong. I am not turned on by sex, and i dont realy want to have intercourse. Its not that i have the problem with it, its just that i dont feel a need to reproduce i guess you could say. It doesnt bother me its just that i dont think im normal... Does anyone have this thing that i do? Or know someone similar? I think somethings fucked up with my hormones or something along those lines.

It is possible that it's a hormone imbalance. In all seriousness, you might have too much estrogen in your system. A lot of women feel the same way that you described.

However, there's also a good possibility that you're just not at your sexual peak yet. I have a friend (male) who's perfectly straight, but isn't crazy about sex. I mean, he likes it, but he doesn't have to have it. He's content to you just be with the girl.

If you're worried about this, then call your doctor. They can run tests to check your hormone levels. But honestly, I wouldn't worry. As long as both of you are happy, then what's the problem?