i have low self confidence and because of it have some performance anxiety.. which basically means for those of you who don't know, makes me worry so much about performance and doing great job, or if i will please her, if i can maintain a good erection.. causes me to lose interest in being intimate and sometimes erection..

i used to never have this problem when i used to have oral sex performed on me and such by other girls, although i have never had sex. (im 17 for those who are wondering) it happened one time a while back with a new girl and we were going to have sex for the first time. it was in a bad situation, in the backseat of a car with other people around.. i was uncomftorble and really nervous =\. i kind of choked and didn't go through with it. i told her about it and she was understanding, and even though i should jus shrug it off it has kind of been a downward spiral for me ever since..

how can i snap out of this? i was thinking of maybe trying some umm.. supplements 1-2 times just to help me get my confidence back.. i just dont know how to deal with this.

Try not masturbating for a little while before you have sex. You'll be so goddamn horny that you won't be able to think about anything except for that sweet, sweet pussy.

Or you could get stoned and fuck. That's always fun.

quote:Originally posted by Little Pea:

Or you could get stoned and fuck. That's always fun.

For some people, that works wonders. For others, though, like me, sex is the last thing on my mind when I'm stoned. I just want to sit there and.. well not do anything. Cuddling would be awesome, though.

Not jerking it, though, is a pretty good idea.

Don't masturbate for a while. Try to build up a good stock of sexual "tension" only to release it inside someone who wants it.

And relax, it's just sex. Should be fun before anything else. You may blow it your first time, but so what? There'll be more times.

When you find someone you're completely comfortable with, this problem should go away. By completely comfortable I mean someone who won't be making you worry about your performance and 'doing a great job'. This is likely to happen if you build up a strong relationship with a girlfriend, instead of attempting to lose your virginity on a one night stand. The girl you were with that night in the car was pressuring you to have sex publically, pretty much, and to judge your performance based on that one night is unfair on yourself. You admitted that it was a bad situation anyway so you shouldn't be assuming that every sexual encounter is going to be similar.

I don't know if you can "snap out of this" mindframe by taking supplements; what kind of supplements would they be anyway? It sounds like this is a psychological - not physical - problem, so I think the only way to fix this is to try what I suggested and build a strong relationship with a girl.

That's my advice, take it or leave it .

I don't know about others but the "dont masturbate for a while" trick didn't work for me. I left it alone for 6 days i think, and I still had problems keeping an erection when the moment came.

I found it was easier to keep up and harder, the day after masturbating and especially being sober.

tribulus mike.