I'm a loner, and I don't mind, except in getting a girlfriend. I've never had one, and never had any action, and I'm 16. I don't talk much and it translates to everyone else as disinterest.

I find myself incompatible with everyone else because they all belong to a group of friends.

Even though some girls show interest in me, they hang out with other people and joke around and hug and stuff, and I just don't do that. When they try to make small talk, I have no idea what to say, so I just answer and I don't ask questions lest I make myself look like a tool.

If only I could meet somebody like me

The school year is out now, and I'm headed for eleventh grade. Got any tips for next year?

Sorry about this. There are probably millions of topics like this. Thank you for taking the time

Figure out why you want a girlfriend, and what you have to offer one. I talk to a lot of guys like you, and I've come to the conclusion that some people just aren't in their element for relationships in high school, which is a limited social milieu. College will present many more options.

I'm not sure what you're looking for, but the smart, quiet, interesting girls aren't going to be in the middle of the crowd. They're hanging out in out-of-the-way places, and probably in the library at lunch time. They may not be the hottest and most fashionable, but they may offer good company (in many ways).

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quote:Originally posted by McLaren:

I've never had one, and never had any action, and I'm 16. I don't talk much and it translates to everyone else as disinterest.

More late-daters out there than you'd think. I didn't get my first anything till I was 15, and I know a lot of guys and girls in the same place as you are now.

I personally don't mind quiet or shy guys. I always found the silent ones kind of intriguing.

^ I agree with you, the silent ones are always the ones whom i "notice" first.

I'm the same way man. I'm not really a lonor and I know how to talk to girls. I usualy use my randomness,it might work for you.

"blah blah blah blah" said someone. "nah I don't like blueberry pie" said i. "what are you tal....." "shhhhhhhhhhhhhh.....they'll hear us" "who will hear us" "so hows life!" it works for me I guess. It always makes whomever im talking to laugh,I guess it's just my way of talking to people.Just try to be outgoing I guess..

I have no advice, because I am you McLaren.

I just keep things inside, and I've been lucky enough on a few occasions to share that, but never on anything more than a sexual level, which is what I crave (relationships, romance, etc.)

First, consider if you actually want a girlfriend. At 16, you're probably just wanting to get laid. Getting girls is all about confidence and knowing what to say; the ugliest guy in the world can get with a gorgeous girl as long as he appears confident and can use his personality to his advantage. Also, if you have problems keepign a conversation with a girl, then just find things to talk about that you both know well, such as mutual friends, movies, etc.

quote:Originally posted by McLaren:

I'm a loner, and I don't mind, except in getting a girlfriend. I've never had one, and never had any action, and I'm 16. I don't talk much and it translates to everyone else as disinterest.

I find myself incompatible with everyone else because they all belong to a group of friends.

Even though some girls show interest in me, they hang out with other people and joke around and hug and stuff, and I just don't do that. When they try to make small talk, I have no idea what to say, so I just answer and I don't ask questions lest I make myself look like a tool.

If only I could meet somebody like me

The school year is out now, and I'm headed for eleventh grade. Got any tips for next year?

Sorry about this. There are probably millions of topics like this. Thank you for taking the time

Dude suck it up and take one for the team, (the team being yourself and your testicles) if you see a girl you want, infiltrate her clique.

I believe it to be very rare to find a girl that does not have a group of friends that she melds well with. So stick your neck out there and stop being a loner for a little while. If it doesnt get you what your looking for you can always go back to the way you used to try and aquire a girlfriend.

Of course there are those loner girls out there. But as I said before most girls have a core group of friends, which you will ave to deal with if you ever hope to get anywhere with the girl your after.

Very unlikely that a girl will find you so irresistible, that she just becomes a loner to suit your needs.

The sad fact is you actually have to try to get a girl usually, and if your not willing to try, then my friend you already are behind in this race, in which you are starting in last place already.

Also if you have nothing to talk about, you can always try the bullshit route. Which is talking about something that sounds interesting and keeps their attention, but they have no real clue about, and also most of the time that you don't know what the fuck your talking about either.

10% what you say, 90% how you look while saying it.

Another thing I wanted to mention is that don't just take one persons advice, take all of our advice (unless you feel it to be crap then by all means don't use it). Mix it all up slosh it around and then decide what parts you think will work best for your situation.



Snow



[This message has been edited by Capt Snow (edited 07-04-2004).]

quote:Originally posted by danieltxhc:

First, consider if you actually want a girlfriend. At 16, you're probably just wanting to get laid. Getting girls is all about confidence and knowing what to say; the ugliest guy in the world can get with a gorgeous girl as long as he appears confident and can use his personality to his advantage. Also, if you have problems keepign a conversation with a girl, then just find things to talk about that you both know well, such as mutual friends, movies, etc.

You know if I didn't know better, I would think that you completely ripped that directly from a post I made no more than 2 hours ago in another thread. Almost word for word. But thats what good advice usually is, Common Knowledge.

Snow

^this is true....

However, you will not realize this until you go thru it. You sound a lot like me. Now, you need to realize that you are a loner, as am I. Loner means Lone(by yourself). You cant be alone with someone else, it makes you unhappy. But if you want to get laid, just get drunk and be sloppy over some girl, it works. THen wait another until you need some more pussy, and repeat.