I noticed something: Most people find it difficult or "daunting" to talk to someone after you've actually thought about it than if you simply walk up to someone and talk without thinking about it. But if you think of it the other way it's not really that hard because if someone started talking to you, most of the time (unless you're having a bad day) you'd have a casual conversation...

so why is it so different?

i have found that true because you think about it and what you are gonna say and worry.but if you just go up and be nice and shit you will be fine.

then sometimes you get those deadbeat conversations like:

"yeah..."

(pause)

"uh huh..."

(pause & walk away)

of course if someone knew all the answers they would be selling some brand of self help.

its called breaking the ice for a reason.