I have this problem, i was with this gril for about 3 years, shes 18 months older than me, and she left me earlier this year. I have eczema quite bad, and she always found it hard to get close to me, but kept assuring me it was a problem with her, she had the same problem with all boys, and would probably never let another boynear her in the way she did with me cause of it, so i believed her.

Anyway she dumped me a month or two back, but never really let me get over, she kept reeling me back in, tellin me she loved me but she didnt wanna be my girlfriend. So anyway two weeks ago she went to ibiza, she kept txtin me with the usual shit sayin she didnt want to be near any other boys, and then the txts just stopped, so i rang her and some guy answered the fone, i rang it later and asked her who it was, she said he was just some guy in her and her friends apartment drinkin.

This week she told me she spent the entire week alone with him, she admitted to gettin close to him and stuff, but didnt admit to havin sex with him (i dont really believe her) apparently he lives not too far from home, and their going to meet soon.



I just had to air this somewhere as i neglected a lot of friends over her in time, and lost them, basically i ripped apart, and now im paranoid that the difficulty she had in gettin close to me was because of me, and my condition, that and the fact shes with this other person now, whos four years older than her. Well i just had to get that out somehow as i dont think ive ever felt so fucking shitty in my whole life. Thanks if u read this far.

this is one of the times in your life where copious amounts of alcohol are called for.

3 days of good whiskey and sad music will get it out of your system a bit.

it sucks and we've all been there.even after 20 years it still hurts.

yeah il keep that in mind, but i still dont think il ever trust a girl again, in a sense of letting her get close to me, not after this.

well as someone else here said recently -at some point the stupidity gene will kick in again.

its called being human.

im not talking about trusting girls in general, im talking about how i think i shouldnt have trusted her when she said the reason she found it difficult to get intimate with me was her problem, and nothing to do with my eczema, i duno whats fucking with my mind more, the fact that she probably lied about that or the fact shes with someone else now.

If you neglected your friends to the point of losing them, you were probably too clingy for her.

i probably was and i wont deny it, she was my first gf as well

Whoa.. whats eczema? And, if she really loved you then that wouldn't bother her.

quote:Originally posted by InimitableBallerina:

Whoa.. whats eczema? And, if she really loved you then that wouldn't bother her.

a couple seconds on a search engine: http://health.yahoo.com/health/centers/skin_and_beauty/411.html

I know, looks like she didnt love me then, love is blind which is why i probably was too dumb to see that.

There ought to be a law against dumping someone and "reeling them back in". It could be called "emotional fraud". People are quite vulnerable after being dumped. Some are fortunate enough to be hardened enough to not be reeled back in, but most people aren't.

Seems there's a lot of this going on. Maybe that's because it's summer, and the end of the school year makes it easier to bring relationships to a conclusion.

So I'll just say what I've been saying to everyone else. It's normal to torture yourself over the "whys", "did she ever love me" and whatnot. It's all messing with your head. It just needs time to run out of steam on it's own, but for what it's worth, obsessing about it isn't going to change anything. No need to continue to search for answers that aren't really there.

May I comment that your topic's title and your nick are assorted very well ?

no pun intended with the tile, and deadly cindy one of the things botherin me is learing that one of the girls i really thought wasnt shallow was and i doubt il ever trust females again in that sense.

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quote:Originally posted by roadkill:

no pun intended with the tile, and deadly cindy one of the things botherin me is learing that one of the girls i really thought wasnt shallow was and i doubt il ever trust females again in that sense.

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You know, the whole "shallow" comment really pisses me off. People call me shallow all the time for the stupidest reasons. I didnt want to hook up with my friends cousin because she had a wierd looking chin. He called me shallow for it. Situations like that have happened to me alot. Is it shallow that i dont like her because she has a wierd chin? If i disliked her as a person yes, but I can look at a girl and tell you if im sexually interested in her or not. I cant help what turns me on and what doesnt. If something about a person turns me off sexually how in the fuck does that make me shallow.

Sorry im rambling. I really hate being called shallow, because im my mind im not shallow. I just cant control what turns me and what doesnt. And suddenly I get called shallow for not have the urge to fuck her brains out because im not attracted to her. Bullshit. But you know it probablly doesnt help that my last name is Shallow. Seriously my last name is Shallow.

Well even if a shallow person cant help what they are, it doesnt excuse them lying about it instead of being upfront.

edit: and you come into this thread as if i directly called YOU a shallow person.

"i hate being called shallow"

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