I have never given it, but I will 4 days from now. I am really terrified that I will do something wrong and fuck up the whole mood, so I bought the DVD "Nina Hartley's Guide to Better Cunnilingus", and it really doesnt tell you what to do and what not to do. It just explains parts of the pussy, and some guy goes down on a girl and she "orgasms" like 2 times. Basically, it just tells you to wait before inserting your fingers until she is getting hot, and to suck on the clitoris lightly, and they dont get into multiple orgasms or anything like of that nature. Thats pretty much it.

Can you people (both male and female) add some tips on what to do and what not to do when you are trying to please a girl with your mouth? Maybe you females can explain what you like done to you/what you dont like done to you or what increases the pleasure/what decreases the pleasure. I want to be one of those people that know what they are doing down there, because I want this girl to be really happy with me, and I want her to be able to say "my boyfriend gives head like a crazy beast" or something like that. I appreciate your help.

Read the Sex Archives ( http://www.totse.com/bin/bbs/forumdisplay.cgi?action=topics&number=A%3A000002&SUBMIT=Go ). This can't be stressed enough.

I searched through the archives, and there really wasnt any good information there. I was looking for techniques, do's and dont's, that sort of stuff.

quote:Originally posted by ripple:

I searched through the archives, and there really wasnt any good information there. I was looking for techniques, do's and dont's, that sort of stuff.

Don't bite hard.

quote:Originally posted by ripple:

I searched through the archives, and there really wasnt any good information there. I was looking for techniques, do's and dont's, that sort of stuff.

Oh... Hmmm... Well, the archive has tips, more or less... But techniques?

Hmmm, you'll have to wait until one of the many totse girls wake up... But from what I remember you want to get her to tell you what feels good, and what doesn't.

Don't be shy about it, you're already sticking your head in her crouch, why not have her tell you what she wants you to do?

All women are different (even clones. ), so what might work of Cindy might make Lilly yawn. Your girl, and all others you ever have, will be different.

Ok, stand by for (hopefully) some techniques.

Do the abc's with your tongue... but don't start singing the song and don't get pre-occupied with it. Because who wants to hear "now I've sung my abc's next time won't you sing with me?" when they're gettin' eaten?

My girl is not that open for some reason, she will keep saying "I dont know" when I ask her what she likes/dislikes.

Is it true that you just dont slip your fingers in there until she is getting into it? I am also assuming tongue-fucking feels good? Damn girls, mount up.

Basically, I think it's a learning experience as you go. Each girl is different. You have to experiment with different techniques, sucking, switching tongue direction, using the tip, or the middle, to see what she likes best. Gage her reactions to what you do. She will tell you if it doesn't feel good, or you'll be able to tell if she isn't enjoying it. I'm the girl's point of view, so maybe the guys can help you a little more.

I am not big on "tongue fucking" personally. I like more attention to the clit itself, like I said, each girl is different.

Don't just stick to her clitoris, move around, when she's getting into it stop, what you're doing and kiss her stomach gently, then move back down. Use your fingers to, maybe only two. When you're fingering her rub her G-spot, make the come here motion when you're fingers are inside her. At the same time as fingering lick/suck her clit, slow down and speed up every now and then, just to keep her on her toes.

The most important thing is to enjoy it, don't worry about it for the next four days, just forget about it and it should come naturally after a few try's.

Good look mate!

.~ESO~.

The most important tools for successful cunnilingus: Your EARS. Your BRAIN. THEN your tongue (and lips and fingers).

Listen to the sounds she makes. You'll get good at figuring out if you're in the right place or not, where you should go if you're not, what speed to go, what pressure to apply, the 5th digit of Pi, etc.

Use your brain, when it comes to female anatomy and the knowledge you'd better have of it, things you shouldn't do, signs of arousal, what it means when her hips move however, etc. Also, for fuck's sake, DON'T STOP DOING WHATEVER YOU'RE DOING WHEN SHE'S CLIMAXING!! It's akin to a woman suddenly sllllooooooowwwwwwwing down and taking a year to move her mouth completely up and down your shaft, when she was about to make you cum by going fast, as in, "Headbanging to "Angel of Death" by Slayer" fast. In a word, not desireable. You "stop" when she pulls your face away from her hypersensitive, thrice-climaxed, can't-take-no-more clit. Not a moment sooner. Unless she tells you to.

Also, I tried the "licking the alphabet" thing when I was younger, with some success; that's basically licking the shape of an "A, B, C, D", etc, either over her entire vulva, or just on the clit. When clit-focused, don't forget that you have fingers. Use them. You're looking for a man named Grafenberg. He's about two inches inside, on the upper vaginal wall. Motion for him to "come here" with those fingers.

I hate giving this basic, vanilla advice; I kind of honed my techniques over the years and got really fucking good at it, but I feel like a bad teacher of it.

Basically, relax. Enjoy her, by the way. Just be responsive to her. She'll help you out in her own ways.

Oh, and if you can roll your tongue, you'll be on your way to sex goddery. But don't worry about that yet.

I hate you, by the way. I really, really, really eating my "Italian Dessert", if you will. Firenze!

-IR/Bleedthrough

I LOVE TONGUE FUCKING!!!

I'd do it.

Build stamina. Sometimes your position is easier if you put a pillow under her hips/rear (assuming she's lying on her back). This may keep you from having to keep your neck at an uncomfortable angle.

quote:Originally posted by deadlycindy:

Build stamina. Sometimes your position is easier if you put a pillow under her hips/rear (assuming she's lying on her back). This may keep you from having to keep your neck at an uncomfortable angle.

The pillow is good advice!

Eating pussy is one of the most pleasurable experiences that a woman can give a man. Besides a blw job. When they keep it clean and shave it for you it is something that you will grow to love maybe more than the fucking itself. You can make her come so easily with your tongue and you can get off too just from he reactions. Man, I haven't eaten pussy for so long... shit, what I would give.

The clit is the spot you want to consentrate on. Sure, you spend some time kissing her vulva (pussy lips), sucking each one into you mouth gently while you use your fingers to apply a little pressure on the outside in the right spot. But it's the clit that will call the cows home man. You gently suck it into your mouth and then let it go. YTou lick it up and down one side at a time, You do this for awhile as you just palm the lower part of her belly or her sweet lucious thighs. You can even learn to flick your tongue againt the tip of her clit at the right moment. It manipulation man, it's all manipulation. You will be able to feel that thing get hard and lengthen in your mouth. You'll taste her too. That's when you put a couple of fingers into her. Turn them up where the soft part of your finger tips are pressing against the underside of her clit. You make gentle but firm circuler motions against the topside of her pussy.

You see, the clit runs about 4 inches, some say 8, along the top of the outside.

As well, you have the same on the under (inside) side. This is something, if done right, that she will love you forever for. Yeah, stick to her clit and her lips (pussy) and you won't go wrong. Sticking your tongue into her does absolutely no good. In fact, she can't even feel it. You can get a good taste of her thick sticky creame, but that's for you, not her.

Good luck brother. Let me know how it turns out!

Lose the chewing gum before you get down.

Look up how to find her g-spot...trip your nails...the alphabet tip is a good one...

Get your finger really wet with her pussy juice and stick it in her mouth...and/or tounge kiss her after your tongue has been inside her pussy...

jesus christ mgr33 if you got rid of all the parts in that that gave away the "instructions"-feel, i think you could pass that off as erotica haha. that was pretty damn good ...

first you have to get her in the mood, kiss, nuzzle, whisper in her ear; tell her she's beautiful, turns you on. Kiss her thighs, moving inward. Blow lightly on her legs. Just move slowly and let her get into it. Once you are down there, go around the outside with your tongue and tease her. When she's really into it and she's moving her hips toward you then focus on the clit. Let you mouth explore, be gentle, yet passionate. Experience is the only way you can learn to do it right. Have fun.

How long should I make it last when eating her out? I dont want to make it boring by overdoing it, but I dont want to make it too short.

Also, when you people say stop while giving it sometimes, what does that do? Just make her want it more?

Do it for as long as you both enjoy it, and don't stop while doing it, just slow down and focus on other areas of her body.

Even if she says another guy's name, just keep going.

DONT DO IT u will get mouth aids and other diseases !!!

LOL^^ That was uhh, yea. Why would you keep going? That's like if you're fucking a chick and you're like "OHHH LISA!!" and she's like "It's Linda..."

Mouth AIDs? You are a dumbass...

Before u start lick her naval & slowly move down with your tongue licking her body...when you get there lick here inner thighs first...then gently suck on her pussy lips...after that start your tongue work on her clit...alternate between licking & sucking it...

If youre doing well she'll want u to keep going...

quote:Originally posted by Man Cheese:

Mouth AIDs? You are a dumbass...

and ur probably someone with aids or herpes

quote:Originally posted by MrVitrol:

DONT DO IT u will get mouth aids and other diseases !!!

Oh god that made me laugh.

hmmmm let's see...

- do not lick like a dog. It's not sexy.

- when she moans, it means she likes it, so keep doing whatever you're doing.

- if she grabs your hair, she likes it.

- try circular motions with your tongue... it's a common technique for female masturbation (meaning girls usually rub themselves with their fingers in a circular motion)

- don't finger her right away. Get her warmed up a little, and when you think she's getting closer to coming, let your fingers linger a little on the outside then put them in gently.

- don't go too fast!!!!!

- don't worry about it. If you're nervous, she won't be able to get into it. You can't really go wrong. Just make sure you listen to her reactions to things- trust me, you'll be able to tell if she likes what you're doing.

Now what's a tactful way to let the guy know that what he's doing is not pleasurable, or worse, uncomfortable/painful?

The "shoulder tap"? Distract him with an amusing anecdote? Distract him with "Let's skip the foreplay and fuck"?

quote:Originally posted by mgr33:

Sticking your tongue into her does absolutely no good. In fact, she can't even feel it. You can get a good taste of her thick sticky creame, but that's for you, not her.

Good luck brother. Let me know how it turns out!



Bullshit. My girl goes insane when my tounge goes inside her. But this is the same girl thats too tight to take two fingers.

Just dont puke all over, on second thought, do it it'll be sexay

Cindy: The "Stick your feet on his shoulders, push him away, and tell him he has to work harder to please you" approach works. Emasculation = physical rebuke for said emasculation = female ejaculation for you. Asstral projection rules.

quote:Originally posted by miss_kitten:

[B]hmmmm let's see...

- do not lick like a dog. It's not sexy.

How many have u tried?

Always, I repeat, always drop a wet finger in her mouth so she can taste herself during orgasm...

quote:

"Now what's a tactful way to let the guy know that what he's doing is not pleasurable, or worse, uncomfortable/painful?"

Good question. Try asking/telling him to do something that you know you like, chances are he's willing to oblige and if you continuously suggest him to do it a few times (and make sure he knows you definately enjoy it) he may forego what he *thinks* is pleasurable to you and actually give you pleasure in a way he knows you love.

Just a suggestion. I know I'm happy to change something if asked or told to.

Nokio