I've never hurt anyone in my life, but I keep getting hurt faster then a fucking bullet trian.

My girlfriend visited her cousin on thursday, and was staying till saturday. So, I wanted to hang out wit her on saturday when she got home, but she was going to go to a park with her 2 friends untill 5, where then shed call me and we could hang out. Well, at about 7, I had to call her, where I found out that apparently she already had plans tonight. We yelled and fought but she wouldnt budge and wouldnt relize that we already had plans tongiht. So, she just totally blows me off. Now, when I get home, she calls me on the phone. She could barely talk and was slurring like crazy. She wouldn't tell me why either. I was trying to talk to her about how I was mad because she ditched me, but she sounded like she could care less because she was just breathing real heavy and mumbling words out. Finally, her phone died. After 10 mins of waiting for her to call back, I called her cell, where her mom picked up. I asked to talk to my girlfriend, but her mom told me she couldn't talk right now because she was laying on the floor for some reason. I knew it right then and there. But I went online and talked to some friends about it, trying to calm down, when her friend got online, the one she ditched me for. From her, I found out that my girlfriend had ditched me to go out with her friend, to meet up with some 19 year olds guys (girls are 16) they had JUST met at the park that day. my gf then drank with them and hung out untill baiscally she had to go home, and called me.

I'm so fucking pissed off right now. I don't even know what to do. Part of me wants to just break down and cry, the other part wants to smash someones head in. Yeah, so why am I so mad becasue of this? Because she promised me she wouldnt drink unless I was there becuz she does stupid shit when shes drunk. I also havent seen her since thursday, and we had plans, so she just blows those off completly to hang out with her friends, the ones she was already with all day, and to go drink with 19 year olds she BARELY knew. I dont know what to do right now. I want to go crazy, I want to fucking smash something in so hard.......... my mind is running wild so much right now...... my emotions are going crazy and im TIRED of getting hurt....... please help me out totse.....

Burn her house down.

quote:Originally posted by Cutter De Blanc:

Burn her house down.

Does everyone totse have to be a dick to someone who is just seeking some help?

You won't get shit by being a grouch to her. Don't be angry at her because she went out with friends to have fun, it'll just make her resent you.

It seems like you guys have some underlying issues in your relationship, being angry and stubborn probably won't help and might result in you breaking up. She'll probably ring you tommorow, and if she does (make sure you're settled down by then) talk to her about it and say your mind.

All I'm saying is don't blow a relationship with a girl you like just because of your pride. Hope it works out!

First thing... chill out... NOW. Ive mad myself mad enough to punch a concrete support pole in my basement and break my knuckle, and ive been depressed enough to cut myself. Both of these things were stupid. Dont take it out on her either. Talk to her tomoro. Keyword is talk... nothing will ahppen if you yell or n e shit like that. Get her to talk about it though. Tell her that you wont deal w/ this shit if she says she wont talk to you. Once you are tlaking, figure out why she would do this. If worst comes to worst, this girl isnt who you thought she was, but hopefully it will ahev been a mistake... but dont clear it off the record books, b/c if she was lying to you and you believed her, which is very likely to happen, she will prolly do it again. And if she does it again... there shouldnt be a new chance.

It's not your fault, it's hers, she's a bitch.

I know how you feel.

I ask myself everyday..."why me?"

Maybe you're dating the wrong type of girls?

I know I know, probably not the type of answer you wanted to hear, I know I wouldn't like that answer either if I were you.

I guess all I can say is, dump her and move on. The good girls are out there, just keep looking.

Dont worry about it. Girls dont find guys that worry about them all the time attractive, she wants a strong willed man who can stand up to her. confront her about it.

Show a poweer over her without being mean, some girls like it, some girls dont, seeing as how she likes older guys i think she might like it. show an air of confidence and justhear her out, then tell her how you feel. watche her for a bit, but dont bug her..

peace

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quote:Originally posted by SwordChucks:

Show a poweer over her without being mean, some girls like it, some girls dont, seeing as how she likes older guys i think she might like it. show an air of confidence and justhear her out, then tell her how you feel. watche her for a bit, but dont bug her..

Problem is, shes older then me, shes gonna be a junior, im gonna be a sophmore

Sounds like you're at a turning point.

First, shed the whole "nice guys finish last" nonsense. It makes you a victim, and that's a potentially dangerous position to be in. Not as in "physical danger to your life" but to your head and your emotions. You could become a bitter person with a chip on your shoulder and resent all females for the next several years.

Ok, now realize she didn't "do this to you". She did it to herself. She exercised some very poor judgement and selfish self-interest.

Now, what are you going to do about it? Getting angry with her will make her defensive. As hard as it is, the best thing to do is play it cool and distant until she comes to you. If she tries to pretend nothing's wrong, cut your losses now and get rid of her. Unless you fancy this sort of thing happening again.

If she comes to you and is contrite and apologetic, and aware of what she's done wrong, and offers some sort of explanation as to why she broke a promise not to drink without your presence, you may want to consider giving her another chance if you feel like it.

quote:Originally posted by deadlycindy:

Sounds like you're at a turning point.

First, shed the whole "nice guys finish last" nonsense. It makes you a victim, and that's a potentially dangerous position to be in. Not as in "physical danger to your life" but to your head and your emotions. You could become a bitter person with a chip on your shoulder and resent all females for the next several years.

Ok, now realize she didn't "do this to you". She did it to herself. She exercised some very poor judgement and selfish self-interest.

Now, what are you going to do about it? Getting angry with her will make her defensive. As hard as it is, the best thing to do is play it cool and distant until she comes to you. If she tries to pretend nothing's wrong, cut your losses now and get rid of her. Unless you fancy this sort of thing happening again.

If she comes to you and is contrite and apologetic, and aware of what she's done wrong, and offers some sort of explanation as to why she broke a promise not to drink without your presence, you may want to consider giving her another chance if you feel like it.

This has been the best advice I've ever gotten on totse... thank you

I wasn't being a dick, I was trying to liven the mood.

I think she's a bitch and what she did was fucked up.

I'd get rid of her, if it were me.

Calm down though.

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quote:Originally posted by STORMofDEATH:

First thing... chill out... NOW. Ive mad myself mad enough to punch a concrete support pole in my basement and break my knuckle, and ive been depressed enough to cut myself. Both of these things were stupid. Dont take it out on her either. Talk to her tomoro. Keyword is talk... nothing will ahppen if you yell or n e shit like that. Get her to talk about it though. Tell her that you wont deal w/ this shit if she says she wont talk to you. Once you are tlaking, figure out why she would do this. If worst comes to worst, this girl isnt who you thought she was, but hopefully it will ahev been a mistake... but dont clear it off the record books, b/c if she was lying to you and you believed her, which is very likely to happen, she will prolly do it again. And if she does it again... there shouldnt be a new chance.

you spelled made* wrong.

That wasn't the only word he spelled wrong, Corny.

i feel special... i got my first word corrected by corny!!!!!!

And I like DC's idea too.

Yeah. so she finally called me today. I told her I knew what happened and everything, being calm. But then she started defending herself. She was acting like SHE was the one getting hurt and was trying to prove me wrong on everything I said. Like when I told her about how she broke her promise about how she wouldnt drink without me, she was like "well you've drank without me before". I was pretty upset at this point, so I told her "yeah, but i dont have a history of doing stupid shit while I'm drunk. you do" and then she started saying how I should trust her. i do trust her, i know she didnt do anything with the guys. but she still DITCHED me for other guys. her explanation, "they were nice guys, whats so wrong about meeting new friends?" I told her how blowing off your boyfriend for a new friend, who was a 19 year old boy, is low as hell, and that i would never DREAM of ditching her for some friends i have that are girls. Then she had to go, so I will call her once I get done with work in 2 hours. I'll report back then

Did your agreement about drinking include you not drinking without her? If not, then she brought up an irrelevant point to ameliorate her wrongdoing.

She did the same thing with the "what's wrong with meeting new people" nonsense. There's not a thing wrong with meeting new people. But it's not a reasonable excuse for ditching plans with someone else (any friend, let alone a bf). At the very least, she could have told you right when she made the plans that she changed her mind and would be doing something else with her evening. But it seems she chose the "it's easier to get forgiveness than permission" route.

She seems too self-centered and immature for even a simple bf/gf relationship. Can you continue to handle this sort of behavior? She's really out of line.

heh, she promised not to drink without you, and you believe it. Here lies the root of your problems. Sit down, get real fucking stoned, and just think about her behaviors, and why she did them, and then think about your possible solutions, and whats going to happen in the long run. Only then will you realize female logic.

"Give a man a fish, and youll feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish, and youll feed him for life."

That quote doesnt just apply to fish you know.

You should have dumped her when she was disrespecting your guys time. If she cared she would call back and be like o sorry sorry, but if she doesnt there are others.

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Memorex: Welcome to life. Assfucking ahead. Next rest stop: 55 years. Insensitive bitches: 100% likely.

Just say "fuck this" and keep on movin'. It can be done.

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quote:Originally posted by Memorex:

Part of me wants to just break down and cry, the other part wants to smash someones head in.

Just looking out for you, I wouldn't suggest it. Chances are at this point you are already over wanting to smash some heads in, but incase the thought gets back, dun do it. Usually 4 years won't make a difference, once you get above 25 (or so), but 15 compared to 19, I would say you are pretty well boned in that fight.

Anyways, back to the bitches... I would say at this point dump her and find a new chick. Later on in life you may want to work things out with other girls, but at this point it's not worth it, and won't last. Not saying it won't last because you are young, but because what happened. If you made an agreement and she broke it, and doesn't feel bad, that means she won't pay attention to anything you say. They only way to make her listen would be to break up with her (if she cares about you it would make her pay attention) in which case it does you no good because she is gone, and if you get back together you have shown a weakness. Good job, relationship over... move on.

In all seriousness, Mem, you most likely know I've felt a lot of what you're feeling. If you'd like to discuss it with me alone for any reason, mail me, the address is in my profile. No bullshit from me, either.

Storm, once again I see how much like you I am, except (once again) for the cutting thing.

Memorex, you're right when you say cindy's is the best advice you've gotten. She seems to always have the answers, and she pretty much summed up what I would have said.

Dude, nice guys do finish first. Trust me, life is a marathon, not a race.

So they got her shitfaced eh?....damn;

no doubt they all fucked her too!



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Yeah, my girl got drunk with somebody. Then fucked him. Behind a supermarket at an Anti-Flag concert when he and her went "to get food". I don't like Anti-Flag anymore. Or either of them.

Quin: Being nothing but nice only wins you the sap-ass contest. Trust me. Add a little spice to your nice to keep her from giving you the welcome mat treatment.

Some people are just kind and forgiving people who don't want to hurt anybody and want those around them to be happy. I am one of these people, I have been seriously trampled on in relationships in the past and let it slid without caring. The problem isn't being stepped on, it is the final relization that you are only being stepped on to continue a relationship, that results in your getting stepped on. This endless cycle will go on forever if it is allowed to. Boundries are set, broken and then forgiven. Until oneday when your girlfriend(18) fucks some 34 year old guy at a bed and breakfest while you wait for her in the dining room. And when she finally tells you the truth you leave. And when she beggs you back you suck up your nice guy attitude and say no. Becuse at some point you have been stepped on too much. sorry for the long ramble but i am partial to the topic.

quote:Originally posted by Hagbard23:

some stuff

That brought a tear to my eye. <3

quote:Originally posted by Hagbard23:

Some people are just kind and forgiving people who don't want to hurt anybody and want those around them to be happy.

I am too, man, but you've got to be able to harden your heart sometimes. I'm only capable of that now, after the end of a six-year sortie, if you will.

You're all my heroes.

quote:Originally posted by Cutter De Blanc:

Burn her house down.

Fuck Yeah!!

Well..... we talked last night. And the final solution is.... I broke up with her.

I was waiting for her to call me back last night so I decided to talk online for a bit. I was tlaking ot oneof her friends about how i was mad and she was mad too becuz she doesnt like it when my gf disrespects me like that. Finally, her friend said i deserved to know what really happened. The case is, she made out with one of the guys who were there. In one split second, my heart was torn in too. I've never felt so hurt in my life. This is the second time shes cheated on me... the first was just a week into our relationshgip, but I forgave her. This is the 2nd time, 4 months into our relationship. That's an aboslute no. We talked for about 2 hours on the phone last night, mainly it was all crying between the two of us, but mainly it was her just explainging things, while I asked questions that needed to be asnwered. Fianlly, in the end, I had to end it. I love her so much, and I want to be with her forever, but she can't just keep doing this to me. I've been hurt one too many times, and I cant just keeo taking her back into my arms. I love her way too muc hthough....... I've never cried so hard in my life before last night. Just thinking that when I would wake up, she owuldnt be claling me. we wouldnt be making plans... I would never get to hold and kiss her again. and that kills me so much deep down inside. I love her so much and she means the world to me, so I'm going through a lot of shit right now. I dont WANT to break up with her, but I have to. I told her that maybe a while down the road we could talk about hanging out again but for now we are just going to be friends who talk.... shes supposed to call me on the phone tonight.

So youre probaly wondering why im being so nice to her about it and not extremly pissed because she cheated? Becuz I love her too much.... and I dont want us to break up on bad terms. What we had I loved so much, and I dont want it to end with me cursing her name. Sure, I did yell at her quite a bit last night, but at the end it was all emotion.... I felt like I wanted to die last night on the phone. I hate myself so much for doing this.... I thought I was gong to be with her forever.... she was my first love and I loved her. I lost my virginity to her....... she meant everything to me.... now I dont know what to do..... all I'm doing now is trying to get it off my mind by hanging out with friends, but its hard not to thinka bout her..... I love her too much, and I miss her dearly.........

also.... I dont think I could ever stand seeing her with someone else. THe day I see her with another guy, or the day I hear shes fucking someone else, I'm going to flip out.... all this sadness will come rushing back, I know it. Yeah, Im protective of her, and I love her so much. I dont want anyone else to have her but me, but I cant allow that, because we're not dating anymore. I'm so confused...

Memorex, take a mini vacation to clean the mind out. Soon , you will meet someone that actually has their head screwed on straight and that actually appreciates you. Bring her roses, then offer to take her to a nice dinner about 30 imles away. Write a nice "I Am Dumping You" letter to her and seal it in an envelope. Tell her not to open it yet. Pretend to have to go to the bathroom. What you will really do is leave her stranded, with the bill, and a fond farewell letter! Do it and you will get the utmost satisfaction! Trust me, been there, done that!

quote:Originally posted by Heiko Palm:

Memorex, take a mini vacation to clean the mind out. Soon , you will meet someone that actually has their head screwed on straight and that actually appreciates you. Bring her roses, then offer to take her to a nice dinner about 30 imles away. Write a nice "I Am Dumping You" letter to her and seal it in an envelope. Tell her not to open it yet. Pretend to have to go to the bathroom. What you will really do is leave her stranded, with the bill, and a fond farewell letter! Do it and you will get the utmost satisfaction! Trust me, been there, done that!

The first part of your advice is good, and I will consider, but that second part.... I don't hate her, and I wouldn't want to do anything like that.

Well, I commend you for maintaining a healthy, realistic outlook. Hating her would just make you bitter. Everything you're feeling right now is normal and appropriate, and you may feel this way for some time (weeks, even months).

Sounds like she needs time to sort things out, too. Don't be surprised if she grabs a "rebound" guy; I know you said you'd flip but she'll need to do whatever she needs to do to alleviate her own bad feelings.

Just remember not to take things personally, and you''l be all right.

quote:Originally posted by Memorex:

I've never hurt anyone in my life, but I keep getting hurt faster then a fucking bullet train.

Ladder Theory (http://www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html).

No offense, D_M, but if you're going to post a link, could you elaborate a bit on how it relates to this thread?

In general, let's not hijack this thread and crash it into a debate about ladder theory.

Sounds like a hoe. PLEASE, what the fuck was she thinking. I would be pissed myself. You two are in a relationship and she blows you off to drink with some 19 yr olds. Fucking hoe. Hate girls like that. Don't talk to her again, and if you do, do it to only get some ass cause she sounds like she's easy. To tell you the truth those 19 year olds were probably trying to fuck her, at least one, and she went with them so she had to of had the intention of doing something with them. Sucking dick or being fucked, either or. Sorry for the situation you're in but next time dont date a bitch.

quote:Originally posted by Memorex:

Does everyone totse have to be a dick to someone who is just seeking some help?

i kinda think they do it's just how people on here act. i mean look at what the web sites about.....

quote:Originally posted by deadlycindy:

No offense, D_M, but if you're going to post a link, could you elaborate a bit on how it relates to this thread?

In general, let's not hijack this thread and crash it into a debate about ladder theory.



How it relates is self-explained if you actually take a look at the site. And he is 100% right her. Ladder theory. He is stuck on the "friends ladder", when he gets on the other ladder, the correct ladder, he will look back on his mistakes and laugh at how much a pushover he is. He has to learn for himself, nothing you can say will help him in the long run. All of you are saying its the gf's fault? Thats bullshit. It is his fault. He needs to discover his fault, and improve it. You can keep thinking its the girlfriends fault, i dont care. Just remember, when it happens for the 2nd, then the 3rd, then the 4th, just remember, that it must be her fault :/

quote:Originally posted by Dark_Magneto:

Ladder Theory (http://www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html).

Oh, not that piece of ill contemplated shit.

quote:Originally posted by Memorex:

Is it "too kinky" to ask a girl to cum on her? My girlfriend let me once while we were doing it, and last night on the phone, I asked if I could again, and she said that I could but it was really weird for her and she couldn't understand why I'd want to.....



Maybe she doesn't like the way you cum on her.

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quote:Originally posted by whiteass:

How it relates is self-explained if you actually take a look at the site.

I have read the site a number of times. I re-read it every time someone brings it up to see if I've missed something.

quote: And he is 100% right her.

Just referring to a site is 100% right?

quote: Ladder theory. He is stuck on the "friends ladder",

He was her bf for 4 months. How is that being stuck on the friend's ladder? I just looked the site over yet again and must have missed it. Please direct me to where this is explained.

quote:when he gets on the other ladder, the correct ladder, he will look back on his mistakes and laugh at how much a pushover he is. He has to learn for himself, nothing you can say will help him in the long run. All of you are saying its the gf's fault? Thats bullshit. It is his fault. He needs to discover his fault, and improve it. You can keep thinking its the girlfriends fault, i dont care. Just remember, when it happens for the 2nd, then the 3rd, then the 4th, just remember, that it must be her fault.

In this situation, he allowed her one fuck-up and is now discussing how she failed to keep her promises, so he broke up with her. How is that relevant to the ladder? Again, please quote directly from the site. I can't find anywhere which suggests this.

tell her totse.com hates her

quote:Originally posted by Memorex:

... and then she started saying how I should trust her. i do trust her, i know she didnt do anything with the guys. but she still DITCHED me for other guys

Don't be so sure she didn't do anything with those guys. I mean she was hiding it from you and all, just saying she had other plans... you found out from somebody else she was hanging round with guys. I know you really wanna believe she wouldn't do that (been in the same situation myself) but consider the possibility.

EDIT: Didn't read the second page of postings sorry.

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quote:Originally posted by D Krunk:

Yeah, my girl got drunk with somebody. Then fucked him. Behind a supermarket at an Anti-Flag concert when he and her went "to get food". I don't like Anti-Flag anymore. Or either of them.

LOL!!! Just the way you put that last bit was fucking hilarious!

quote:Originally posted by Infrared:

Memorex: Welcome to life. Assfucking ahead. Next rest stop: 55 years. Insensitive bitches: 100% likely.

Just say "fuck this" and keep on movin'. It can be done.

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That made me laugh tons. Man I hope my girlfriend doesn't do this to me while shes in bullhead city. I'm sorry Memorex, come to AZ and i'll get you fucked up. Promise.

quote:Originally posted by thequin88:

Dude, nice guys do finish first. Trust me, life is a marathon, not a race.

Prove that asshole and I will give you head.

u let a bitch do that 2 u,wel first u need to choose better women,second u need 2 make an example out of her,so other women know they cant do that shit to u.

quote:Originally posted by Gustave:

Oh, not that piece of ill contemplated shit.

If you want pussy read this.. . . . I used to be a little bitch, I push my girlfriend around call her names and look at her friends. ALL I HEAR FROM HER IS " DON'T LEAVE ME WES I LOVE YOU" cheers fellow assholes

I talked to her again on the phone last night.... but before that, I talked to one of her friends on the phone for about an hour, because she was the one who told me my gf cheated on me, and she wanted to know what happened between us. We talked for an hour, just about my gf and everything. According to her friend, my gf had told her the day before that she wasn't going to tell me about the cheating, and that it wasnt a big deal. Also, another one of her friends talked to her and asked her about me.... my gf said something like "Yeah, we broke up. We're probably going to get back together, but for now, I just want to be able to do whatever I want" (AKA: I want to be able to fuck around all I want without worry). I asked my girlfriend about this and she said that she doesn't remember telling her one friend that she wasn't going to tell me... and that she told the other friend that she wanted to go hang out with other guys, not that she wanted to do whatever. I told her that hanging out with guys as friends is fine, but if hanging out with them includes having to do shit with them, then thats a no. She said that she doesnt plan on that, but if something does happen, she wants to be prepared, and not have to get in trouble with anyone. She says she feels like she doesn't know if she wants to be with me right now, because she says she wants to have fun being 16. She says that she would be missing out on so much if she was with one guy forever. The only thing I can think of that she would be missing out on is being able to get drunk all the time and have one nighter's with guys in college. I aksed her what she would rather have, a hundred nights, each with a different guy, filled with petty high school relationships that last 2 weeks, and the only thing you gain out of them is getting some, or if she would rather have true love, and a lifetime of happiness with me. She said she couldn't decide on that yet. towards the end of the conversation, she said when she went to her cousins house for a few days about half a week ago, that she met a guy who she likes. She talked to him on the phone all the time when she was there (we were still going out), and she hung out with him both nights she was there. She didn't even tell him she had a bf. He called her yesterday, and she finally did tell him, but she kept talking to him for a while. SHe said that it seems like she likes him even more everytime they talk. BUt he lives an hour away. I tried to tell her how it wouldnt work out because long distance relationships dont work at 16, and I asked her why she would want to jeapordize everything we have, all of our love, for a little crush she has on a boy who lives an hour away. I told her that she had to choose whether she loved me enough that she would wait for me to get through this tough time, or whether she wanted to be able to go out and date. She doesn't know. She wants to be able to date, but she says she loves me and doesn't want to hurt me anymore.... I told her that if she was with another guy, I would probably die, because the sight of her with another guy would tear me apart... plus, me and her had only made out before we got together. Now we've done everything together as each of our first times.... I wouldn't be able to stand knowing that shes doing that with other guys but me. I mean, I can understand that both of us seeing other people right now could be good... I mean we could see other people to see what our heart really wants... if it wants each other, or someone else. but I'm just afraid.... I'm afriad that she'll meet someone better then me, and not love me anymore. I told her I will love her forever, and I will... and then theres the fact of my jealousy that would kick in. ANy advice would be appreciated....... I just don't know what to do

quote:Originally posted by 4DrUg4dDdiTi0N:

If you want pussy read this.. . . . I used to be a little bitch, I push my girlfriend around call her names and look at her friends. ALL I HEAR FROM HER IS " DON'T LEAVE ME WES I LOVE YOU" cheers fellow assholes

I don't want "pussy", I want a relationship set on equal, logical grounds defined by the two of us in a long, thought-out session of erotic play and intercourse.

Forget this fuckin bitch. Shes reminding me too much of my old girl, and i hate that bitch now. Lose her NOW. This is so fucking stupid that you talk to hera bout how she likes other guys more then you. She cheated on you, she wants to fuck other guys, and she doesnt want to listen to you. How are you going to call that love. Love in my opinion is based on trust. Only two ppl who trust each other more then n e 1 else can be in love for real. It doesnt seem like you trust her, yet you want to... and she sees right through you. She will fuck around on you forever if shes already doing it now. Lose her for good and stop thinking about her. Stop talking to her too. If she tries to talk to you, too bad, its too late. Your definately a big enough man to drop her, so do it and do it for good. You hear me?

In that case, read some of my earlier posts in this forum. That'll really get your head spinning!



quote:Originally posted by Memorex:

The first part of your advice is good, and I will consider, but that second part.... I don't hate her, and I wouldn't want to do anything like that.

Marilyn Manson, User Friendly:

im not in love, but, im gonna fuck you till, something better, comes along.

tis dood is WEAK, man. fucking weak. my god you know what happened, isnt that enough? but no, you have to get right back in there, hoping this whore will change becayse you like her.

ad i do mean whore. shes fucking around with half the town. this bitch dosnt care about you, she doesnt even respect you, and im starting to think shes right in doing that.

stop calling this fucking bitch, and go slutfuck some chick.

Nice guys always finish last. I was once a nice guy, but then I was walked on by women so I changed my ways to more of a negligent asshole.

Since that change everything's been easier

Some people like to marry their first loves, right out of highschool...

They do not care that it doesn't sound very reasonable, that it seldom works.

They know that they're different.

Tell us Oh Great Memorex, how you are so great, because even though you are young, you

are one of * History's Great Ones *.

Young, but of Great Wisdom. Please Share.

PS: Because girls * Take Longer *, nice guys do finish last...after their girls have been satisfied.

[This message has been edited by moonmeister (edited 06-23-2004).]

^^You are so right.... its just, I dunno. I guess since she's my first love and I loved her so much, I just want things to work out. But theres two sides to me right now. One that loves her deeply, and the other side is the side that tells me that she fucking cheated on me, and that I need to go out and meet new girls and have fun without her. Yesterday, I went to her house to talk in person about it all, and I finally said that right now, we're both going to go out and see other people. I told her that maybe after a long time that if we relize that we can't find anyone then maybe we can get back together. But that wont happen.... see, my sister just found out that she cheated on me. MY sister alraedy hated my gf's guts, and now hell is about to break loose. Plus, yesterday, I hung out with some other girls.... one of them I kind of thought was cool, and I thought she was hott too.... later that night, we were alone and I walked her home, where I told her about how me and my gf broke up... so then she goes and asks me out. But heres the thing, shes moving in a month to Cali... so I'm thinking, this is the perfect thing for me. I can date this girl for a month, and in that time, I can see what my heart desires... if I had fun and liked being with this other girl, or something else. I'll keep you posted as the day goes by. Thanks everyone for helping me relize things that I didn't before... Peace out

For God's sake go out with that girl. You desperately need some new perspective.

As I started with in my first post, you are at a turning point, a transition. Things are changing that can't be changed back. It's normal to want to hold on to what you had. It's normal to prioritize that want over accepting the change. It's normal to feel hurt and betrayed. And, ugh, it's normal to want to believe that you can somehow take the responsibiity for things changing upon yourself, and believe that if you "forgive" the other person then things don't have to change.

It's also normal not to be able to see the road ahead of you. You will meet others. You will find someone else who you enjoy spending time with. You'll be all right.

THanks deadlycindy, you've giving me a lot of good advice that I've taken to the heart, as well as everyone elses advice here. I Thoguht that I was going to be sad forever and never be happy with someone else.... But I hung out with that girl again. I was really having fun with her, and then we kind of ended up making out. In my head, I thought that I should have felt ashamed, because I still love her and all, but it hasnt even been a week and im doign shit. But, maybe it's for the best. I dont know. Does anyone think I moved on too fast? Or is this good, what I'm doing.? In my head now, I know we wont get back together (me and my gf)... I still love her but I can just feel it... our special bond is gone...

Next time choose a better Girl (Looks aren't everything (Just 99.9999998%, LOL That was a joke))

Sounds like you're feeling the transition. And no, you're not moving too fast. You might consider being a bit careful about making any promises to this new girl. You won't really know where you're at (emotionally) for a little while yet.

I won't be making any promises soon... it's too soon to be making any commiment.. plus, the girl is moving in a month, so.... yeah.