Ok me and my girlfriend have been going out for about a year, but lately she has this friend who is a guy who hangs out with her a lot and likes her. She flirts with him a lot because she is flirty(and so is he) but sometimes to much, which is one reason I get pissed.

But the main reason I get pissed is because he once kissed her and said "you know you want to"

Another reason why I'm get pissed is because after I got really angry when he kissed her she said I shouldn't freak out, or she won't tell me anytrhing anymore. Later, she said he didn't like her anymore, until I found out she lied and I found out he tried to kiss her multiple times.

So do I am I wrong to be pissed about any of these things or am I legit?

You have every rite to be pissed. Kick the kids ass and tell him to find his own girl, if its possible for him to do so.

Get some friends and a bat, and in the words/style of bint, do the fuckers knees. Actually maybe not that harsh, but still you want to get the message across, from what it sounds like, she is only going to lie to you more, she WILL eventually cheat, leave her for someone she is jealous of, or something, get out early before you get hurt even worse.

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i'd be pissed....

If she had an ounce of respect for you she would have been offended that this "plutonic" friend kissed her and told her she knew she wanted to. It would be a friendship killer that he didn't give a fuck about you (someone she is supposed to care a lot about) or the relationship she has with you.

I don't think you should be pissed, I think you should find a new girl.

Do what lights said, kick the bitch to the curb, but I'd fuck with her head first. Find someone she is jealous of and do the SAME shit she is doing to you "oh by the way so and so kissed me, but hey! you shouldnt be freaked out, we're only friends! Chill out!" From what it sounds like, she lost the feelings you have for her a while ago, I can't name one decent girl that would still be friends with a prick like that. What your going through is the early stages of what happened to me. If you don't leave her, I give it 2 months tops before she leaves you get out before she seriously starts to mind fuck you, and not in the pleasant way either.

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if you dont act you're gonna look like a bitch, or might end up getting cheated on or left for him i suggest KICK HIS ASS and tell him to fuck off, and lay off your girl man. be a man lay down the law.

Kick his arse dude!

She's your girlfriend...The only guy she should be kissing is you...Nobody else...Not even this "friend".

You have every right to be pissed off.

As for the whole "You know you want to" thing there...Well that bit just pissed me off thinking about it.

She's gonna lead you down a road of heartache and paranoia mate...Get outta there!

AND KICK HIS ARSE!!!

Don't get pissed at her, lest you lose her.

Beat the EVER LOVING SHIT out of the guy, though.

Fucking punk. Break his goddamned legs.

Oh yeah, and if you don't do something about this trifling little bitch, you deserve to have her leave you for him.

Break his legs. more to the point, his kneecaps.

^^^Jeeze. Not drinking, makes you cranky or what?

They want each other? Glue them together at the abdomenon.

quote:Originally posted by moonmeister:

^^^Jeeze. Not drinking, makes you cranky or what?

Nah. I'm always like that when it comes to men that try to weasel their way into a relationship.

That's bitch behavior, and he deserves to be treated as suck. It's not like he doesn't know that she has a boyfriend.

I think breaking somebody's legs is a great(but horrible) form of punishment.

fuck the other guy up. physically is one option. But mentally is the best way to keep him away from her. Mind games are your key to victory here.

I'd definatly be pissed. May I ask how she acts flirty?

Theres a kid who put his hands up my gf's shirt, I heard about it and the next time in the gym locker room I threw him up against the locker and told him if he ever pulls a stunt like that he's gonna be dead. It worked too.

Just kick his ass or somethin, seriously shes your girl.

I'm a particularly jealous and protective person, and if i were you i'd have beaten the absolute fucking shit out of him. When i say beat the shit out of him, i mean as in he's a bloody mess knocked out in the corner with teeth all over the place. If you think about it long enough it sounds so much better.

Drop the bitch and get another girl, she's gonna be nothing but trouble. I know what I'm talking about.

Leave her, trust me. It's better than her cheating on you. Which she will. My previous girlfriend was with me for about three months before she started hanging out with "Jesse". They started hanging out A LOT, like going to youth group together, and all kinds of shit. It didn't help that I live far away from her (I'm in Germany, she lives on an American base, I live in a German town...we're both American though), while he lived about a 10 minute bus ride away from her (God bless public transportation). They went to an Anti-Flag concert with some friends (of mine mostly), and they "went to get food". They ended up fucking behind a supermarket.

Moral of the story: Kill him, or don't let her out of your sight.

quote:Originally posted by D Krunk:

They went to an Anti-Flag concert with some friends (of mine mostly), and they "went to get food". They ended up fucking behind a supermarket.

Moral of the story: Kill him, or don't let her out of your sight.

That's the worst fucking story i've ever heard. how the hell did you cope with that?

quote:Originally posted by allmylove:

I'd definatly be pissed. May I ask how she acts flirty?

She just flirts alot, she hugs people and makes a lot of sexual comments

I decided next time I see him I'm punching him right in his fucking face

Oh yeah, forgot to mention this before that I have been friends wit h the guy for about 10 years, but were not that close and over previous years we kind of broke apart.

quote:Originally posted by Lewneedsrs:

That's the worst fucking story i've ever heard. how the hell did you cope with that?

oh hell yea man, thats harsh. It always makes the story so much worse when they had risky, dangerous sex. Because you know shes going to remember the guy she fucked behind a supermarket for the rest of her life...thats why i always try to do the risky, dangerous sex. My main goal is to have every female i fuck remember me for the rest of her life.

So basically your girl is friendly, I think everyone who is friendly usually falls into the flirty category, am I right? ...but with the sexual comments.. guess does make her flirty.. Hmm.. heh or horny? (no offense)

Well seeing that you somewhat know the guy, maybe you should just confront him and say "what the fuck?!" type thing, ya know? and if he is just a jerk about it, it's just time to take him down. Though I'm not very big on beating the shit out of someone, but if I had to I would.

quote:Originally posted by whiteass:

oh hell yea man, thats harsh. It always makes the story so much worse when they had risky, dangerous sex. Because you know shes going to remember the guy she fucked behind a supermarket for the rest of her life...thats why i always try to do the risky, dangerous sex. My main goal is to have every female i fuck remember me for the rest of her life.



It was her first time, too. It took a lot, but I'm surviving.

quote:Originally posted by moss2455:

I decided next time I see him I'm punching him right in his fucking face

Christ... punch him in the throat. Not the face. It doesn't matter how much a "cheap shot" this is. Don't put up with him.

Edit: If he does happen to come back afterwards, hit him in the temple. Little fucker. I hate jerks like him.

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You have every right to be mad, if she had any respect for you or herself she would push him away when he tries to kiss her, it's not that hard to say no. You need to talk to her tell her how much it bothers you and find out where the two of you stand relationship wise, from that you will know whether or not to trust her not to do anything again or to find a new girl.

You've been with your girl for a year. A year is a long time to be with someone. You 2 obviously have a connection and there are genuine feelings. But it seems you're lacking in the trust area.

Some people are just flirty, you should have picked this up when you 2 first started talking. It's who she is and it's something that you cannot and should not try to change.

You said you were pissed because he kissed her. Who were pissed at? If she tells you these things and you show anger right away she'll receive that as you're angry at her. When she tells you things like that, you should talk to her, find out her feelings about the situation and THEN guage your feelings about it. If she tells you it was nothing, then take it with a grain of salt and drop it. She's her own person and can handle what goes on in her life. Yes, you are her boyfriend, and yes, it was disrespectful of that guy to kiss her while KNOWING she was taken but what can you do? It already happened and "getting pissed" can't change the past but it can change the future.

You have to show her that she has no reason to be scared to tell you when guys come onto her. Of course she's not going to tell you if you get mad. It think she's perfectly justified in that sense. It'll be your fuck up if she doesn't tell you these things anymore.

You both need to sit down and have a conversation about this. About trust and honesty. Without it you'll either have a fake, unhealthy realtionship of lies, jealousy, and cheat, or if you're lucky you'll break up.

Put your anger and jealousy on the back burner for a while and concentrate on what realy matters. The relationship itself!

I suppose this is one of those rare situations where I firmly believe there's a right thing and a wrong thing to do.

In a committed relationship, you just don't flirt with members of the opposite sex who have a clear romantic interest you. Like kicking puppies and tripping toddlers, it's just not to be done.

This sort of thing is too unpredictable, and human nature being what it is (we prioritize pleasure and self-interest for the moment over long-term propriety) we're always better off avoiding this sort of potential conflict.

If I was you I'd just dump her in a mean way.

Girls like that arent worth the time of day.. seriously. It sounds kinda harsh cause youve been together for a year but in the end im sure you'll save yourself lots of pain.

She will get pissed at you for hitting him if they're friends, and will most probably feel all sorry for him and ditch you for him. Sorry to be negative. I'd say tell her you think she should stop hanging out with him, if she refuses, fuck someone else and beat his ass and dump her. In that order too.