Well my g/f calls today and she's all like "I'm really fucked up". She injoys her pot and thats ok. But its when she does coke and other shit that I dont want to be with her . any suggestions on how to get her to stop?

thanks

YBM

Well, it sounds like she'd pick the drugs over you so maybe you should try to get her some help. I'm not exactly in the know about rehab procedures but maybe one of the other forum members would be able to shine some light on that.

Good luck!

Slap her ass up.

Coke is very very strong. Maybe it is time you left before you start getting hooked.

well she had stoped for awile and then today she gets all fucked up. She knows I dont like it. When she's not on drugs she's the best thing in the world. And I dont want to let her go.

YBM

You may have to let her go. If she's important to you, then you'll do what's best for her. And it's possible that what's best for her is some space. Maybe she needs distance to put her life in perspective. If you threaten to leave her, and then you don't, it sends the message that she can do this shit forever and get away with a simple, "I'm so sorry, I'll never do it again." Leave her. If she comes back to you (AFTER a certain period of time), then tell her you'll take her back, but only without the coke. And in the meantime, write her a letter and tell her you still love her, but you can't bear the drugs and she needs to get help. Research and suggest a good rehab center in your area.

That's all I know to say, man. Good luck.

you know shes probablly fucking the guys that she is blowing coke with? that or she will be soon.

Thanks all (except whiteass). I know what I have to do.

YBM

you're in denial about what whiteass said.

Yeah man, if she's that fucked on coke, she is most likely fucking the guys as well. Leave her, it's only gona get worse, andshe could give you an std.

Leave her. whiteass is right. She is most likely, like a 90% chance, that she is banging the guys as well. Leave her, because it will get worse and you will find that your all stressed out, all emotional, basically your going to get hurt and fucked up because of this, IF you dont leave her.

The best thing to do, is dump her. Tell her, I cant take it that your doing drugs etc etc and what ever else is bothering you, and you cant be with her while she is doing it blah blah...

Note, that this MIGHT make her think, what has she got to live for etc, thus she will continue to do it and end up ODing. OR, she might think FUCK HIM, and find her self another man and do drugs occasionaly, OR she might think fuck I need him, and STOP drugs all together and come crawling back like a dirty drug fucked skank.

(Off topic, WHEN the hell did i post over 200 times?..Last i checked it was 140, and then I couldnt log in because apparently my account didnt exist. Now I try to see if itll work, and it does, and I have over 200 posts. Wierd. If anyone has seen any posts by me in the last month or so, pls let me know im interested to see what i posted that i cant remember.Back on topic)

[This message has been edited by xcon (edited 06-05-2004).]

Get her a couple hundred bucks worth of Crack

everday...she'll really love you...til

you stop.

Of course, some folks only do Coke on rare occasions. Somewhat different than those who's lives revolve around it. People often lie about their substance use...it's so darn

confusing.

Don't put up with lies & disrespect.

quote:Originally posted by YOUBITME:

Well my g/f calls today and she's all like "I'm really fucked up". She injoys her pot and thats ok. But its when she does coke and other shit that I dont want to be with her . any suggestions on how to get her to stop?

thanks

YBM

quote:Originally posted by hazmat40:



Its not about her loving you enough to quit, She needs to hit her bottom . Some people hit bottom when they lose there mate or job. Some hit the bottom when they go to jail or od. Be there for her when she falls if you love her and can handle it. AA AND NA works. 12 step program. works for alot of people.

god bless

hazmat



ps if you try to force her to guit she will run for the hills and do most dope.

if ye cant beat em....join em

If you liked her and don't want to let her go you either

a)are whipped and don't have the balls to TELL her to stop! and she doesn't want to be with you is why she keeps doin it

b)Are in denial about what whiteass said cause it's true in ALOT of cases, my old g/f in one of the cases

c)WHAT THE FUCK MAN! I would love to have a coke sniffing girl cause it can get REALLY CRAZY, like getting head MULTIPLE times a day for just a half-gram. Get on top of her (literally and mentally) and tell her that she only gets her coke from you and see if she wants to pay for it every time... so... you're making money, getting laid, and in the end, she will have to pay for it everytime and will probly stop, cause I think she just wants to look 'bigger' than you dude. Start acting bigger and do somethings more extreme (it doesn't have to be drugs), and then 'she in stead of 'you' will be intimidated. Trust me man, i've done it before. Why the fuck don't people get that they will ALWAYS love someone again. There isn't only ONE person they will ever meet man, fuckin youngsters. Well anyways, grow some balls, use reverse psychology and TELL her to stop if she wants to be with you, and if she keeps doin blow, then she doesn't want you man. Get it through ur skull. Good luck!

im sorry but you cant do much its her decision but tell her how important she is to you and how important it is to you and her for her to get sober if she keeps up you definetly cant do anything and you stay if you still want her in her condition or leave if you dont want to or can handle it thats my advise