I hate to get close to people, maybe thats why my longest relation ship was 4 months. I mean i just dont want to, I mean I do but i cant. I get all freaked out and paranoid about them. I find I cancel shit and stuff. It weird. I know it stems back to 8th grade when all my friends dumped me over the summer, but i cant get over it.

I DONT TRUST PEOPLE. I have been lied to and shit for my whole life. I mean like lied to about big shit like my dad being gay, he still hasnt admited it yet but i have abslout proof. How much my dad embzled and why. but most of it is from my mom. She lies all the time to me and my family ( 3 sisters, 1 brother, and a mom) im moving in with my dad sunday. Well my "family" always tells me they hate me and that im crazy ( its a show) and how much they cant wait to get rid of me.

IDK, does anyone else have a closeness issue, of a self concesious issue? I always am afraid people front to me.

As some of you all may know b/c i was posting it in other replies, but the year long relationship i had w/ my girl, though i loved her incredibly, ended b/c i didnt trust her. I have a huge trust problem myself. In 6th grade, i was just a lil bit overweight, but being in a typical public school, i got made fun of and all my friends ditched me. I got stuch w/ this shit thru 8th grade and it fucked me up so bad. I dont trust many people and im scared of ppl as well. Its a very large contributor to my depression. I am in 10th grade now, and the fat i once had is now muscle, and my shoulders and chest are huge, and ppl are now intimidated by me... which is awesome. But im still fucked up in the head from it.

BTW... is this in the right section?

i dont trust people, most of the time they only want something out of you and if you ask them to do something they dont do it, fuck em, only a few are trustworthy but those few own.

quote:Originally posted by STORMofDEATH:

As some of you all may know b/c i was posting it in other replies, but the year long relationship i had w/ my girl, though i loved her incredibly, ended b/c i didnt trust her. I have a huge trust problem myself. In 6th grade, i was just a lil bit overweight, but being in a typical public school, i got made fun of and all my friends ditched me. I got stuch w/ this shit thru 8th grade and it fucked me up so bad. I dont trust many people and im scared of ppl as well. Its a very large contributor to my depression. I am in 10th grade now, and the fat i once had is now muscle, and my shoulders and chest are huge, and ppl are now intimidated by me... which is awesome. But im still fucked up in the head from it.

BTW... is this in the right section?

Dude, I went through that exact same shit...same grades and everything, but I am out of school now...

whoa... maybe we are twins seperated at birth...

Well, bushy, I wont let these dumbasses hijack your thread.

First of all, get out on your own, with a job, car, and your own place to live. Get yourself set up first, and make sure you are happy with your life. Then start dating and just follow your gut.

Yeah sometimes guys can be over jealous, but you know when something is really up. Make sure you find a girl that is smart, and independent too. Usually its the ditzy girls that jerk you around.

Oh, and the main thing is to get the fuck away from your family, maybe stay in contact, but still ilve away from them. Have your own life, and don't let it hinge on anything but your own happiness.

Once you do all of this, you will find a nice girl that you can love and trust. Then just have her be your best friend, and you will be happy.



How do I know you ask? My family is at least just as bad, if not worse (crackhead pregnant mother who owes me $4000 that likes to get beaten by her boyfriend) and I found my girl, and got away from it all around the same time. Now I never talk to my mother, and my dad lives far away, and I talk to him every now and then.

My sister lives right next door, but I never talk to her either, and my life couldn't be better.

Just because you were born to a bunch of assholes, doesn't mean that you ahve to stay around them for the rest of your life.

I guess I have sort of the same issue, I'm always afraid to truly open up unless I've been with the person a good while...

I think it boils down to realizing that getting involved with somoene is a RISK. Could be the best thing that ever happened to you, or the worst. Aside from any drastic disasters outside of your control, I guess all you can do is put the effort in to keep the relationship in a positive state.

I am extremely paranoid. I tend to be annoyed when my friends show more interest in other people than myself, basically, I try to be everybody's best friend.

That sounds bad but it all comes off nice, because these feelings that I have I keep locked away. So I just end up being a good mate to everyone.

But obviously when I'm not their best friend, they will not treat me the way I treat them, and that hurts me. I'm entirely to blame but I feel like I can't trust this person, or that he is deliberately rejecting me.

Fucked up mental issues, sure... I'm not dominating though. I have gotta stress that I recognise this as a problem and never impose it on anyone - it's all kept inside my mind. But I'd thought I'd share it with you guys. I have trust issues, and I can't place the origin, but you're not alone.

Yeah, I have an intimacy issue. Last girl I liked suddenly moved away without one word to me, so that didn't help my self esteem much.

many of the girls i have pursued seem to have the same issues as many of you. after time they seem scared, which is odd, andsome have even been so scared as to call the police.

people are just so afraid of intimacy these days

thanks, i thought i was the only one.

i have a closefullness/trust issue. Basically the way i think, is with girls i have to work very little to get laid. Some times it takes me less than 2 hours from the time i meet them, to the time i fuck them. Because of that, the girls that ask me out i always turn down. Why? I figure if i can fuck them in 2-3 hours, so can just about any guy. How can i trust someone that it only took 3 hours to fuck. Then comes the issues of manipulation. When i can see what they do, and see all their alterior motives (good, or bad) i lose respect. I notice the tiny little things that nobody else notcies. Down to eye contact, mirroring body movement, tone of voice, speed of voice, choice of words, general posture. From all these i can tell exactly what their thinking at all times, Its no fun. Its too predictable.

THeres only one girl ive gotten close to in my life. And the reason is probably only that she is so fucking sexy. DO i trust her? no. I fingered within a day. I know she doesnt fuck around, her friends, brother, people that i know prove that to me. And by the ammount of guys that ask her out and she turns them all down (or at least she did when i was there), i know she wouldnt cheat on me. I also know because she wants to go out with me, she asks me all the time if ill go out with her (with a straight out question, or general leading statement). But i still dont trust her. Id love to be able to get close to her and trust her, but im afraid ill lose my rational thinking if i do.

I have a problem even talking to people the first time i meet them because my dad never talks to me unless he wants to make me feel bad and i cant talk to my mum because she will ether lie to me or take my dads side. it basically means that im really quiet because i dont talk to diferent people and i cant open up to anyone because some of my old "friends" just used me to get stuff from me and it feels like i cant trust anyone because they might hurt me and i dont want to get depressed and start on my arms again. ive got enugh scars to last me a eternity.