This girl I really like has a boyfriend. Hes like really ugly and stuff. I don't know what she sees in him..anyways. Me and her are good friends and stuff. I really am diggin her and I don't know what I should do about it. I don't wanna fuck up our relationship as friends..but I also wanna be more than friends. Shes really geniounly beautiful..like, i'm not being superficial or anything. But shes the best to hang out w/ and stuff.

Her boyfriend is in a lower grade than her..like by one grade. Hes ugly and like ditches her occasionally..like 2 outta 5 times he ditches her to hang out w/ his friends and stuff. Plus he wrote a letter to a girl and stuff telling her how he liked her..while he was going out w/ her. So just please give me some advice on this..none of my friends are really helping me out and I'm lost.

you might have feelings, but this situation has nothing to do with you. i mean that in the sense that she does, have a boyfriend. regardless of how shitty their relatinship is, it's her/their call, not yours. i guess what i'm saying is, don't waste your time trying to convince her to come with you, who is to say some other guy won't do the same thing tomorrow?

Stay good friends with her. The only way she wont dump him soon is if she is dumb. If they aren't broken up in 2 weeks do one of 2 things, realize how much u don't want to be dating a dumbfuck and move on or tell her how much u like her and that u see how badly he is treating her and u think you could make her happier and treat her better.

maybe they have good sex...and stuff....

quote:Originally posted by SweetAlice:

This girl I really like has a boyfriend. Hes like really ugly and stuff. I don't know what she sees in him..anyways. Me and her are good friends and stuff. I really am diggin her and I don't know what I should do about it. I don't wanna fuck up our relationship as friends..but I also wanna be more than friends. Shes really geniounly beautiful..like, i'm not being superficial or anything. But shes the best to hang out w/ and stuff.

Her boyfriend is in a lower grade than her..like by one grade. Hes ugly and like ditches her occasionally..like 2 outta 5 times he ditches her to hang out w/ his friends and stuff. Plus he wrote a letter to a girl and stuff telling her how he liked her..while he was going out w/ her. So just please give me some advice on this..none of my friends are really helping me out and I'm lost.

Fuck you. You're a prick. Maybe she sees more in him than looks. I think the only reason you want to be with her is because shes "geniounly beautiful". I hope you get hit by a bus. Yeah, hes a jackass like most guys are, but just because he isn't the best looking doesnt mean he doesn't deserve a GF. Are you saying anyone thats ugly should never be happy and have a GF? Maybe someday you'll understand.

yeah, and you sound like a chick the way you type...and stuff...so like what the hell...your sn on here makes you sound like a chick too, and seriously, if you are a chick...you are a lesbian and you friend isn't and you probably think all guys are ugly and you are just mad that you can't turn your friend into a lesbian like you...get over it.

She prefers her boyfriend to you. deal with it. move on.

you pathetic superficial manhating dyke whore.

quote:Originally posted by Nihilism:

you pathetic superficial manhating dyke whore.

exactly!

If she ain't splittin with him it's probably becuase he has a large penis and she enjoys it lots.

quote:Originally posted by SweetAlice:

Shes really geniounly beautiful..like, i'm not being superficial or anything. But shes the best to hang out w/ and stuff.

Hes ugly and like ditches her occasionally

Like, maybe you should shut the fuck up and grow up a bit and stuff. Really, if she chooses to stay with him then it's her choice. If he really treats her as badly as you claim then she will break up with him soon anyway.

It's people like you that perpetuate the myth that all guys want is sex and we can't be plutonic friends with women. Keep it in your fucking pants, you're no friend of hers.

quote:Originally posted by CatharticWeek:



It's people like you that perpetuate the myth that all guys want is sex and we can't be plutonic friends with women. Keep it in your fucking pants, you're no friend of hers.

...so your telling me if a girl you were friends with came up to and say she really liked you, you liked her, and she was breaking up with her bf, you wouldnt take a shot?

anyways...fuck her, lay down the typical bf destroy plan. ask her this question:

Q amn, i really have fun hanging out with you, i hope you do to.

anything other than a smile and yes i do will mean you have got work to do. If she hesitates, same thing

then follow up with

Q: So, how are things between you and **** (her bfs name whatever it is)

1."Great we have alot of fun."

A."Thats good to hear" and remain her friend

anything else and you can move in. Hesitation is another thing here, she hesitates you can move in. If she doesnt smile when she says it you can move in. Anything besides a 100% positive answer, and you can consider yourself a homewrecker in the making.

quote:Originally posted by CatharticWeek:



It's people like you that perpetuate the myth that all guys want is sex and we can't be plutonic friends with women. Keep it in your fucking pants, you're no friend of hers.

I have a friend who is female, and I have never once felt any sexual attraction towards her whatsoever...one of my best friends because there is no hidden attractions in the way...

quote:Originally posted by SweetAlice:

This girl I really like has a boyfriend. Hes like really ugly and stuff. I don't know what she sees in him.

believe it or not, everyone isn't a shallow jackass.

[This message has been edited by pamplemousse (edited 06-04-2004).]

Hey Essun Hund..fuck you. I'm not a fuckin prick... why don't you fuckin read the whole post being as he treats her badly and likes another fuckin girl..I don't really think she deserves him. I like her because one..shes my good friend. Two, I have feelings for her that aren't shallow..dipshit. And Three, shes really fun to hang around and chill with.

Yeah, I think I might stay good friends w/ her, or I might tell her how I feel.

Oh yeah, I don't fuckin need you're god damn useless comments. Jesus Christ. I'm just asking a question on what I should fuckin do. And I'm not a girl fuckface. I'm a guy. Untape you dick from underneath your ass and you might be one too.

The reason I'm asking this question in the first place was because I heard before she was going out w/ this guy that she had feelings for me..not anything big but just hes hot whatever.

And I'm sorry, I didn't mean to sound shallow by saying that hes ugly and I don't know what she sees in him..I realize its her choice and all. But, oh well..fuck you guys, you're not helping at all.

quote:Originally posted by SweetAlice:

Oh yeah, I don't fuckin need you're god damn useless comments. Jesus Christ.

then why did you post on totse?

Whoa man, chill out. This is totse... what were you expecting? Your gonna get the flames with everything else.

My suggestion tho is to just suck it up and tell her. Worst comes to worst and she says she doesnt feel that way, you will still be friends w/ her.

Thanks stormofdeath..yeah, I've been on Totse for about a year or so..I've had a few different names. I just mostly read the boards though..so flames are nothing new to me.

Well this is my second day on totse, and i think im up in the top 10 most hated people. I think this is really my kinda place, lol.

ehhhh.. I missed something.. what grade are you in? I just know this is gonna make me sound old... but here's a little bit of life. If you're that young.. you don't need a gf. You're going to be deeply in love with anyone that meets your fancy right now. You will read this and think I'm wrong but 10 years from now you'll think back like "That old dude was right" I'm not saying your feelings aren't genuine, because that deep assed young love is a great thing. But you have to be realistic at some point. It doesn't matter how her bf treats her if she likes him. Chicks are like that. Judging by the sound of it, you'd be like that too. I bet this chick could go out with you a couple times and stomp right the fuck down on yer head and you'd go back to her in a heartbeat.

BTW, when I say it doesn't matter how he treats her, I mean emotionally. That's her shit to deal with. If he hits her though I recommend breaking his hands in fun ways so the bones never heal quite right. In any case, him treating her badly is only room enough for you to be respectful of her. Be open and tell her the story... I like you, I can/can't deal with this situation, and if you can deal with being friends .. then just remember the number one rule. The most you can do with a friend, whether you agree with their decision or not, is respect that's it's their decision to make and you should support them no matter what happens in the best way you can.

No, I'm not 65 years old =)