What should i do my totse friends? I like this girl but the thing is she works with me, goes to my school but it feels like she doesn't want to hang around with me only in school but nothing more. I told her that i cared about her alot, and which i think she thinks that im way to protective over her. But in her xanga, she always talks about all the guys that is her best friends and how close she got with them. WTF? i don't know should i ditch this bitch and get a new girl? Cause im tired of waiting for her to call me, i always call her. She always talks to her 'best friend', and also she never mentions me in anywhere in her xanga. AHHH FUCK MAN THIS SUCKS! I FEEL LIKE SHIT. so should i?

1. dont ever tell a girl how you feel about her. its not important what you feel.

2. yes, drop this bitch. she doesnt like you.

3. yes it sucks. tis is life, alot of things do.

Guys and girls are kinda different in situations like this. Guys (I should say single guys without many known options) will become more and more attached to a girl they are around all the time if they are attracted to her. Eventually it seems like she is the only option. When they ask how to pick up a girl, what they mean is, "how do I get that girl?" Girls on the other hand look for the new and mysterious. They will grow blind to the guys in their daily circles as those guys become predictable and boring. The more available you are to her, the more worthless you are to her. If you call her all the time, and she does not call you, there is no reason why she should pursue you.

There are tons of exceptions to the above, but that pattern happens over and over so you should recognize it when it happens. What should you do about it? You have two real options. 1. Be the mystery man and pick up chicks that are not in your circles. You cannot fixate on just one. Just get out there and eventually you will meet one that is ready for you. 2. Learn how to play hard to get and try to seduce the one you want. It is a game, and it is not easy, but if you want her, you got to create something that will increase her interest. EVERYTHING you have been doing has decreased her interest.

PS...I know there is the issue of the best friend. Without more info, I really can’t explain it. Like I said there are exceptions to everything; however, I still think as a general rule, if you are around her too much and are too available/easy, you will hurt your chances of scoring.

Look matey...What I advise is:

1) Give her an ultimatum..."Do you wanna go out sometime and possibly have something more than friendship...Or do you just wanna keep stringing me along? It's annoying me!"

Something along those lines.

2) Get the answer...From then on you have two choices:

Get with her

or

Don't get with her

There is no middle ground...None of this "Let me think on it"...Just get an answer!

Good luck man!

never tell your true feelings to a girl until youve had sex with her at least 5 times. if she asks before then, she is obviously interested but its still not time to make your move. When she asks, smile and say "dont worry about it". Keep the kino (touching) up, because humans respond more positively to human touch than they will to anything. Dont make it sexual contact (hips, inside of fingers, sides of necks, stomach, etc) until she is at the point where just the site of you gets her dripping wet. Start with putting your hand on her shoulders as your both talking to someone. Do it for a few seconds, enough to say what you were saying then walk off and start doing something else. Fucking with their minds is an art, and if you do it right any girl will be practically raping you without you putting in any effort. And once you have that happen, you lay down the, "i used to date but i saw what happens to people when they break up, or when they get cheated on etc...and i decided its more important to be friends before you date"

boom. you have a chick that you have no obligations to date, and one that will be willing to fuck whenever you want. Just make sure you know what your doing in all aspects and read some books on how to get a woman to orgasm. and for gods sake, remember to always smile.