I know this is a really stupid question (well at least it "sounds" stupid to me), but bare with me...I am a novice

I want to have sex with this guy (we're not dating, but we've had sexual encounters in the past), we're both virgins, I know he wants to lose his virginity cause he's gonna grad soon (I know..."sounds" stupid)

I was talking to his friend and I told him that there was a time when I liked the guy so much I probably would have had sex with him if he had asked me

The friend told me that the guy had told him the exact same thing (he had felt the same was as me)

But that was a couple of months ago, I don't know if his feelings about me have changed

I got his friend to ask him how he feels about me, but instead the guy ended up thinking that his friend wanted to go out with me and so he was all like "Go ahead, ask her out, I can't tell her who to go out with" (what does that mean? it doesn't tell me how he feels about me)

I want to have sex with him, I'm positive about that, I want him to be my first

I just don't know how I should go about asking him...

How do you ask someone something like that?

*Take note* We were fighting before and then I stopped speaking to him. We have started talking again, but we haven't "done" anything together (sexual stuff)

So it's pretty hard for me to come out of the blue and be all like "Do you want to have sex with me?" it's just strange

I know that I'm going to get a lot of "flames" cause I'm not exactly "Ms. Popular" but those of you who don't mind giving a little advice, plz do...

I really want this to happen with me and him

is this a case of both being too scared to ask the other incase rejection spoils a friendship?

Well if you were more comfortable with the guy the answer would be "wanna have sex?" but since not i have no fucking clue the most i can tell you is go for it and try to get close but i cant really get much more specific.

Ask him if ever thinks about you sexually? I'm serious about that, because you can almost be sure that he does, and I dunno, just talk about it with him and tell him you want it. Or just casually hint around until you get your way with him. Or just ask him if he wants to have sex with you, but not as if you're asking for it. I dunno, I'm kinda rambling right now.

Well, your fourteen & mature. Ask him to rub your mar...vel...ous rack. Those things do

need personal attention, do they

not?

I'd recommend that you don't get him to do it

in the hall between classes, though.

Protection? I'm sure you'll be a fine ma one day...but not yet.

You do know that foreplay is nothing to laugh at, I take it? Have explored all the

marvelous things a couple can do, other than going for the Max?

Please, if you do go all-the-way, remember to

be well lubricated & fool around a lot first.

Maybe do some physical activity first to get

your muscles warmed up & loose.

What's your hurry, anyways? Folks only start going downhill after they turn nineteen.

quote:Originally posted by henteichicken:

is this a case of both being too scared to ask the other incase rejection spoils a friendship?

His friend said that before he was scared to ask me cause I'm underage and he's 18

He knows that if I really want to do something I'll do it anyway, regardless

I think if he "did" want to then he's not asking cause he's shy and worried I'll say no, or laugh in his face

Which is the reason why I don't want to either

I know that if I asked, that neither one of us would forget that, since that's a pretty big thing to ask someone

And if he said no, I'd be so embarrassed

And yes, I would be frightened that our friendship would be ruined, but the thing is that since we were just fighting before and are now like rebuilding the trust again, I'm not as worried of ruining the friendship as I would be if I were to wait till later to ask

What do you do though, if you ask your friend to have sex with you and they say no, and it's not just cause you're horny or w/e, it's cause you care about him that way

If he said no, would I be able to ever look at him straight in the face again?

That's what worries me

Forget it...he's a chance of getting caught with a minor...

quote:Originally posted by SublimeZen124:

Ask him if ever thinks about you sexually? I'm serious about that, because you can almost be sure that he does, and I dunno, just talk about it with him and tell him you want it. Or just casually hint around until you get your way with him. Or just ask him if he wants to have sex with you, but not as if you're asking for it. I dunno, I'm kinda rambling right now.

Yeah I'll probably try that, thanks

well i'll fuck you if youd like , anwyays theres differnt points you reach, like if you really like eachother and you tell eachother than from there on almost everything is safe to share, unless one of you is concerably mess up, which im asuming not, so once you get to that point you wouldnt ruin anything. But since it seems like your not there yet im not sure, i guess just talk to him and ask him to the movies and tell him you really like him and if things progress ask for sex or whatever. and if he says no you can come run to me , sorry im kinda depressed and looking for a good time or atleast to cheer up.

quote:Originally posted by jimmy the gent:

well i'll fuck you if youd like , anwyays theres differnt points you reach, like if you really like eachother and you tell eachother than from there on almost everything is safe to share, unless one of you is concerably mess up, which im asuming not, so once you get to that point you wouldnt ruin anything. But since it seems like your not there yet im not sure, i guess just talk to him and ask him to the movies and tell him you really like him and if things progress ask for sex or whatever. and if he says no you can come run to me , sorry im kinda depressed and looking for a good time or atleast to cheer up.

Well that's the thing, at the beginning of the year I liked him and he liked me

We were going to go out, but then he decided that he didn't want to date me anymore, but I still liked him

But then a month or so later we had our "sexual encounter" which was basically, we were hanging out and then it lead to us making out heavily (he initiated it)

We talked about it and agreed to be "friends with priviledges"

I know that he thinks about me sexually, or at least he used to before we had our big fight, he even told me the dreams he had where we were having awesome sex in the backseat of his car

*Take note* He had a girlfriend who he dated for 2 years, she asked him to have sex with her and he said no

I guess I'll just ask him cause that's really the only way for me to know for sure what he thinks

It's just so nerveracking waiting till the time when I'm going to ask him

*No, none of us is messed up* lol

Why are you upset? What happened?

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^^^ well what happened is kinda like what happened to you. A girl liked me at the beggining of the year, but i wasnt sure so i held of then time went by and then her friend like me but when we were getting to know eachother she went out with someother guy for some reason, the only reason i mention that is because the girl from the begging of the year doesnt like me as much cuz of that. And now i like her and she showed some intrest but she told me she likes some other guy and then she was trying to dish me off to another chick so im just like fuck that cuz i really like her now, but anyways this late night feeling really cheered me up some how, i just wish i had some krispy krem donuts and strawberry milk, damn thats good.

Sounds like a situation reeking with regret. I say you get in a relationship with him before you spread it for 'im.

Just grab him by the hair and say Fuck ME!

Then, Spread your legs and send him to heaven.

When I was 18 I didn't even consider having sex with a 14 year old...

If caught he could end up in prison...think about it...find someone your own age...

aunt jemima- are there any other issues besides age that might cause him to not want you? like race/color/wealth? cos i'm wondering what might stop any redblooded virgin male from wanting to 'get his leg' over? I mean teen age boys are'nt renown for turning down any offer of sex are they?

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have thought on this abit more jemima: if you did manage to get him to bed are you prepared for what might happen after?

even if your parents don't press charges against him his 'mates' and the rest of the world in general will forever label him at best 'craddle snatcher' and at worse 'pedo'. take it from me that that can be soul destroying for him especially if he loves you.

this is not a flame just me worried about all the possible pain coming your way cos i've been there and it hurts,sister it hurts real bad.

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take his dick and stick it in your mouth.

quote:Originally posted by henteichicken:

have thought on this abit more jemima: if you did manage to get him to bed are you prepared for what might happen after?

even if your parents don't press charges against him his 'mates' and the rest of the world in general will forever label him at best 'craddle snatcher' and at worse 'pedo'. take it from me that that can be soul destroying for him especially if he loves you.

this is not a flame just me worried about all the possible pain coming your way cos i've been there and it hurts,sister it hurts real bad.

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Well i just went through a rape unit in my health class, so if she does have sex with him and her parents find out and want to press charges, alls she has to do is tell the judge she gave full concent and wanted it just as much as him.

Ohhhh look at the LOSER getting sex advice off the internet because she's too much of a LOSER to learn about it in the real world.

Hypocrite.

EDIT: Yes I am immature. Yes I do hold a grudge. 6 months ago a troll came here named 'psychotogen' and flamed every one he could reach. He later reformed and asked for our help many times. Wah, wah. He can shove it. I'll never help him, or you.

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quote:Originally posted by jimmy the gent:

Well i just went through a rape unit in my health class, so if she does have sex with him and her parents find out and want to press charges, alls she has to do is tell the judge she gave full concent and wanted it just as much as him.

only if she is of age

Or if she can reasonable prove that she was not coerced by a more mature individual; essentially, she needs to prove that she was competent enough to give mature consent (much more difficult than it sounds).

hi jimmi the gent. yes but...i think you'll find most judges will baulk at a 14 yr old consenting to sleep with an 18 yr old. if he were 14/15/16 then no sweat but 18 is adult.

and it is and will remain a fundamental of most western legal systems (& i assume in the usa too) that 'a minor' cannot consent. even if she was 'gagging' for it and damn near raped him the law says she couldn't consent.

trust me on this i really do know.(try being an 11 yr old with a 28 yr b/f!)

however in most places it is common practice that if neither the girl or her kin complain then the police just ignore it cos it's just too much hassle.

If it were me, I would say, "hey, would you like to have sex with me, seeing as how you're going to graduate a virgin?"

Just ask him and he'll probably say yes. But if he does say yes it means he just likes you for you're body. So if I were you I would save sex for someone important.

Either ask him out front or just get him alone and just do it! He'll probably get the idea and carry on.

So sweet Jemima, she be a Canuck, same as the

voluptuos Guernica. In the Great Whiteous North ('cause of the snow, fool), the Legal Age of Consent is Fourteen.

So say the curvy Guernica wanted to jump all salty, with a big testicled over-18 such as meself. It is theoretically legal, as long as

I am not in any position of authority over her, eg. teacher/coach/boss.

It may be legal if I don't (teens being considered as *poverty stricken* or not legal

to buy smokes/alcohol) given her any inducments/bribes. As far as I can figure.

One doesn't hear of many prosecutions. Mostly

it's used in relation to teen prostitutes & their johns.

I think most often it's the brothers/sisters/

cousins who might be offended. Why Jemima is

wanting to do a guy not her boyfriend? Maybe

hormone poisoning...

just look at him with puppy dog eyes... point to your treasure box, and say

please?

Nobody would have sex with aunt jemima, eewwww

.

^^^Well, not until she's at least a couple years older. 'Lessun, I was a schoolboy,

too.

Hey, Jemima, say you will

Help me to find a way to fill these empty hours

This is all crap...no normal 18 year olds hang around 14 year olds...

all right, i'll bite [if i havent already? i dont remember.]

despite the fact i dont approve, specifically, because of your age and his, i'll say somethin anyway.

while you two are alone [duh] just go over and sit on his lap. start making out with him, and when he starts gettin excited, tell him, "i want to give you a gradutaion present." if he doesnt get it, and asks, then tell him you're going to help him lose his virginity. then give him a blow job to get him hard enough [virgins have problems sometimes...see that other thread about it if you're concerned], and things should progress easily enough from there. this will be a strictly BYOR [bring your own rubber] situation, because him not knowing about it, he probably wont be prepared [unless you're on the pill, of course. then dont bother]. have fun, kid.

quote:Originally posted by Chibi Shinigami:

all right, i'll bite [if i havent already? i dont remember.]

despite the fact i dont approve, specifically, because of your age and his, i'll say somethin anyway.

while you two are alone [duh] just go over and sit on his lap. start making out with him, and when he starts gettin excited, tell him, "i want to give you a gradutaion present." if he doesnt get it, and asks, then tell him you're going to help him lose his virginity. then give him a blow job to get him hard enough [virgins have problems sometimes...see that other thread about it if you're concerned], and things should progress easily enough from there. this will be a strictly BYOR [bring your own rubber] situation, because him not knowing about it, he probably wont be prepared [unless you're on the pill, of course. then dont bother]. have fun, kid.

Id go with that...that's hot.

If you have to ask such a dumb arse question then you are to young to be having sex



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quote:Originally posted by nocuous:

Ohhhh look at the LOSER getting sex advice off the internet because she's too much of a LOSER to learn about it in the real world.

Hypocrite.

EDIT: Yes I am immature. Yes I do hold a grudge. 6 months ago a troll came here named 'psychotogen' and flamed every one he could reach. He later reformed and asked for our help many times. Wah, wah. He can shove it. I'll never help him, or you.

[This message has been edited by nocuous (edited 05-29-2004).]

WOw! They really love me! You still remember that? Thats great, I scarred you for life. DO you dream about me?

Lead him into your room, close and lock the door behind you, push him onto the bed and say "Wow, you look nice from here...Wana fuck?" I know that would work for me anyway



c2

Let's not be hasty. 'Want sex?' works for half of the males on this planet but for the other half with pesky emotional issues and psuedo-celibacy they will not jump into bed with the first person who offers.

However he likes you. No matter how much time it's been, you're high up on his fuck ladder (for all you Ladder Theorists ) and you've had experiences with him in the past.

So yeah, you could probably just ask, no matter how strange it is. I would agree with the Zen: "Ask him if ever thinks about you sexually?"

/redundant post

quote:Originally posted by whiteass:

take his dick and stick it in your mouth.



mmm yes that or u unzip him and spread - he'll do the rest. Its like a memory thats been put in your brain by years of sexual deprivation - you see pussy? you fuck pussy.

Shinigami: :P

Nono, the last one ain't mocking: It's drooling.

Age of consent in Canada: 14

Just don't get pregnent and I would recommend against bringing him home to meet your parents.

well if you do decide to maybe if you slipped him a daterape drug first when your parents try to press charges he could say that you raped him too and then call it quits.

nonetheless if hes 18 and you're 14 and you're not gonna see each other afterwards then you might as well let him go and wait for someone more your own age. dont worry there'll be plenty of guys willing to have sex and some might even fall in love with you first which would make it a lot easier.

losing your virginity is scary, often painful and can just plain not work sometimes so its best to wait for someone you feel you can relax with.

Doesn't matter, I'm ugly anyway

You guys can stop replying

I wish I could die

Just ask him. He'll probablly say yes usless hes gay. If he doesnt want to ill do it for you.

quote:Originally posted by Aunt Jemima:

Doesn't matter, I'm ugly anyway

You guys can stop replying

I wish I could die

Cut that crap, don't let the bastards get you down. And don't get pre-occupied about stuff like this, just be nice to him and play it by ear and it'll happen in good time.

Good luck :-)

quote:Originally posted by CatharticWeek:

Cut that crap, don't let the bastards get you down.

THANKS!!! THAT HELPED LOADS!!!

Hey! You're nicely built aren't you? Have you

tweaked the description of your voluptous teen loveliness, for the Totse audience?

What are your assets? Are you musical or an athlete? Can you Rap? Dance? Tell a good story? Are your * Headlights * as you have described them?

What about church? Plenty of R & B singers learned their Funk in church, before they hit

the street.

Are you saying you find it hard to hold your head high in your peer group?