Well, I finally grew some testicles. As anybody who's read my last two S&A topics (which is ~0 people) knows, there are two things going on in my sex life now: There's a girl who I think may or may not be coming onto me, and I'm angry about my inability to get laid.

It appears that I may have killed two birds with one stone: I was talking to said girl (because non-face to face communication is a lot easier for me [please keep your comments to yourself]), and basically hinted around at the sex issue, and got very promising responses: Something to the effect of, "yes I'd have sex with you any time just say the word". And I'm not exaggerating, just taking out the profanity (hint: the F word). I told her I'd call her, because she's free on Sunday, and wants to 'hang out'. I figure this keeps it pretty non-committal and won't keep me anxious until then.

Well you may be saying to yourself about now, "great job, Justin, but what the fuck are you posting on TOTSE for?". I'm glad you're thinking that, because you come in right here.

I am practically clueless about this kind of stuff. I'm experienced (having given and received oral sex, made out, and all of the stuff kids are liable to do), but I have no experience other than impromptu situations (what can I say, the girls need me right then and there :-\). These questions will reveal how naive I am, but how am I supposed to learn without asking (experience is fickle and I don't want to fuck this up going by intuition)?

A. Least awkward first. She has a boyfriend, apparently, but I can only assume that it's not too serious if she's offering me sex. I certainly have no moral qualms about it, but could this be a problem?

B. She wants to 'hang out' (which I put in qoutes because it's basically a euphemism for having sex), and here's the deal: generally speaking, what is the etiquette concerning choice of location? Personally, I'd prefer her house (less people, those people are more liberal than my family), but is it polite to suggest so? I was always taught that inviting oneself over was rude, but the circumstances are blurred here.

C. I'm not sure if I have another question, so this one is open for filling.

Thank you so much S&A, I will owe you one after this.

EDIT: Apparently, 'bondagemask' has posted a similar topic. Mine is far more comprehensive, so I hope his will be the one deleted for redundancy. Thanks again, S&A

[This message has been edited by deptstoremook (edited 05-28-2004).]

i'll respond to your post because at least i can comprehend the subject matter.

A) As the great Shane McConky once said, "Just because there's a goalie in the goal doesn't mean you can't score." Of course you'll probably succeed in pissing this girl's boyfriend off so i'd make sure he isn't going to come after you with a bat or somesuch.

B) Insofar as where the act should take place if she invites you over to her house then everything is good. However it's not only rude but fucking tacky to invite yourself over, especially since your intention is to nail her. To avoid that circumstance just ask her what time she wants to hang out and show up at her house then, if she invites you in everything is cool, if not go to your place.

C) My question is have you actually had sex before, i know you mentioned that you had experience with oral and the like but have you ever actually slept with a girl?



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A) She is at fault here just as much as you, so I think you're probably safe in terms of his knowledge of the situation. But if he does find out, well, that's your problem. Just make sure you trust her to tell him the truth and not twist around the sequence of events.

B) In this situation, it seems like it would be perfectly reasonable to hint that her house would be a more suitable location. And if you're a blunt kind of person, well, just tell her what you told us- your reasons are legitimate.

quote:C) My question is have you actually had sex before, i know you mentioned that you had experience with oral and the like but have you ever actually slept with a girl?

No, I've never actually had sex. Of course I'm extremely nervy, but if things go that way, I think I'm probably going to be on my own anyway, so I'm not going to bother you guys with that.

quote:B) In this situation, it seems like it would be perfectly reasonable to hint that her house would be a more suitable location. And if you're a blunt kind of person, well, just tell her what you told us- your reasons are legitimate.

Surprisingly, this is my biggest worry (besides the whole not being horribly poor at having sex thing, which is covered above). I'm going to wait for more responses, because the two I've gotten so far are opposites - steph, if you're a chick, I'm going to trust your judgement more, just because. I'm definitely a feminist in that I believe that girls are generally better than guys (a rewarding attitude, more often than not).

Well, I wrote a long comprehensive report to you about how to deal you situation, then my box froze. Sorry, I ain't doing it again. Just thought you might like a *BUMP*

Why the hell are you going out with a slut like that?

Do you just go around asking preppy girls if they'd have sex with you? Do you akwardly approach her, convers lightly for 5 minutes, and then mumble out if she would have sex with you hoping that she'll be slutty to say yes? You're sick.

P.S. I'm stoned

quote:Originally posted by The Misfit:

i'll respond to your post because at least i can comprehend the subject matter.

A) As the great Shane McConky once said, "Just because there's a goalie in the goal doesn't mean you can't score." Of course you'll probably succeed in pissing this girl's boyfriend off so i'd make sure he isn't going to come after you with a bat or somesuch.

B) Insofar as where the act should take place if she invites you over to her house then everything is good. However it's not only rude but fucking tacky to invite yourself over, especially since your intention is to nail her. To avoid that circumstance just ask her what time she wants to hang out and show up at her house then, if she invites you in everything is cool, if not go to your place.

C) My question is have you actually had sex before, i know you mentioned that you had experience with oral and the like but have you ever actually slept with a girl?



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^^my words exactly.

bump for good measure.

A) Watch out for the boyfriend, he’s going to be pissed. If you break them up, is that going to be something that bothers you? If this kid goes postal, be ready to deal with him.

B) If she’s inviting you over, obviously you’re welcome there. If she seems bothered by having sex at her place, tell her there is more of a chance of getting caught at your house. And if either place doesn’t work out, wait for a time when it’s safe, trust me- don’t ruin your first time by having the constant fear of being walked in on.

C) Be safe, be cool, and have good karma, and you’ll be juuuuuuust fine.

quote:Originally posted by deptstoremook:



A. She has a boyfriend. I certainly have no moral qualms about it, but could this be a problem?

I hope you get your ass kicked...

It takes three people to cheat. THe first two in the relationship who don't resolve their problems, and the amoral scapegoat the cheating member of the relationship goes to. All 3 people are as much at fault as anyone.

so has a boyfriend. that just makes it better.

take her out to a unpopular movie, one thats about to go out of theaters, so almost noone will be in there. If she asks you why that movie, just say something along the line of "my friend saw and was surprised that he actually liked it". always lie, a lie will always defeat the truth. You have no moral issues about the boyfriend, then you should have no moral issues about lying to get pussy. I do it all the time. Just say it like you believe, have details but keep them vague.

my friend rick, told about the movie in gym class last thursday and said the ending was really good. He also said they gave him half burnt popcorn so he dumped all over the floor to piss them off.

if you think about what your going to say, your going to fuck up. the whole time you should be thinking about fingering her in the movies, takes practice but youll get it. Sit in the very back corner of the theater. If she questions anything you do, dont make up an excuse. If its a non sexual move, act nonchalant about it and dont give away your real reason. for example:

her: why are we going to that movie? it sucks

you: *cue in friend story*

her: why do you want to sit all the way in the back?

you: that way i dont have any dick behind me kicking my chair or talking

believe your lies and she will believe them too. ever wonder why insane people can lie so good? its because they really do believe their lives. But theyre insane, your not, so you need to trick your brain into believing them.

any sexual moves she questions use this little gem of mine.

"dont worry about it" with a big smile looking into her eyes while your hands move to the breast/crotch. Just basically remember your a man, make no excuses for your sexual desires. Your not there to make them happy, they are there to make you happy. And if they dont, youll find someone else. Be the super-confident alpha male, and i guarentee youll have too much pussy to handle.

white, have you ever heard of "reading the post"? she is coming onto me. I don't need to play any stupid games. Thanks for the useless post.

Oh and it looks like tomorrow is the big day, so I'll have a follow-up post telling about how embarassing and awkward the whole thing was (that's the spirit!)

quote:Originally posted by deptstoremook:

white, have you ever heard of "reading the post"? she is coming onto me. I don't need to play any stupid games. Thanks for the useless post.

Oh and it looks like tomorrow is the big day, so I'll have a follow-up post telling about how embarassing and awkward the whole thing was (that's the spirit!)

first of all, your one the asking where to go, what to do etc. Apparently you lack the sexual experience to make up these decisions on your own. What are you going to? walk up to her and say, "yea remember what you said, well can we go have sex now". Go for it buddy. Next time you need some real sex advice or advice in how to deal with the situation your about to get yourself in (youll understand what i mean soon, and ive been there before), emails in the profile. In the meantime, ive gotta go pickup a new chick and try to fuck in the same day. Why? because im bored and thats what i do when i bored, and wether i succeed or not i always benefit from the lessons i learn.

quote:Originally posted by deptstoremook:

I'm definitely a feminist in that I believe that girls are generally better than guys (a rewarding attitude, more often than not).

It seems that's how most feminists think. Feminism is actually about equality between the sexes and giving women the right to choose what's best for them.

just be yourself, be confident, dont give a fuck if you fuck up or not man, its not a big deal...just have fun...

Before I let myself flame this asshole to a crisp, I'd like to say I appreciate all the constructive responses I've received so far. I'm just going to go with it and see where things go; not to say I'm going to be totally passive, but I'm not going to be a jerk about it either. And on that note:

quote:"dont worry about it" with a big smile looking into her eyes while your hands move to the breast/crotch. Just basically remember your a man, make no excuses for your sexual desires. Your not there to make them happy, they are there to make you happy. And if they dont, youll find someone else. Be the super-confident alpha male, and i guarentee youll have too much pussy to handle.

Oh yes I'm sure you get all the women with that attiude, Jimbob. Do they like the part when you tell them to make you a steak and give them a slap on the ass, too? Girls with mental disabilities count against your score, you know. And I guess I must be terribly ignorant for thinking that a filthy movie theater that smells like stale popcorn and has a sticky floor isn't conducive to sex. You go get 'em tiger, I'm sure they'll be crawling all over you - oh wait, that's just flies.

In conclusion: yes I want sex, but will I be a chauvanistic, uncultured, filthy pig to get it? No. I'll leave that to scum like you.