My boyfriend and I have been having sex for 5 months now and he rarely can last more than 5 minutes. Sometimes we can wait 20 minutes or so and try again, but it still is nothing more than 10 minutes. I have never acted like this was an issue for me, because it really isn't such a big deal, and he claims he's never had this problem before. I was just curious if smoking pot, which he does every day, or taking valium or painkillers pretty moderately, would affect his performance? He gets aroused pretty easily, so his libido seems fine, its just the speed. Thank you!

as much as 5 minutes? you're lucky sister. i remember reading here that actually 3mins is average.

Actually, I would think pot would slow him down. I guess maybe you really excite him. (not bad, right?) Or, he just has no stamina. I don't believe that it has never happened before, I think that is just his excuse.

How frequently do you have sex? Even if it's dailly, his performance seems to be within normal parameters. If it's less than daily, consider yourself lucky.

If he can obtain and maintain an erection, the drugs aren't likely to be a culprit.

Get him to start doing PC exercises (http://www.pla-net.uk.net/free/PCExcercise.html), they will help him last longer (or from what I hear... ).

When taking opiate painkillers, I find sex to be a distraction more than anything. How old is your boyfriend?

geez, whenever im high, it takes me a lot longer time to pop than it would when im sober.

Opiates render me fuck-near impotent. Hard to keep up, and even when I can, it's practically impossible to climax. Also, I've been known to nod out on OxyContin when I was jacking off once...Nothing to sober you up and make you very appreciative of having your own place like waking up 30 minutes later with your dick in your hand.

Oh, and pissing is hard, too. Urinary retention.

Opiates kind of piss me off, now, though they used to be my drug of choice. Now, I'm more of an uppper kind of guy. Much better for my sex drive, too...And since I'm single, they lead to the occasional 8-hour smackfest when I get a bit carried away....Shut up: At least I'm honest.

-Infrared

quote:Originally posted by Infrared:

And since I'm single, they lead to the occasional 8-hour smackfest when I get a bit carried away....Shut up: At least I'm honest.

-Infrared

You know what they say, if you can go 10 times in a row, you're a god.

quote:Originally posted by henteichicken:

i remember reading here that actually 3mins is average.

Three minutes? WTF? I can't cum in less than 13 minutes even if I really try... guess that makes me above average. Yay!

Anyway, I've always found that pot makes me last much, much longer. But then again, my sense of time is warped like hell when I'm sufficiently stoned.

On the flipside, as has been stated already, painkillers are a leading cause of penile softness among men.

I can last long sometimes. Others, just to have my dick be within a half inch of wonderfull, wonderfull snatch sets me off. I find using different positions or being in a

place other than usual can help.

Being after serious physical activity helps a

lot, too.

With Thexxxth being so in our faces today, I think we are all extra horny too. To have it

go from a possiblity to reality is always quite shocking.

For a guy to be where he dreams of...BINGO.

It's like if you dream of winning a million bucks, as a phase for a few days, then bang you win. You see summer comming on & one sunny afternoon you smell BBQ & think how you

hope to go to some nice ones. Then ZAM that very evening, you get invited to one that seems to have everything.

You walk into a store that's having a car draw, so you put in an entry & while you're shopping they draw your name. You win a PP Cruiser.

To suddenly have it come true makes it hard to stay cool.

5 minutes is sad, 3 minutes is worse. i cant even jack myself off in under 10 minutes. sex takes me about half an hour if im trying to cum. wtf is wrong with your boyfriends?

...Lately, I pop WAY, WAY too fast on meth. "Fast" as in "about 12 seconds". Shameful. That's if I'm REALLY turned-on, though..and on meth, I'm REALLY turned-on by near anything.

Maybe I need to smear myself with Prilocaine gel or something, or some other weird desensitizing shit.

Nah, why the fuck would I do that..It's not like I need to last long for MYSELF, or anything.

I'll try it if Avenge comes over.

-Infrared

(joking)

My boyfriend is 23 years old and we try lots of positions, I always suggest different things we can use or do to keep it interesting. We don't see each other every day, but i'd say we average like 3-4 times a week. He doesn't have a problem staying hard, its just he cums very quickly.

Thanks for all the input! Should I just come to the conclusion that he may just be a 5 minute man? Thanks again!

3-4 times a week and he's still a 5 minute man?

I mean shit, after you described your original post I was thinking you were going to post you were both 13.

Anyways, I guess so...just deal with it that he has no control over his penis.

Personally, when I'm on opiates, I can masturbate all I want but never reach orgasm - with the anaestheic properties of opiates, this has led to some minorly irritating chafing (because as Infra and others surely know, absent-mindedness is frequent on opiates). I guess it would be satisfying for the girl but I think I'd fall asleep if I ever tried to have sex on opiates.