ok so about two weeks ago me and my girlfriend were getting jiggy, and the condom splits. i didn't come and so we stopped and thought nothing of it. shes now late on her period, only by a couple of days, but its not the nicest thing to happen. shes also started a diet and been under a bit of exam stress in the last month. am i just being paranoid? or should i start shitting myself?

give it another week or so and then go get a proper test done. dont try those diy ones.good luck kiddo

Wait a couple of weeks and get a test done for you at a youth advice centre.

Its still entirely possible shes not but begin to prepare yourself.

Why the hell didn't you shove the morning after pill down her throat?? Don't they teach you anything at school?

read the first post. we didnt feel anything was wrong. it was a stupid mistake. she's still not worried incidentally.

the chances are she's right. although pre come can contain sperm its fairly unlikely that she is pregnant.

*fingers crossed* thanks for the replies so soon. anyone else got anything to say keep it coming. flame me for being stupid, whatever. i just gotta wait it out i guess!

Get a pregnency test....

For you I mean.

chill out... 95% chance you're fine. it's happened to all of us and most of us aren't parents because of it.

i recently read that even if an egg gets fertilized that it only has a 33% chance of surviving into a full blown baby. So i bet the chances are slim, especially if you pulled out after it broke.

Yeah, your chances are very slim to none.

you know how many chicks ive fucked without a condom and did cum? granted not inside them. And im still a childless bum. Dont use condoms, you can be just like me.

How the hell does a chick even know when she's late? I can understand if it's been two months or something, but a couple of days? What the hell? Who is that regular anyway?

quote:Originally posted by GlitterPunk112358:

Who is that regular anyway?

No offense, but this is one of those "wait till you are older" situations...

If you only spilled pre-cum in her, it's very unlikely she could get pregnant unless you just jerked off and came right before fucking her.

thought i'd revive the thread to say she's a week overdue and still no sign. i've given up pinning my hopes on her new diet. so she headed down the clinic wednesday. if she is pregnant, what do they actually do to her? its only like 3 weeks so she barely getting going.

she gonna get rid of it. neither of us want to ruin our lives. i know you yanks aint hot on that kind of thing. but oh well. i just want some facts.

good luck with that man..tell what happens..im interested.

Shittie

Are you Pro Choice hentei?

quote:Originally posted by henteichicken:



i saw what an abortion did to a girl in our church last year. she ended up killing herself.

I doubt she would have killed herself if it weren't for the church.

Twiggy, have her buy an at home pregnancy test. They are actually pretty effective these days, and should be able to tell you whether she is or not. Make sure she is right on the dates that she was supposed to get it too. And don't start to fret too much yet, if she is dieting and she's been stressed out a lot this month, that can actually cause her to skip an entire month. Whatever you decide to do, if (and I doubt it) she's pregnant is a decision that needs to made by both of you. Do whatever is best for your lives, and don't let anyone else sway you. Only you know what you can handle and what you are capable of right now.

Thankyou Avenge dude and everyone else that has offered me some real help. as for the henteichicken yank/whore/slut whatever, i have some home truths.

1) it is not a baby, or a child, it is a foetus. It is not yet alive.

2) imagine you are this child when it is born it will either be a) raised by a single person (me and my girl split not too long ago), thus knowing it was a mistake and never meant to be, or b) will be put up for adoption, not knowing its real parents and been forced to realise it was a mistake and not wanted in the world. because thats exactly what it was - a mistake. it was out of mine and my girlfriends hands.

3) the chick you know killed herself because of her religion. im anti- religion and my girl is nothing. the girls problem was she was influenced by a power that convinced her she wasevil. hence religion is the bane of all men.

4) a year ago when we started having sex my girl and i made a deal that anything that happens will be terminated: she wants to get a degree, so do i. she wants to be a singer/musician, and a child would hinder her dreams somwhat.

5) as a result, if the child is born it will pass its days in a one bedroom council house in total squalor. not the ideal upbringing for a child, it will probably be on crack and mugging old ladies by the time it is 10.

6) the world is such a cruel and fucked up place i consider it WRONG to bring a child into it at this present time. i have no wish for my children to witness the end of the world.

7) MOST IMPORTANTLY: i am not affected by your "morals", seeing as you have been indoctrinated by a system that seems to put happiness of the yet to be born before those of the living. as it is, you seem to live a pretty-unclean life. no offence, but thats the idea me and most people get.

therefore:

Unless you plan on telling me what treatment they will give my (ex) girlfriend, seeing as she's only at 3 1/2 weeks if its actually happened, thus making your attempt at grossing me out with pictures extremely humorous, please refrain from posting on this topic.

Thankyou

to the rest: please give me some help where this chick is not.

Sorry to get on my high horse, this shit just freaks me out ya know? anyways. she's going the clinic on wednesday if nout appears. apparently they can also give a bigger version of the morning after pill, which is probably more preferable to the hoover.

it would be interesting to know wether the clinic does offer after care counciling(sp?) (long term) or if like with my friend its just 'forget about it and get on with your life?'

cos if they don't counsel then you perhaps think about it even if you have to pay.

ps.she too had the chemical method.

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by chemical method... you mean the big pill?

quote:Originally posted by Twiggy:

by chemical method... you mean the big pill?



yes although i don't know which one. she said she'd had to take several things in conjunction.

yeah i getcha.

but fuck. she isnt going wednesday, shes decided she wants to pretend nothing is wrong - her words. ive told her that the longer she takes the more gruesome the termination is gonna be. she doesnt care. i note with humour she also doesnt care that im worried so much i dont sleep. shes not going to keep it, but isnt going to act asap. i am my waking nightmare.

please don't take offence at someone as fucked up as me saying this but your girlfriend doesn't sound like the most stabile of women at the moment.

anyway i hope real bad it works out well for you both.

im leaving her proper after this mess is sorted. at least, i feel that way now.

yeah except she needs you now more than ever , even if she can't see it. you've got this far-you'll make it i reckon.

It's normal for her to try and push it to the back of her mind. If she doesn't think about it, nothings wrong...right? Wrong. You must make her understand the importance of the situation, and also make her understand that if she ignores the problem, it will NOT go away. The longer she waits, the harder it will be. Plus, if she is pregnant, and waits too long she won't be able to have an abortion. Most clinics only abort, up to max 16 weeks.

hi twiggy did you manage to get some sleep last night and does the your world look any better this morning?

quote:Originally posted by henteichicken:

twiggy here are some facts for you -what will happen to your child (http://www.priestsforlife.org/resources/photosbyage/index2.htm#thumbnails)

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eww they look like those jelly sweets you can buy.

mmm jelly babies.

Evenin' all. well todays news. i dont know whether she is paying me back for something, but she informed me today that (disturbing as the thought is anyway) her mum is also late, and they both suspect the diet. so when her mum starts panicking, she will. i kinda see her point. ive been in reading today visiting a uni, which took my mind off it, and i feel almost human. so fingers crossed.

new note: she just brought a test. dunno when she plans on doing it.

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I tried best as I could to thoroughly read the posts, but I was irritated by the fucking abortion debate. Hentei, debate the subject on one of many of the threads in Humanities or Politics. Do a search.

Had to get that off my chest.

Anyways, Twiggy, it's very rare for a woman to be first-time pregnant and not "know it". She'd be incredibly ill, with copious vomiting. She'd also be very tired, fatigued, have no appetite and be suddenly averse to her favorite foods. She'd also likely have a generally "weird, crappy" feeling. If she has NO such symptoms, she's either one of the rare (lucky?) gals, or she's not pregnant.

Edit: Snipped out a particularly snippy remark. Apologies, hentei, I blame hormones and planetary alignment.

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^^^ well i think twiggy understood that i'm more concerned about what could happen to his g/f and not in having an abortion debate.



ps.wasn't sure which posts you found wrong so i may have 'overdeleted'

[This message has been edited by henteichicken (edited 05-25-2004).]

newsflash: she took the test. negative.

good morning world.

that is great news. i'm really glad for you and her (or is that off topic?)

no no tis cooool. thanks lil lady