Here's the situation...

Me and my friend went to his brother's baseball game a few weeks back on a Friday. While we were there we met two girls there. After talking for a few hours and having a really fun time, we had to go. Her friend (I'll call her Jane for now) tells me on Saturday that her friend (We'll call her Sarah) likes me and thinks I'm pretty cool. I thought to myself "Wow this could really go somewhere". After going to her house and talking, getting to know each other, etc., We had tons of similarities. Well here's part two of the story.

Monday everyone goes back to school, and I see Sarah there. I thought to myself that I could get to hook up with her sometime over the week. Problem she has, you guessed it, a boyfriend! This guy's name is Dan and he's the biggest fucking poser there is. He's also been known to cheat on other girls while he has a girlfriend and to dump them roughly about 1 month later, leaving them emotionally depressed.

Sad thing is, Sarah doesn't even love him or like him all that much, and she thinks she's FORCED to go out with him because she feels bad if she were ever to dump him.

Me and Jane have been trying to think of ways so I can hook up with her, but it seems there's just no possible way. I'm at the point where I really do love her a lot but am slightly depressed on the whole situation. I DO NOT want to see her get very depressed if he were to break up with her.

What should I do and where should I start?

(Sorry this is so long)

I feel you pain man there is one really fast soultion to your problem.

Kick his ass and then take " Sarah " away.

All you can do is talk to her about it. Explain the situation as you see it. And if she decides to continue to date this guy, there's really nothing you can do. She's making the decision to stay in a dead-end relationship. My advice? Move on. You only recently met this girl. I don't see how "love" could seriously be a factor yet. Sorry, but that's just my two cents.

Dude...Thinking up a plan of action to get with "Sarah" is all good if you're in a fuckin' movie or a cartoon!

They don't work very well in real life!

Just tell her that he's a poser, he's a user and he doesn't give two shits if she's hurt and depressed after he's had his fun with her!

Then you can also drop in the fact that you really like her and want to be with her.

Also the "feeling bad if she dumps him" crapola is just sad dude!

Tell her she ain't being forced to go out with anyone...The only one forcing her to be with him is her!

Be a man and don't hold back what YOU want to say...If it goes well, great.

If it goes tits-up then at least you can say you tried and there's always a future possibility of being with her.

Good luck sonny!

Yeah i agree with the kick his ass technique. If he's a poser he should get his ass kicked anyway. But now you have more than one good reason to hurt him. If you're not strong or whatever don't worry. Just take a baseball bat, lead pipe, etc. and you'll be invincible. Another method of getting with sarah (black hair or brown?) is just waiting for the poser to cheat on her. Then you'll have three reasons to kick his ass. So after you beat him up and appear as the savior she'll fall into you're arms feeling safe and secure and the possibilities are endless. Plus she would have been completely emotionally broken down after being cheated on. Just make sure you're not the rebound guy that she dumps in a couple o' weeks.

Unfortunately, I'm going to take the opposite side on this situation than everyone else.

It's not his fault he's an idiot, she continues to stay with him, why? Don't give me that bullshit about feeling bad about leaving him. That's the shittiest excuse I have ever heard. If she doesn't like him and she really likes you she WILL leave him.

If they were married and had like 3 kids still in school then this excuse is more valid. But as young kids or young adults in school it does not hold water. Sorry.

First of all don't hate on Dan because he gets a hell of a lot more play then you.

Second of all, who gives a fuck if she has a boyfriend, girls will break up with them if they feel you are giving them a big enough reason to.

I suggest you pull your dick out your pants and use it to seperate her from her boyfriend.

Thanks for the advice guys, except you Carbon.

You are an asshole.

quote:Originally posted by Neurosphere:

Thanks for the advice guys, except you Carbon.

You are an asshole.

CarbonB is kick ass. You suck.

i admire your sentiments kid and its always right to want to keep others from harm BUT you can't live other peoples lives for them.just wish her well and be there for her if it all goes to hell and back.

life's a bitch and watching people you care for get hurt sucks -welcome to adulthood.

sounds like "sarah" is actually "steven" and "Jane" "james"...

quote:Originally posted by skank:

sounds like "sarah" is actually "steven" and "Jane" "james"...

Wow, that was almost as unhelpful as the reply I'm making right now...