Having listened to a healthy dose of Loveline for the past 4 years, I've learned a bit about female behavior in relation to fathers. Every night multiple girls come on the show and they have problems. It is almost ALWAYS because of the father. Now, before recently, this was all just something I had noticed while listening to the show. I mean, if it was one, and a girl came on talking about how she is with an abusive guy, or how she thinks she got raped even though she got naked and put the guys dick in her mouth, I can guess that she has father problems.

Anyways, recently, I been fucking around with this girl. Up until her, I had never met a girl quite as loose with her body (Not her virginity and such, but her tits, ass, thighs, etc. I'm sure getting her to lose her viriginity wouldn't be difficult as I was quite close to doing so). Well, later I remember that this bitch doesn't have a father. I don't know the story, but her and her mom have been on their own for a while.

This is mostly just an observation, but what are you guys experiences? If a girl hasn't had a father, or had an abusive father or something, is she whorish (generally)?

well look at it this way, if she doesn't have a father, it could mean that her mother wasn't a stuck up prude snob so why should her dauther?

plus if she doesn't have a male figure in the house it might be safe to assume she isn't as fearful of her figure and probably doesn't need to worry as much about it at home, and if she's always been doing it, why should she change for other occasions?

quote:This is mostly just an observation, but what are you guys experiences? If a girl hasn't had a father, or had an abusive father or something, is she whorish

(generally)?

(C'mon, you all know the words: Long post below, be warned)

This is the kind of thing from which Freud and his contemporaries made their livings.

I once heard it described that women who have an absent father figure in their lives can behave in two ways:

First, if their father died, they generally act reasonably confidently when it comes to romance but can be somewhat naiive at times -- this is perhaps due to the fact that while love from their primary male figure was never in question, they don't have someone they can talk with about how guys work and what they think.

Second, if their father isn't dead but is otherwise absent (missing, divorced, etc.) then they tend to act with needy insecurity when it comes to romance -- they attempt many romances because they need validation from a male figure, but when things start to get close they usually cause the relationship to self-destruct because they subconsciously (or otherwise) don't want to risk the pain that would be caused by the guy leaving (and why not, since her primary male figure already left, and "logically" ...)

Now, when it comes to women who have had abusive fathers, they can behave in a number of ways depending on the kind of abuse.

First of all, if the abuse was enough to make the woman outright scared of men, then this can have the effect of making her completely unresponsive or, at the very least, apprehensive or anxious in response to romantic or sexual advances, however nice the guy may be.

In other situations, where the abuse in question hasn't made the woman necessarily scared of men but, on the other hand, hasn't given her any reason to feel confident in her dealings with men (e.g. if she feels that submission will get her what she wants, rather than assertiveness) then she may very well lack the confidence to assert their own desires in response or defiance to a man's wishes.

Promiscuity can arise in this latter circumstance because, on first appearances, it empowers the woman to have men do what she wants and to respond in a way she can predict and control. She gets the attention and validation she needs, although arguably it's not the kind of situation that's at all ideal for her.

You're not the first to discover this. It's been the question and result of countless studies.

Girls without fathers are also more likely to be raped.

quote:Originally posted by nocuous:

You're not the first to discover this. It's been the question and result of countless studies.

Girls without fathers are also more likely to be raped.

I didn't say or claim that I discovered it. You'll notice the intro where I talk about years of listening to Loveline...

quote:Originally posted by TheDragon:

Having listened to a healthy dose of Loveline

Am I the only one who quit reading after this part?