So, my very best male friend told me at christmas that he loved me, even though I'd just broken up with this really cool fella I was mad about. I said no, he refused to talk to me for a week, until he drunkenly rang me on New Year's Eve, insinuated that I'm an evil hoor, and 'generously' forgave me.

Then for his birthday, I bought him tickets to go see band. We all got really drunk on the way home and I ended up kissing this guy we're both friendly with. My friend took it badly and started calling me a hoor, and generally berating me.

He was meant to be staying at my house, but instead walked the ten miles to his, at 2.30am. He rang me four days later to complain how I'm only interested in 'lesser people', and blamed me for hurting his feelings WHICH he told me no longer existed.

Anytime I mention any boy in front of his he gets all huffy and bitchy.

This boy is a bastard. I am almost blameless in the matter. Discuss

I hate women like you. A guy falls in love, you don't really give him a straight answer, and then go and kiss other guys in front of him. You are a "hoor"

Its not nice to string a person along.

There is a "friends" ladder and a "real" ladder. The problem is that women never let you know what ladder you're on.

hahaha...this is classic

i agree you are blameless, but you are going to piss off a lot of losers that identify with "your friend"

WHAT? I can't believe the response!!

Djeez, if someone tells you "I love you", the girl just has to jump up and suck his cock!! Fuck's sake... Heck, if you love somebody and you're not loved back, deal with it!

The story which i understood:

* I love you

* I don't

<no talking for week from guy>

* You are an evil whore, but i forgive you

I mean... Djeezes, the logic here is a bit radical, no?

And I am a guy!! And you have absolutely nothing to feel guilty for. He is yr friend? Friends don't act like that!!! Even when you get hurt for not being loved back. Act like a man and suck it in, don't be a whiny bitch about it and try to blame everybody...

[This message has been edited by --SEmper (edited 05-07-2004).]

this is just like guys keeping bitches who love them just so we can get a piece. except in this case, women wont cry and act like your a horrible person for ignoring someones feelings to get your emotional jollies.

Since I'm not God and don't know the whole story...

I reckon he's a loser. Sod it and ignore him.

This is probably your own fault for not telling him to fuck off earlier in no uncertain terms.

He's heartbroken. He's having a little bit of trouble dealing with the fact that you don't like him. Even though it's not your fault that he loves you or whatever, you don't have to bring up other guys and kiss other guys in front of him

You know what Im in love with my best friend who is a girl. Ive been in love with her for about 2 to 3 years now. All I gotta say is he is acting extremley dumb and selfish. Ive never acted that way to someone I truly love and they didnt love me back. Bottom Line is he is a dumb ass. Girl you do what you do and let him be a dumb shit.

First time ever I agree with Glitterpunk.

[QUOTE]Originally posted by boobsy mcfirehazard:

I said no, he refused to talk to me for a week, until he drunkenly rang me on New Year's Eve, insinuated that I'm an evil hoor, and 'generously' forgave me.

Hey I did not forgive you

I think you and your friend need to stop getting drunk so much, ho.

quote:Originally posted by GlitterPunk112358:

He's heartbroken. He's having a little bit of trouble dealing with the fact that you don't like him. Even though it's not your fault that he loves you or whatever, you don't have to bring up other guys and kiss other guys in front of him



Well said, glitter.

I should have pointed out that round January he told me he was over me and it was an over reaction.

After reading more responses, I still completely agree with myself. You are blameless. You do not have to allow some guy to make you feel guilty or make you change how you live your life because he decides to start a unilateral relationship with you. It would be bad enough if he was getting jealous if you all just had a few dates. Getting jealous after nothing was started at all is psycho. If you want to be considerate of his feelings and tip toe around him, you can. If you want to tell him to get a clue, you can do that too.

quote:Originally posted by Easy Going:

After reading more responses, I still completely agree with myself. You are blameless. You do not have to allow some guy to make you feel guilty or make you change how you live your life because he decides to start a unilateral relationship with you. It would be bad enough if he was getting jealous if you all just had a few dates. Getting jealous after nothing was started at all is psycho. If you want to be considerate of his feelings and tip toe around him, you can. If you want to tell him to get a clue, you can do that too.

You are pretty much blameless, but it's still not cool to kiss other guys in front of him. I've been on that end a few times and it just hurts like hell. A really agree with GlitterPunk too.

You ARE blameless!! Reject any feelings of guilt! Love, Venus.

quote:Originally posted by boobsy mcfirehazard:

... We all got really drunk on the way home and I ended up kissing this guy we're both friendly with. ...

funny how everyone is forgetting the drunk part, which can be an excuse cuz drunkeness blurs judgement ... but to me what you do while you're drunk is just something you had the idea for already but you're using being drunk as an excuse to finally do it ... you are blameless, yes, it's not your fault he's in love with you. (i had a somewhat similar situation, but not gonna get into that) kissing other guys in front of him however, is a bit heartless if you want to consider his feelings since he's your "friend".

Blameless? I doubt it.

Something tells me if this guy came here and gave us his side of the story it'd be a tad bit different.

Now, I'm not saying you're lying, he could very well be just one of those emotional slightly insane, over dependent boys. Or you could be one of those girls that habitually leads on any guy that shows interest in her. One of these girls that goes around collecting crushes. Actually, most women are like this, but most men aren't like the guys I motioned before which is what makes me doubt you here.

-Nocuous