I'll start off by saying that the answer is neither "use a speculum" or "use a sharp knife and make an I-shaped cut across the torso". Sick fuckz0rs.

Female friend of mine. Long time. She used to confide in me about everything. For some reason, lately, she stopped. She tells me that she can't open up to me anymore because she's afraid she'll hurt me somehow, but then also tells me she's "bleeding inside", because she has nobody else to confide in..she basically inadvertently makes me feel bad, and EXTREMELY powerless, because so much is going on inside her and yet she won't talk to me about it..and I don't know why. But what can I do? What can I do to get her to trust me, to talk to me like she used to, to trust that she's not going to hurt me by saying things, or anything. She just won't open up anymore..I don't know why. And it hurts me to know that so much is going on inside her, that she wants to scream out, but won't, because she feels she'll hurt me. Any advice on the matter is appreciated

-Infrared

tell her that no matter what she wont hurt he, cause she means so much to you (she obviously does by your post) if she still doesnt go, ask her to just say one of the smaller things she thinks is hurtful, just ask her for one of the smaller problems and try to help her out with that, ask her to look back on your history together "how long have we been friends?" "even if you did/have hurt me, i still stuck by you, you know that" if all else fails, tell her if it gets bad urge her to go talk to a pro (yes im talking shrinks, but view them as a last resort, unless you seriously think shes suicidal) trust me, better a pissed friend, than a dead one. I nearly lost a really close friend of mine like that, she said she was suicidal and didnt want to live..i didn't take her completely seriously..shes out of school for two weeks..i hear from her parents shes in the hospital for attempted suicide, i got there fast, but i wasnt alowed to see her..just ask her kindly if she'll talk to you again, ell her that you'll alasy try your best not to hurt her, ect, ect, also, tell her what you said in your post, that it hurts you she cant confide in you anymore, and that even though she doesnt you'll still be her friend (you should anyway) best of luck and let us know how it goes

c2

quote:Originally posted by c2:

tell her that no matter what she wont hurt he, cause she means so much to you (she obviously does by your post) if she still doesnt go, ask her to just say one of the smaller things she thinks is hurtful, just ask her for one of the smaller problems and try to help her out with that, ask her to look back on your history together "how long have we been friends?" "even if you did/have hurt me, i still stuck by you, you know that" if all else fails, tell her if it gets bad urge her to go talk to a pro (yes im talking shrinks, but view them as a last resort, unless you seriously think shes suicidal) trust me, better a pissed friend, than a dead one. I nearly lost a really close friend of mine like that, she said she was suicidal and didnt want to live..i didn't take her completely seriously..shes out of school for two weeks..i hear from her parents shes in the hospital for attempted suicide, i got there fast, but i wasnt alowed to see her..just ask her kindly if she'll talk to you again, ell her that you'll alasy try your best not to hurt her, ect, ect, also, tell her what you said in your post, that it hurts you she cant confide in you anymore, and that even though she doesnt you'll still be her friend (you should anyway) best of luck and let us know how it goes

c2

the best lesson is, dont harass her, tell her that you understand if she dosent want to tell you, but that your there for her, and you would like to know. DO not tell her that she cant hurt you because SHE CAN, my last gf didnt want to tell me something, I told her that she couldnt hurt me.

Turns out that she lied to me about getting drunk with her guy friends, and also that she loved her friend, the guy that we smoked with twice, and who was kinda my friend. Damn that hurt like a motherfucker.

Just tell her that youll understand and that you are there for her, if she is going to open up she will.



PS, maybe she likes you but dosent want to tell you because she or you might hurt her and shes so afraid of getting hurt. Just be there for her.

tell her you have to "probe" her insides to find the source of the bleeding

quote:She tells me that she can't open up to me anymore because she's afraid she'll hurt me somehow, but then also tells me she's "bleeding inside", because she has nobody else to confide in..she basically inadvertently makes me feel bad

You gotta tell her that 'Red.

Basically like this:

"You don't want to hurt me?...Well you're already hurting my by not telling me...We're friends and you know you can trust me"

Try it mate.

Good luck.

Stop indulging your weaknesses and get a hobby that makes a positive impact on the world around you.

No wait, sorry, I was on autopilot for a second there.

Leave her alone. Depressed girls are like a brick wall- They literally can't hear what you're saying. Leave her to wallow in her angst. She'll snap out of it once she realizes how many friendships it's costing her.

use a speculum, failing that use a sharp knife and make an I-shaped cut across the torso

or just wind her legs open with a whinch system, then shell be open right?

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I thought the internet was designed so we can all work out our personal problems anonymously.

Seriously though, she should try to find some online support group or something. Sometimes it's better to talk to strangers about problems.

Ok Infared you are turning in to one big wet sobbing pussy.

Get some napkins dry yourself off and stop acting like a bitch.

Stop trying to persuade a fucking girl to talk to you, if they want to talk they will talk.

Leave them alone and then just ignore them god, all this moaning and beoch babble is driving me INSANE!

^Then fucking ignore it, you idiot. You're the only blubbering vagina around here.

Your the one making fucking 50 threads about the same bitch that DUMPED YOUR ASS.



Get the FUCK over it you pathetic loser, she left you she likes other guys, your no longer her protector.

All you are making it out to be is you looking like a fucking whore.

Jesus Christ! Since when did fucking men start turning into pussy's.

quote:Originally posted by CarbonB:

Your the one making fucking 50 threads about the same bitch that DUMPED YOUR ASS.



Get the FUCK over it you pathetic loser, she left you she likes other guys, your no longer her protector.

All you are making it out to be is you looking like a fucking whore.

Jesus Christ! Since when did fucking men start turning into pussy's.



When lawsuits and sexual harassment charges were introduced...

Ok touche!

I still believe that men need to get a grip on their hormones and leave bitches alone.

^Sorry if you mean otherwise, but you make it out to be as if men are at fault here. I seem to recall women in large numbers being the same way with guys. Maybe he liked her and doesn't want to lose something good in his life?

I suggest not bitching at someone who can actually express emotion and make it felt just through what he types. He is asking help. If you don't want to give help, then either ignore his posts, leave the forum, or shut the hell up. People come here for help, so if you don't want to give it, then shut the fuck up and leave the job to someone considerate, since it's painfully obvious that it's too hard for your dumb ass.

quote:Originally posted by SkiPpYP:

I thought the internet was designed so we can all work out our personal problems anonymously.

Exactly, somewhat like "glory holes".

Just joking.

Moron, he has had help in the last 5 fucking threads about the same bitch.

Opening countless discussions about his emotionall disgrace is not my problem.

I can comment however I want and if he so chooses to have me unleashed upon him then I shall do my WORST GOOD SIR!

^Interesting How quickly 50 can turn into 5.

And yes, you are free to comment how you like. Just as I am.

[This message has been edited by [G-Prime] (edited 05-12-2004).]