Okay... As most of you know from my other posts I am with this guy named Ben. Well yesterday at lunch we went to his house with a couple of friends of ours Ashley and David. Well, me and Ben go in his room and Ashley and David were in the living room. Well, I thought that Ben and I were going to do "stuff" But he said he didn't have any energy. I knew something was wrong because for the past week we had kind of lost touch and weren't talking much. I told him that it bothered me and he was like yeah it bothers me too. I asked him if he was happy and he said yes. I told him that was all that mattered is that we are happy. So I am laying on top of him and I rolled over next to him and he asked me if we should just be friends (Remember I almost lost my virginity to him after 3 weeks, I was too tight though) I said well if thats what you want, I mean I feel that we kind of rushed things and that might have ruined things which I hope is not the case and he agreed. So... We are going to hang out this weekend and everything but I don't know since we are just friends I don't really know how to act around him now. I want to be a friends with benefits type deal but then I was starting to think that maybe he will just want sex or whatever.. What should I do about my situation?

Tell him what YOU want from this deal.

It's all well and good him initiating the "Just friends" ray of death or whatever but you also have a say in this.

Tell him that you want to be friends with benefits...Or just friends or whatever the Hell it is you want.

If he can't respect your wishes then he, in my view, isn't worth the time and effort!

I had the same thing and I told her that I was cool with just being friends.

Turned out she was allowed to do whatever she wanted, which I was cool with but as soon as I even glanced in the general direction of another woman she'd go fucking ape-shit and slag the other girl off and call me a pig and moan at me about being an arsehole!

All because I didn't lay down my terms and conditions.

Good luck with that.

quote:Originally posted by Someone21special:

I want to be a friends with benefits type deal but then I was starting to think that maybe he will just want sex or whatever.. What should I do about my situation?

If you want to be friends with benefits, dont you want sex too, so why should you worry about him just wanting sex...anywho...good luck..

do what this guy sez!!!

gd luck