How in the hell do you talk/work yourself out of a profound, deep, burning jealousy and sadness combined? I'm talking where you're sitting there, nasty, brooding look on your face, your mind ravaged by the fire and the mental images of the cause of your jealousy (usually female), and yet tears are also coming out of your eyes, because you're a depressive, weak wreck who can't seem to actualize him/herself?

This advice would be most appreciated. Thanks.

-Infrared

get out there with some buddies and find a new girl.......it's NEVER worth dwelling over a girl.....it just eats you up and you miss out on a lot of other fun things you coulda done in the meantime......don't let it get the best of you......why don't you take it as one of lifes sick lessons and move on.......

-Oh yeah Infra lay off all the narcotics.....i noticed at BLTC you had quite a downer stash........

[This message has been edited by Shonkman (edited 05-03-2004).]

hey inrared..

I was wondering.. how old are U ?

Too old to be acting like this.

But even I have my breaking point.

You say to yourself:

"I need to see my dealer".

Then you go see him.

Then you shoot Heroin.

Problem sovled(hah)

I actually drink till I can't feel feelings anymore... then eventually when I wake up in a state of torpor I sit and think about the situation and how I can affect it... if it is out of my control, I try getting over it...and if that doesn't work I drink more and try again when I wake up.

Usually I try speed the "getting over process", by reading philosophical texts.



"Dwell not on the past, use it to illustrate a point, then leave it behind.

Nothing really matters except what you do now in this instant of time. From this moment onward you can be an entirely different person."

"There is only one courage and that is the courage to go on dying to the past, not to collect it, not to accumulate it, not to cling to it. We all cling to the psat, and because we cling to the past we become unavailable to the present."

"We learn wisdom from failure much more than from success: we often discover what will do by finding out what will not do: and probably he who never made a mistake never made a discovery."

Or my favourite: Bertrand Russell

When some misfortunte threatens, consider seriously and deliberately what is the very worst that could possibly happen. Having looked this possible misfortune in the face, give yourself sound reasons for thinking that after all it would be no such terrible disaster. Such reasons always exist, since at the worst nothing that happens to onself has any cosmic importance. When you have looked for some time steadily at the worst possibility and have said to yourself with real conviction. "Well, after all, that would not matter so very much", you will find that your worry diminishes to a quite extraordinary extent. It may be necessary to repeat the process a few times, but in the end if you have shirked nothing in facing the worst possible issue, you will find that your worry disappears altogether and is replaced by a kind of exhilaration.

... doubt that helped, but hey.

I know exactly how you feel. I guess I just got through it by getting fucked up and not thinking about it, and trying to find someone else. Of course, I'm not the most mentally healthy person in the world, but you don't seem to be either. I guess I don't remember finding a way to make it better, I just suffered through it.

Once, my ex had the nerve to ask if her new guy (my supposed best friend) could come over that afternoon to help her move her stuff out of my house. That sucked. We ended up getting back together, but that's been almost two years ago and it still drives me fucking crazy.

So in short, suck a Fentanyl patch and wait for years of mental anguish.