I'm a twenty year old male, I have a beautiful girlfriend but I seldom have any motivation to do anything sexual with her, and when I do, it's extremely sudden, I seemingly have no control over it. I often forget what I'm doing while having sex, and find myself then unable to perform.

When I'm genuinely interested in having sex, I always seem to perform extremely well, however currently my mind seems to be anywhere but thinking about sex, this is very disturbing for me, especially since I cannot seem to figure out what it causing these problems.

Any candor on my problem would be greatly appreciated, thanks.

well, i'm 19 and i had a little problem before. it's just that i would think too much during, and sometimes worry that i wasn't performing well enough. it sounds weird, but i found that if i just relaxed and enjoyed myself i did fine.

not sure if that's what your problem is, but it sounds similar to my experience.

good luck.

try to not cum unless you are with her

No harm in a quick check-up and get your testosterone level checked out

You will need the following:

1x private room

1x TV

1X VCR/DVD player

Lots of Kleenex!

If that don't getcha in the mood then I don't know what will!

Sorry I couldn't be of much use!

Maybe your gay and find yourself sexually attracted to men and not to women.

Just food for thought.

get some new pussy. it doesnt matter how hot your girl is, they always get boring.

Well I know I'm not gay because I'll sometimes watch gay porn to see if I get aroused and I never have, so I don't think that's the problem.

Is it possible that I'm bored with her? That's extremely disturbing. We have an open relationship so I can fuck anybody I want, but I really just don't think about sex very often at all, I don't think it's that and I sincerely hope it isn't.

I wouldn't worry about it man. Some people just don't have as much sex as other people so there is nothing wrong with it.

Although I don't know why you WOULDN'T want to.

Also, you could try new things with sex if it's getting boring i.e. toys etc...

Start takin Extenze...

I had a similar problem. Almost a year went by, I found another girl, and the problem was gone.

I don't think it had anything to do with sexual attraction -- it may have been the boredom of monogomy (trust me: NEVER get in a monogomous relationship.) Also, having a vacation from sex for a few months made me a rather horny individual.

I've sworn off monogamy for some time now. The problem is made worse that my dick is rather insensitive, sex (coital or otherwise) hardly feels good for me in most cases, this paired with my wandering mind and apparent lack of sexual desire makes for serious problems.

[This message has been edited by Ghast (edited 05-04-2004).]

quote:Originally posted by CarbonB:

Maybe your gay and find yourself sexually attracted to men and not to women.

Just food for thought.

Is it just me, or has every post you've recentley made been related to someone being gay? You insecure bastard.

Anyway, go on some hardcore lesbian porn, if that doesn't interest you, jerk off for the sake of it, your sex drive will return soon after, I assure you.

dude why the hell are you watching gay porn??!! thats a problem in its self!

anyway maybe you could try some horny goat weed or something of the like to get you feeling raunchy!

Are you totally sure that you're not a complete pussy? Because that can often be the problem. Just get really drunk with her

goto www.beyond-a-century.com (http://www.beyond-a-century.com) and look up tribulus and longjack. those will put wood on the moon.

quote:Originally posted by Ghast:

Well I know I'm not gay because I'll sometimes watch gay porn to see if I get aroused and I never have, so I don't think that's the problem.

Is it possible that I'm bored with her? That's extremely disturbing. We have an open relationship so I can fuck anybody I want, but I really just don't think about sex very often at all, I don't think it's that and I sincerely hope it isn't.

Maybe you're gay and just don't like gay porn. Meh, that's probably bullshit, but whatever.

Ok Ghast.. First off.. If you're bored of her, you'll know it. I'm not just talking about sexually. Do you have fun with her/being around her? or doing anything with her? If yes, then you aren't bored. As to sex, I can't say it's a big deal. I have no interest in sex whatsoever, but when I'm with my girlfriend, I change that. It's hard to explain, but I can just change, like flicking a swich.

Anyways about you, if you really think it's a problem, then go to a doctor.