This is it this will be the last time i will say anythink about my ex girlfriend on this site,i promis.

So ime gonna tell you the whole story start to finish and then ask you all some questions and i hope you can help me out.

Here goes,

The first time i saw Teresa was when my and my friend Phill where walking down the road,and Teresa and her friend walked by us,Phill knows Teresa from school.Teresa asked phill about Clair(phills girlfriend) and Teresas friend asked me my name,i told her and me and Phill walked on.

The next day Phill goes to school Teresa tells phill she wants to meet me,so a few weeks later we finely meet up,me Teresa,Phill and Clair,all go to see a movie.Teresa was expecting me to ask her out ,but i dident,and then the next day she emails me and ask me if i will go with her and i tell her yes.

Then after about three weeks she dumpps me because she thinks the relationship is'ent going any where.We stay friends and about a week later she asks me out again,and again i say yes.Then about a month later she dumps me again.

Now she hasent talked to me since then and its been a month now,and ime still thinking about her all the time i cant forget her, and i want her back.

A few notes~In the time we went out we never once kissed, she had been in alot more relationships than me(one of the other people she went out with she was together with for 9 months,and the guy proposed to her).

So some questions~

1)When she told me she thought the relationships wasent going anywhere,what the fuck does that mean?

2)Do you think she just wanted more phyisical affection from me?

3)Do you think there will ever be any way we could get back together?

If you want any more details on anythink at all just ask and i will tell you,and if this makes no sence,sorry!



~casperc~

hey dude that girl is a bitch!!!! so shut the fuck up

Thanks man that helps me alot dont it.

You're just a kid. You'll get over it. It sounds like crap, since you hear everyone say it. But everyone says it for a reason. That being because it's true.

Besides, the girl doesn't sound interested in you anyway. Also, good relationships begin with DATING. Say it with me now, D-A-T-I-N-G. Remember that one in the years to come. You don't stake your claim to the world after being with the girl for a day.

Just learn to grow up, and you'll be fine.. Find another girl, it's really not as complicated as you might believe it to be.

As a girl, here's my opinion (though I'm not sure you want to hear it):

The short answers to your 3 questions are:

1. Only a guy wouldn't know the answer to this one!! See my answer below.

2. ABSOLUTELY, YES!

3. Maybe (see below).

First of all don't listen to Dexter.....Teresa is NOT a bitch. Actually, she seems like a very normal girl, with extraordinary patience with you. I certainly would not have tolerated the "relationship" with you as long as she did.

Clearly (to me at least) your ex saw absolutely nothing in you that suggested she was really important to you. Every girl wants to be PURSUED WITH ENERGY by the guy she is interested in. If she does not get an inkling of feedback from him that he finds her singularly attractive, desirable, irresistible, captivating, delicious, and needed, then it's a disappointing, even demeaning, relationship in her eyes, and one that "is not going anywhere".

The way a girl senses that the guy sees her as attractive, desirable, irresistible, captivaing, delisious and needed is FOR HIM TO SHOW SHOME INTIATIVE.....LIKE ASKING HER OUT, SPENDING LOTS OF TIME WITH HER, ETC.. From what you tell us in your post, IT WAS HER THAT ALWAYS TOOK THE INITIATIVE...THAT HAD TO KEEP INVITING YOU TO DO THINGS WITH HER. How do you think this made her feel over time? A lot of girls will take the intiative in the cery beginning to get things started with you....to let you know they are interested in you. But not very many girls are going to be willing to be the pursuer forever. Ain't going to happen!!

So you blew it!! Can you get her back? NOT UNLESS SHE IS STILL INTERESTED IN YOU, AND (IF SHE IS) NOT UNLESS YOU START SHOWING SOME INTENSE AND ENERGETIC INTEREST IN HER.... AND STOP BEING LIKE A DULLARD!!

Hope this helps. Love, Venus.

quote:Originally posted by pretty pinay:

As a girl, here's my opinion (though I'm not sure you want to hear it):

The short answers to your 3 questions are:

1. Only a guy wouldn't know the answer to this one!! See my answer below.

2. ABSOLUTELY, YES!

3. Maybe (see below).

First of all don't listen to Dexter.....Teresa is NOT a bitch. Actually, she seems like a very normal girl, with extraordinary patience with you. I certainly would not have tolerated the "relationship" with you as long as she did.

Clearly (to me at least) your ex saw absolutely nothing in you that suggested she was really important to you. Every girl wants to be PURSUED WITH ENERGY by the guy she is interested in. If she does not get an inkling of feedback from him that he finds her singularly attractive, desirable, irresistible, captivating, delicious, and needed, then it's a disappointing, even demeaning, relationship in her eyes, and one that "is not going anywhere".

The way a girl senses that the guy sees her as attractive, desirable, irresistible, captivaing, delisious and needed is FOR HIM TO SHOW SHOME INTIATIVE.....LIKE ASKING HER OUT, SPENDING LOTS OF TIME WITH HER, ETC.. From what you tell us in your post, IT WAS HER THAT ALWAYS TOOK THE INITIATIVE...THAT HAD TO KEEP INVITING YOU TO DO THINGS WITH HER. How do you think this made her feel over time? A lot of girls will take the intiative in the cery beginning to get things started with you....to let you know they are interested in you. But not very many girls are going to be willing to be the pursuer forever. Ain't going to happen!!

So you blew it!! Can you get her back? NOT UNLESS SHE IS STILL INTERESTED IN YOU, AND (IF SHE IS) NOT UNLESS YOU START SHOWING SOME INTENSE AND ENERGETIC INTEREST IN HER.... AND STOP BEING LIKE A DULLARD!!

Hope this helps. Love, Venus.



So if there is a chance of us getting back together,what can i do? In the past month ive hardly seen her and we havent talked at all.She stopped going to school,so no one like Phill or Clair has talked to her either.

I really dont know what to do,but i need to do somethink soon,any ideas?



~casperc~



[This message has been edited by casperc (edited 05-03-2004).]

Bump,more replies please!

How about you and her sound like losers.

How old are you? 2 weeks of dating and your obsessed with her?

Don't listen to Penay she is a moron. You do not need to pursue the girl, if she is unable to call you then ovbiously she doesn't like you anymore and it sounds like a 10 year old crush.

I suggest you move on and stop getting your shit whipped by these bitches.

Hi again, Casperc

I suggest you ask CarbonB is he is a he or if she is a she. If he is a he, then I would discount what he says to you. If she is a she, then you can take your pick between what I am telling you, as a girl, or what she is telling you as a girl.

The fact she has not called you since the two of you split is totally consistent with what I said in my last post. VERY FEW GIRLS are going to work really hard to interest some guy in them, when he has been given the chance to show some excitement and interest in her, and hasn't.

I don't know what to tell you to do, since you say you don't know where to find her so you can follow up and try to do the right thing with her. But if you can locate her, and if she has not already been grabbed up by some guy who DID show her some interest, then you should do so now. Just let her know she is exciting to you, and that you want to have a closer and more caring relationship than before. Unless she has already been discovered by another guy, that is probably all you are going to need to say to her, SO LONG AS YOU FOLLOW UP WITH SOME ACTION!! Love, Venus.

Carbon,fuck you.

Pretty pinay thanks for the advice,but i still dont know what to do.

Bump give me more advice please.

You don't know what to do because your a 15 year old moron.

You don't need any more advise, stop acting like it's a good think this bitch has you sweating.

Your a loser and the girl has you by the balls and PENNY IS LIKE TOTALLY TELLING YOU TO LET HER RIP EM OFF. Basically her advise is to have you crawl on your knees and act like a little bitch just to get this girl back.

I say don't do it and move on with your life, but you can do what you want with it.

No CarbonB, I'm not telling Casperc to get down on his hands and knees and crawl back to this girl to see if he can get her back. (By the way, he never "had her" to begin with, so this is not a case where his problem is to "get her back").

I'm just suggesting to Casper that he make his ACTIONS consistent with his FEELINGS, WANTS, WISHES,DESIRES AND GOALS with this girl. The way he was before was that he failed to BE A GUY, and show her by his actions that he was interested in more than a casual friendship with her. Now he is groveling (sp.?) around here, frustrated and forlorn, because she got bored with him, wilted, and faded away.

I am just suggesting he do what he needs to do........(once he finds her, if he can).... and DO WHAT A GUY IS SUPPOSED TO DO, if he wants to get what he wants!

I think Casperc understands what I am saying. Sorry you don't. Love, Venus.

Is there a place you learned to write like this?



WANTS?WISHES?DESIERS?GOALS?ACHIEVEMENTS?REALIZATIO NS?

I mean it's annoying and very repetitive I get so bored of reading your messages now that I just respond without reading and throw a general statement out there and nail your post on the first try.

Try to be more elaborate and to use a little bit more variety.

Sorry, CarbonB, that I made you whine. But I study languages and linguistics, so "...I just can't help it". (hee hee).

What you can do maybe is just make ONE HUGE POST...crude and rude enough to not just flame me, but totally "finish me off". Then, with your "Mission Accomplished", (as the Big Man once famously said), you need not waste your time reading any more of my posts, and you can just go back to sleep.

And, sleeping or not, don't worry, 'cause I'll love and remember you still!! (hee hee)!!

Love, Venus.

[This message has been edited by pretty pinay (edited 05-04-2004).]

Holy Binary, Venus just beat CarbonB with a pink post of pain!!

Gustave kissing her ass isn't going to get you laid or get your fatass a girlfriend so stop while your ahead.

Also if your such a linguistics person speak a different language with me rather than french.

Meant english.

quote:Originally posted by CarbonB:

Gustave kissing her ass isn't going to get you laid or get your fatass a girlfriend so stop while your ahead.

Just because you got owned, pink style doesn't mean you have to cry at me, ok?

quote:Originally posted by CarbonB:

Also if your such a linguistics person speak a different language with me rather than french.

Uhhh, I'm guessing this isn't aimed at me.

~~~

quote:Originally posted by CarbonB:

Meant english.

Oh, did you now? I think you also meant to edit your post.

Um don't tell me what to do pig stye.

I didn't feel like editing my post so I made a new one. Get over it and shut your fat trap maybe you might lose a few pounds in the process and be actually acceptable to the whale at your local zoo.

quote:Originally posted by CarbonB:

Um don't tell me what to do pig stye.

I think you meant "pigsty", meaning that I'm "a pen for pigs" which is illogical outright.

quote:Originally posted by CarbonB:

I didn't feel like editing my post so I made a new one.

Oh, you didn't feel like editing it? Awww, how cute.

quote:Originally posted by CarbonB:

Get over it and shut your fat trap maybe you might lose a few pounds in the process and be actually acceptable to the whale at your local zoo.

You must be typing about a very small whale, because I weigh a lot less then the smallest whale species I can think of.

~~~

Gah, another perfectly good thread CarbonB goes a ruins (and it wasn't all of my fault this time that he did it as well, woo). Poor guy must need his bottle.

LOL...I can't believe I missed this thread because I thought it would be boring.

Miss Pretty has shown why I think she is by far the most useful female poster in S&A. She can analyze a situation, know exactly what is going on, and give practical advice on how to deal with women. That last step is what makes her unique. I'm glad she is posting regularly again because I learned from her back in the day and I'm sure I will again.

Casperc, Miss Pretty is right. You cannot sit on your ass and then wonder why she left. I often advise guys to play a little hard to get, but that is because most guys fall all over themselves trying to supplicate themselves to women to the point they get boring and lose some respect. However, you cannot just sit on your ass, especially in the beginning. Try to vary your effort, but keep it close to her commitment level.

If you want THIS girl back, you may have to make a little effort to get your foot back in the door. Call her and ask her out, tell her that you were a bit out of it before but you think she is cool and you would like to show her a good time. errr something like that. It will be so out of character for you, that it should get her attention, and maybe a date. I would come on a little strong at first and then mellow out a bit.

If not, just learn for next time.

edit: if you do get that date, wait for the right moment, and then kiss her like she just asked you to do it. Once you make the call that it is the right moment, just do it. Don't hesitate.

[This message has been edited by Easy Going (edited 05-05-2004).]

Thanks, EasyGoing.



And to CarbonB:

As you requested:

Sie habeneine schlechte Einstellung, und konnen immer einsamer mann sein.

OR

vous avez une mauvaise attitude, et toujours peut etre un homme solitaire.

OR

Usted tiene una actitud mala, y siempre puede ser un hombre solitario.

OR

[Sorry, my text configuration software doesn't work on Totse BB, so can't give you the same sad message in Mandarin].

I can also "sign" it to you in ASL (American sign language), but I wouldn't want to ever be close enough to you that you could see my hands move!! (hee hee)!!

FINALLY, I'll say it in English (which you seem to PARTIALLY understand):

"Your have a bad attitude, and may always be a lonely man."

Love, Venus.

The chick probably got tired of dating a corpse. And an obsessive corpse at that.

Heya Carbon, how much longer until you grow weary of always looking the proper dumbass and decide to fuck off from this board and the innocent totizens upon which you inflict your painful ignorance?

Oh yes, Casper... it's THING...

SomethinG

AnythinG

There is no such word as "somethink", first learn to speak, then learn to swoon.



[This message has been edited by Sarcophagus (edited 05-05-2004).]

First off you dumb linguistics BEOOOCH!!!

Anyone can use a fucking translator whore, nothing special there.

Anyways Gustwat when are you going to actually insult me and stop correcting fucking words?

Same goes for your Sarc? Who really gives a fuck how people write as long as it's readable.

Sorry we don't all spend 10 minutes typing out our perfectly thought out posts so we don't look like we mispell'd something.

Get a fucking life, and Gustwat I'm sure a whale mother would take you under her wing and allow you to learn their mating customs.

Just go dive into the tank, the tourists sure wouldn't mind a change in scenary.

*jumps on bandwagon*

carbon, if you cannot tell that Miss Pretty has great advice from reading her first post in this thread, then you are an idiot. Why don't you just shut the fuck up and take your own advice:

quote:Originally posted by CarbonB:

I suggest you move on and stop getting your shit whipped by these bitches.



[This message has been edited by Easy Going (edited 05-05-2004).]

Oh well, another thread's been "Carbonize". I think Carbon can't help it. We can't expect more from a little bent, milky-white, and wrinkled creature whose hair covered feet walk him daily out from his under the bridge house to a nearby internet cafe so he can let us know how stupid he still is.......before walking him back to his under the bridge home again. WE ARE HIS ONLY RECREATION......WE ARE HIS ONLY "SEX". So forgive him, let him be......and love him still. Love, Venus.

Only sex? What the fuck are you rambling about you dumb bitch?

And it's CARBONIZED. It's what I pump your mom's plump little face with before bedtime.

Hi again Mr.CarbonB:

The more you post, the more sorrowful I see that you are. Until that last post, I didn't know you are the only "grave robber" on Totse!! It's especially good now to know that you like to have sex with DEAD PEOPLE.....(Is it because they can't run away from you). My Mom's been dead the same length of time that I've been alive -- 23 years!! Love, Venus.

Okay so like the last 8 post or somethink haven't helped me at all,Venes you're responses are great but i need other people.

well pal, its as simple as this, the longer your in, the more it'll hurt, if she dumps you the first time, then wants you bck, dont count on it working very well unless your both like best friends again..believe me i know what your goin through (i had a girl for almost a year, til she started lieing and cheating, long story cut short) the best thing i can tell ya to do, is be the hapiest you can be, be fucking out there, absolutely insane, it'll get you known, more friends, and it will make her wonder why your so much better off with out her..basically right now, if she isnt talking to you, she doesnt want anything to do with you, remember that, cause when your fine and dandy, and she comes back and wants to "be your friend" tell her exactly the same thing she told you "im not allowed to talk to you, nor do i want to" and all the other hurtful things she told you, watch the tears swell up in her eyes, and say "it doesnt feel very good does it?" walk away fro the last time ever..take a long break from girls..you'll probly need it to get over her..and if you feel you can handle another relationship, start dating again, otherwise if your a h0nry fucker...friends with benefits door looks good for you..just make sure you keep it at that and dont get attached, doesnt sound like you need anymore problems than you already have

c2

Shit in your hand and throw it at the bitch. Pour gasoline on her car and light it on fire. fuck it, burn her house down.

Boo fucking hooo PENNY.

Sell your sad fucking story to some other mother fucker who is actually going to buy it.

I used to pull the mom is dead shit when I was 12. Bitch learn some new material.

And your far from the god Venus you slut. More like a fucking camarones with hair.