Allright, So my girlfriend and I have been going out with eachother for a while. We made out and everything. I was cruisin along thinking everything was fine untill she comes up to me and says "I dont want to be your girlfriend anymore because I thought I liked you more than I do." Now, Im pretty sure thats a load of crap, and to top it all off she says "I hope we can still be friends!" Hmph, It was just out of the blue! Why would she do that?!? I really have no clue so if someone could help me out please tell me.

Maybe when she started dating you, she had a different picture of you in her mind, but as she was with you, the picture changed, and she now finds it something she does not desire.

Or maybe you did something to scare her away, possibly sniffing her dirty panties, or oggling her mom. (J/K by the way)

Try talking to her and find out what went wrong, and in any instance just try to work it out if you really want to be with her.

Ummm, although this may come across as though I am being an arsehole, maybe she really liked you for your personality and then started dating you, hoping a romantic attraction would build, just that it didn't grow to her expectations.

I was going out with a girl I was friends with, namely because she had a great personality and I loved to be around her; but it ended because we didn't connect on an intimate level, like I had hoped we eventually would.

So in my situation, this other girl from my university started flirting with me and I realised that my feelings for my girlfriend weren't strong enough... I wasn't emotionally engaged with her enough to do right by her. So I broke it off with her, knowing that my attentions were already straying and she deserved better.

Perhaps your ex-girlfriend is doing the same thing by you... it probably hurts a lot to take, but in the long run its better for you, and you can at least go out and find someone who appreciates you as much as you do them.

[This message has been edited by Durell (edited 04-19-2004).]

Hmm, well, we made out and stuff, had some pretty deep conversations, and she told me she loved me... But, I dont know.. I'll talk to her. Im sort of taking this with a grain of salt because I am one hardend motherfucker after my last girlfriend. I learned that being mad, and all that crap makes it worse. im not saying im not mad, cause I am really mad... Its just that im not gonna worry. I hate love and Im never gonna date anyone again. Jesus... it only ends in heartbreak, everytime. Im going to build a small shack in the phillipines... That will solve my problems.

well huh, I talked to her a little while ago, she told me that "she just didn't have time and that I always wanted to be around her" God damn chicks are weird.

you got that right

quote:Originally posted by Cpt.Winters:

well huh, I talked to her a little while ago, she told me that "she just didn't have time and that I always wanted to be around her" God damn chicks are weird.

Sounds like she started seeing you as "too clingy". Some girls don't like that. Maybe if you would have given her more space?

Also remember the thrill of the chase.. when that's been accomplished the thrill tends to diminish, usually more so with guys but I suppose it works in reverse too.

Good luck!

just give her a smack! usually works when bints start talking crap.

High school girls have this message of "find a guy find a guy find a guy" absolutely DRIVEN into their fucking heads, so when they do hook up with someone, it's all too common for them to like the idea they like the guy more than they actually like the guy. (This is a paraphrase of Cindy's commentary on married people being in love with the idea of being in love. Same concept.)

If she's someone thus afflicted, and she then realized, hey, I don't really like him that much.. it happens. It sucks for you, but better this than having her stick around because she feels compelled to do so, only for things to go south anyway when you've spent a hell of a lot more time with her. As for her mixed messages... in this case, I'd guess she simply feels bad and doesn't know how to break it to you.

I know exactly what you should do capt.

first of all you have to fuck the bitch every once in a while, try not to see her as often see her maybe x3times a day. That would make her miss the dick allot and appreciate you alot more when your around.

ive been like this with a chick for over a year and still have not commited to her.

im sorry i meant three times a week.

quote:Originally posted by greyhat7:

im sorry i meant three times a week.

^^^ ahhh right ....was about to ask you wtf you're on and where i could get some!

Try not to let it sour you too much. It sometimes takes a few tries to get it right. She may have a had a good reason and isn't inclined to be terribly honest about it, or she may be dizzy. Who knows.

Friends? Tell her, "No thanks, I have friends" if you feel she's offering a consolation prize.