My brother is a senior while I am a sophomore in high school. He always has his friends over and I'm so use to them they are like my brothers. Recently, a new guy has started to hang out more often. He got my screenname and we talk alot online, he tells me how I'm so much nicer to him than any of my brother's other friends- but I'm just use to them being around 24/7.



We talk alot. He tells me about his girl "problems", aka him never having a girlfriend or a first kiss and how he wants one of my good friends- but he's given up on her now. When he's over now he practically ignores my brother and when I'm sitting somewhere he inches closer to me usually. I keep telling him (partially jokingly, partially seriously) to take me to prom and everything, but he tells me about the "Guy Code" - Never date your friend's sister; "little" sister at that.

He tells me that my brother will never talk to him again if he takes me, which is untrue- (my brother told that to my now exboyfriend and he still talks to him), but he doesn't want to risk it. I can understand it- but I don't like it.

I'm beginning to like him but what should I do?

Ill take you to prom, sweetie.

I know this isn't what you wanted to hear, but you really shouldn't act on it. some guys take the whole little sister thing very seriously and to be perfectly honest, i would probably beat a friend of mine senseless if he touched my little sister, or either of my sisters for that matter. and that's really saying something because i'm really not at all a violent person, i can just be very protective of my sisters.

not all guys are like that, in fact most guys i know aren't. but you might want to find out a little more about your brother before you do anything cos i can see this ending very badly.

Yeah, Id kick my firends ass if he touched any of my three sisters.... Oh wait I dont have any friends that would touch my sisters.

stupid idiot brothers and their protecting of sisters. So stupid.. There is nothing wrong with a friend dating your sister aside from the issue of you immature losers feeling uncomfortable. As to the guy you like, nicklecreek, He's just afraid of what his friends will think if he does. I hate spineless twats like that.. I can't say theres much hope for you and him unless he decides to risk it all.

quote:Originally posted by [G-Prime]:

stupid idiot brothers and their protecting of sisters. So stupid.. There is nothing wrong with a friend dating your sister aside from the issue of you immature losers feeling uncomfortable. As to the guy you like, nicklecreek, He's just afraid of what his friends will think if he does. I hate spineless twats like that.. I can't say theres much hope for you and him unless he decides to risk it all.



true and the other stuff about protective brothers is true to, tho my best friend, her older brother is protective but his friends are more protective than he is and are really annoying about it. but honestly, what [G-Prime] said is true, he's worried what his friends would think, so he either has to grow some balls or you can move on to someone who has the guts. your choice.

If this guy isn't going to go out with you because of your brother, and you like him enough to pursue it, talk to your brother about it. A lot of times, the protective big brother thing is more a mindset of "don't fuck with my sister" than it is "don't touch my sister", ie. he doesn't want his friends hitting on you or seducing you. If you take the initiative and tell him you like the guy, but you don't want to see their friendship get fucked up, that alone may do the trick.

Of course, it may not. Then you'll have to figure something out. But unless you're brother is completely unreasonable, he'd probably prefer that you see someone he knows and (presumably) trusts- and if he doesn't trust the guy for some reason, he should tell you why. If that's not good enough for him, then you're going to have this problem no matter who you date. Get it figured out now.

I understand the protctive big brother thing. Its quite normal.

Its also understandable that this guy you like doesnt want to do anything because he is friends with your big brother.

Tell you brother how you feel about his friend...At least if he knows you want something to happen, he wont go bananas and beat the other guy up..

An old friend of mine, once drank a little too much. Started talking dirty to my little sister. I asked him to stop bieng a fuck head. Five minutes later he was doing it again, i again told him, dont make me kick you out, he said shut the fuck up and put a hand on my sisters ass.

I grabbed him by the hair pulled him outside and proceeded to beat the living shit out of him. Then another friend took him to hospital.

am no longer friends with him..

But the thing is my brother isn't protective of me, that I know of. I think he really enjoys it more when guys hurt me to be honest

quote:Originally posted by bushy:

Yeah, Id kick my firends ass if he touched any of my three sisters.... Oh wait I dont have any friends that would touch my sisters.

You don't have any sister now too, do you?

quote:Originally posted by nickelcreek:

But the thing is my brother isn't protective of me, that I know of. I think he really enjoys it more when guys hurt me to be honest

Ok, this is a little fucked. I'll assume you have a reason to believe this... but then, his only reason for interfering with his friend hooking up with you would be to hurt you himself by trying to take away what you want.

More details would be useful. It's hard to figure out a way you can get what you want while working under the general pretense that your brother will wreck a friend that goes out with you, but he's not inclined to protect you either.