Well I am in grade 12 and my girlfriend of 2 months (in a couple of days) is in grade 10. She's a virgin and i'm not, but she doesn't know how much i've had sex before. Last night she tried to jack-me-off but her inexperience disabled her, so I decided to do the work and give her her first male induced orgasm with the good old pointer finger. As I rubbed her clitoris, she liked it, as I could tell, but she stopped me after a minute prolly, and pulled my hand out of her pants. Now her dad could've came home at any minute, but we would've heard him and her step mom was in the next room sleeping but she was snorin away man. My first question is should I just keep it to myself that I have had WAY more sex that she thinks, and just tell her if she asks? Secondly, do you think that she doesn't know how I feel about her. I love her, but haven't told her that. Is she just waitin for the righ moment where we SURELY won't get caught? Tell me people! whatcha think of this situation. Should I get her away from the parents and alone where we can... uh...relate? Thanx guys and girls!

First of all, you're going to need to tell her your sexual history if you expect to have a sexual relationship with her. In fact, the refusal to share this information with a potential sex partner is a sign of an unhealthy relationship.

She has a right to know this before she makes a decision about whether or not she's going to sleep with you.

Second of all, if she's a virgin, then maybe 2 months isn't enough for her. Try not to pressure her to go all the way for now, and just try other things in the meantime. If she's not comfortable with you putting your hand in her pants, then she just clearly isn't ready.

Don't jump into this with her yet, for both of your good. Alas, if she doesn't know how to give a handjob then she isn't going to know what to do. Get her to be good at that, first, so that she can have a general idea of what you like.

girls, ESPECIALLY virgin girls, tend to want a committed, long-term relationship before they have sex. for many, this could mean four months or more. i know a girl who didnt have sex with her boyfriend till they'd dated for a full year, and only cuz she got a ring from him...engaged, yep. at 16..but anyway. i would say tell her you love her, but DON'T try to force her to do anything she's not comfortable with. she'll just pull away.

note-this isnt true for all girls, but it is for most of the girls i know [the virgin ones...]

So, you've been going out for two months, she's a complete virgin and doesn't even know anything about your sexual history and you want to have sex with her? And not just that, you want to have sex when the first opportunity arises?

You need to slow the fuck down. The girl's not ready for that kind of leap. Baby steps.

^^ couldn't have said it better.

Why is disclosure of one's sexual history so important to a relationship? I can think of countless situations where it would be a topic better left untouched. That doesn't include hiding the truth if asked, of course, but to simply share it is often uncalled for and/or undesired by the other person.

But, yes, calm yourself. Desires for a long-term relationship aside, bringing her into a situation where parents won't be a problem runs a high risk of causing performance anxiety in her. After all, you'd be setting this up for a rather specific purpose. That's not the kind of response you want to inspire in someone who's new to all this.

Things will progress. The only question is whether or not you'll be content with the speed.