Help please im so frustrated right now, I dont know what to do, I have been living with my girlfriend for about a year. And our sex life is really really suffering she claims to have no sex drive at all.

I've tried everything in my power to make her horny, kinky things from public sex -bondage everything in between nothing works she has no sex drive and its beggining to cause stress and fights. Lately for the last few months I have been lucky to get any once every couple weeks. When I do she tries to make it as quick as possible just to shut me up.

She also seems to think im just some sex driven monkey who is in it for nothing but the sex and thats all I want. Well excuse the fuck out of me that im VERY horny because I barely ever get satisfied. I love her with all my heart and believe me if I was in it only for the sex I would have left by now. Im just very horny and frustrated and I dont know what to do. Any advice?

My advice:

Realize that the sex IS all you want, and move on. Your're not going to fix this.

^^^...FUCK UP!!!

Try watching some porn with her, hire all differnt types and get her to tell you if any of it makes her horney. if it does just give it a try and go from there. a word or warning though...DONT GET GAY PORN just incase..you will regret it if you do

~30-06~

There are new pills which can be prescribed to increase female libido, such as Avlimil. Have her speak to her doctor. If she hesitates explain to her the life long problem she will have with this. Also she may have had some traumatic experiences in her childhood, so therapy may help. Sex is different for all of us, and sometimes a person will need help opening up. good luck

[This message has been edited by greenlantern13 (edited 04-02-2004).]

thank you.

Is she on birthcontrol? Mainly the pill? Because after extended usage, the pill can really lower a woman's sex drive.

Yeah, my girl has the same problem. I think it is birth control. We got into a fight about some different shit one night, and I brought that up, and we fought even harder. The next morning I woke up to her rubbing my dick. I got some sex. The thing is, I don't know if she did it to shut me up, or because she wanted it. I think its the first one.

I think when i do get some its only to shut me up. What really sucks was yesterday was my bday and I didnt get so much as a handjob. Kinda wrong to expect sex on my bday i guess but shit....

Ummm, can you even be sure that she's still "Into", you?

I mean, the girl is pretty much giving you the cold shoulder and criticising your desire to have sex together.

If a girl really wants you and you're in an established relationship, one where you're both happy with each other on a more meaningful level, then sex flows. Unless of course she's one of these girls who has a low libido or problems from her past.

she always brings up how bad her past was and how she was mistreated so i dont know.

Do things that would usually implicate sex afterwards, but don't go for the sex afterwards. Backrubs, massages of any kind. Cuddle in bed, kiss her once instead of following it up with toungue. Be romantic but put off the sexual aspect of it, for at least a few weeks. See how it goes after that.. You have to prove to her you care emotionally.