So I just wrote this huge thing, but I typed my password wrong so it got erased. I'm lazy, so I'm just gonna sum it up qwik:

My boyfriend of 5 months proposed to me last nite [we're both 16]. I didn't have the heart to say no right away, so I told him maybe. He tries to pressure me by saying stuff like "I know you'll make the right choice" and "even if you say no, I know you mean yes". So he leaves later and I go online to discuss this with a few friends. Talking to a gay (guy) friend of mine, and as it turns out, they've been fuck buddies for a while. So the bastard has secretly been ass-fucking my gay friend. Lovely. I ignore him today, because whenever I see or think about him, I literally feel like I'm gonna puke. I feel sick just writing this. He mopes around today and gives me a note saying he's sorry for whatever he did. He also included "I know we'll be together forever" and "I don't care if it takes 150 years for you to say yes". Bastard. So here I am at home, contemplating my next move. I can't just continue ignoring him (go to the same school etc). I don't think I can forgive him, is that too harsh. Any comments would be great.

Eww.

Yeah, that's twisted.

Get him back, have sex with his sister.

"I know if you say no, you mean yes"? That's fucked up. He definately has some control issues if he's proposing to you after 5 months, You should get far far away from him as soon as possible.

have sex with him and when he's just getting into it shove something really really big up his ass. he can cry.... but he can't complain because he likes it up the bum.

even if you didn't find out about his secret gay relationship, i think you should avoid him anyway.

all that possessive shit he's saying is just ridiculous.

quote:Originally posted by PoseidonHurri:

Yeah, that's twisted.

Get him back, have sex with his sister.

Gee, thanks, that was some great advice. Lol, should I videotape it for you too?

He sounds too weird to continue dating, let alone marry.

Ask him about it dammit, I wouldnt be surprised if your gay friend is bull shitting.

I don't think so, he's an incredibly trustworthy guy. But I could be wrong...

Is your boyfriend a very Christian or a very homophobic guy? If he is he may be trying to cover it up by trying to marry you. Many guys who fear they are gay will find a solid relationship with a girl to hide their gayness.

I would talk it out with your boyfriend. Tell him that you are by no means even ready to answer his question. You dont even know him that well. You could either ask him if he is ass fucking your gay friend, or mention the gay friend and his gayness. See how he reacts.

I wouldn't suggest you continue the relationship, even if he isn't assfucking, he sounds to be a lot out there if he wants to marry his girl at 16 after 5 months. He needs some help. If you do try to continue the relationship, you might find it hard to build up trust for him again.

Why aren't you mad at your gay friend? I mean what the hell he's supposed to be your friend but him and your bf go behind your back and fuck each other. Get rid of them both.

Your BF lives in "La La Land"!! He's out of touch with reality. Dump him!! Love, Venus.

quote:Originally posted by PSYCH0TIK:

Gee, thanks, that was some great advice. Lol, should I videotape it for you too?

Now that you mention it...

Ok, sorry for the shitty advice, but it's something I would do, have sex with my girlfriends sister.

I think 1.) He's far too possessive, 2.) He's not very open. It could be that he's a homo, or that he just enjoys anal sex and couldnt get it elsewhere, or was afraid to bring it up. 3.) Make sure to have a discussion with him, and definitely bring up trust. If he cheated on you..WITH a guy (and you never had an idea that he had gay tendancies), then how could you possibly give yourself to him "forever"? 4.)I bet this guy ends up being abusive, no matter how much you'll probably doubt it. 5.) I think you should cut off this relationship, but not cut him out of your life. It's just not right to go from marriage proposal to a no one. Talk to him, I think it'd be good to just have a very active friendship. You'd be surprised how much you'd learn from each other. Who knows, maybe that could lead to marriage. Until then, don't be stupid, do what you know is best.

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You need to talk. And him being so controling, don't let him blame or turn this on you. Keep your grounds.

wow. just....wow.

umm....thats crazy.

anyway.

like everone else has saaid, u need to talk to him. and no, it isnt right for u to just cut him out of your life completely right after he proposes to you. there is obviously some sort of fear of separation there. if u try to cut him out 100% u will more than likely end up with a stalker.

talk to him. maybe even get him and ur gay friend together in the same room and talk to both of them at the same time. see how that works out. its always nice to have a mediator anyway.

and im curious too, why the fuck arent u mad at your friend? having sex with your boyfriend is a horrible thing to do whether u are gay or not.

and have you thought that your gay friend might be telling you this because he is jealous? i think someone already brought that up. but sometimes the most trustworthy people are the sickest bastards ever. just watch out.

and like ^this guy^ said...dont let him turn it around on you.