Can someone be too nice or too sensitive? I seem to worry about this a lot. It really gets me all edgy and paranoid like. It seems lately that this is like the main thing I've been focusing on, maybe I have a mental problem, maybe I actually am too much of a broke sensitive guy.

I mean seriously I have been in one fight, and it wasn't even a fight. It was more of the kid ran up in hit me, I ducked and he kinda hit me above the eye. Then I just walked away. It was over a girl, so I told myself I wasn't going to fight him. No matter if I stole his girl or not. Note this was a while back and I couldn't give less of a shit. It just makes me think that I'm too nice.

In any case, any females out there, do I sound too sensitive? It's such bullshit anymore. It's kind of the thing making me think I can't get a girl

P.S. Sorry for just blurting out random bullshit tidbits of information about myself. I'm tired as fuck and don't really feel like adding any structure to this. I surprised my self with paragraphs.

I used to be the nice guy ( maybe still am somewhat). But fuck it. I noticed all my friends who had game werent the nice understanding guy, they were aggressive men. I'm done being super nice, for example some girls explain their problems to me about my friend (the one who fucks them) imagine that, and fuck it i dont care because I want to fuck you just as bad. Being the nice guy doesnt pay off

OK, I hope this is the finial time I will explain this.

Most guys are nice guys, you just have to be able to tease a girl. thats the diff between them. there are the guys who are girls tools, and then there are guys who can say no and poke fun at a girl.

Dont get me wrong there are ass hole guys, but when a girl says that her guy is an ass hole, it mean hes a good tease. A girl wouldnt put up with an real asshole unless shes stupid.

you can be a good tease, and still nice caring and loving. I am. Thats what most girls want. ( i think)

PS. you need to ad some more about why you think your too nice.



[This message has been edited by bushy (edited 03-29-2004).]

Can you explain a "good tease"? Do you mean like a sexual tease like getting her ready to have sex but you dont or what?

I've had to explain this so many times here on totse, I think it constitutes as my catch phrase.

There is a difference between being "nice" and licking her boots.

Girls like a nice guy. They do not like a wuss. Stand up for yourself, have a spine, be tough, be manly and (I can't stress this one enough) be assertive!!! You can be all these things and still be a "nice" guy by also being compassionate and caring. If you pull of the mix correctly you'll have your choice of the ladies. Trust me on this one. And well you're at it, lay on some mystery and be the bad boy.

Bad girls love bad boys, but good girls love 'em too.

-Nocuous.

quote:Originally posted by ripple:

Can you explain a "good tease"? Do you mean like a sexual tease like getting her ready to have sex but you dont or what?

He's talking about just giving her shit. Not sexual teases, but be sort of an asshole to the girl, but in a joking way.

quote:Originally posted by D-Loc 1605:

He's talking about just giving her shit. Not sexual teases, but be sort of an asshole to the girl, but in a joking way.



yeah like if shes wearing really big heels, say " Those are some big heels, how tall are you with out them? 4 foot?"

heres how i break it up. "those are some big heels." a blatent statement rather obvious shows your noticing her.

then How tall are you with out them? this initates a response from her, but before she has a chance to respond say Four foot? this is the tease.

She'll think your funny, and you get her thinking.

You can also tease a girl in a poke fun at way with out a question. Try to be original because if you use something over and over it will start to wear out its welcome.

Do you have any questions.



[This message has been edited by bushy (edited 03-29-2004).]

If you're too much of a nice guy chicks will walk all over you. You'll become the guy they associate, "oh I can talk to him about my problems with the OTHER GUY THAT I AM FUCKING". You become like one of her girlfriends, you don't want to go into that territory. When I say nice guy, I mean a guy who does everything for a chick, sucks up, listens to all her problems even though you couldn't care less (do you really want to her about her problems with other dudes???).

Stand up for yourself, don't be walked all over and don't take all their bullshit games. If she's talking smack, call her on it. I personally don't let a girl talk to me about anything negative when she's with me, unless she's become a long-term relationship where I genuinely care.

Learn to tease girls like Bushy said, it works wonders. And by only staying positive with chicks, they associate these positive feelings to you. So you end up being this cheeky, crazy guy who when chicks get to know him, has a soft and caring personality that they are able to 'discover'. Chicks dig it.

So you can care about girls, but you have to make sure you don't become the "nice guy" mentioned earlier, but the man that chicks have sex with and talk to the nice guys about.

Thats just how I do it anyway, its heaps to comprehend but it makes sense if you think about it. Just become a funny male who doesn't take any shit. Chicks love confidence, be sure in yourself.

Damn I think too much. Ok, so basically just make fun of her or criticise what she may be wearing, or make stopid or insulting comments on different things she talks about?

I may be retarded, but how can you be tough and manly, but still be nice? I cant comprhend this

Also, I dont mind listening to her problems, and I dont like it when it seems like every guy doesnt do it, because her problems are the day to day problems, never, ever about her other boyfriends. So if I listen to her problems, I am one of those "nice guys?"

What if she is talking smack, but in a playful way, like she is doing the reverse tease? Would I stand up for myself then?

Like my girl, she hates it when I get into a fight or anything violent, so what am I supposed to do? I feel like I am being tough for myself, but you cant be nice and tough at the same time. This is realy confusing

Anymore examples on teasing would be great



[This message has been edited by ripple (edited 03-29-2004).]

quote:Originally posted by ripple:



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Yeah thats what I mean by its quite a bit to comprehend. But with the teasing thing, don't criticise, just playfully toy with her. KEY WORD 'playfully'.

Example: She makes a joke that is quite lame. "aww look, the little dork made a joke " and then playfully laugh. The girl will normally playfully hit you back and the game goes on.

You can be tough and manly when you first meet, and then when she starts to feel a bit intrigued, she's thinking "who is this dude thats actually busting on me..." Then you can talk about something positive, or something to share to bring you a bit closer. Something like a story, or a memory, or a place you can share memories about. By doing this it creates a personality of you being a funny, manly guy while having that 'nice' side to you underneath. Understand? Its good because for some reason chicks LOVE this 'exposing' the nice side.

As to listening to her problems... I like to only talk about stuff that will create laughter and a good time, or brings you closer to the chick. By talking about her problems you end up as every other guy out there. The idea is to be different. When girls bring up their problems with me, I just say "nah no negative talk allowed" then just skip straight to another topic.

If she is being playful with you, just go with it man. Playful games and such are a BRILLIANT way to get to know girls better. Plus they're major fun

If a girl gets upset with you about fighting (like most chicks) just stand up for yourself. If there was a genuine reason for the fight, than you have no need to have to validate your actions.

Its quite a bit to think about, and I'm not sure if this makes sense, but its how I do things and its been quite successful for me so far. You're style might be heaps different. Just experiment with what works for you. The key is to be not like every other male out there talking about stupid boring shit. Just be fun to be with, and don't take her shit man. HAVE FUN!

quote:Originally posted by ripple:

Damn I think too much. Ok, so basically just make fun of her or criticise what she may be wearing, or make stopid or insulting comments on different things she talks about?

I may be retarded, but how can you be tough and manly, but still be nice? I cant comprhend this

Also, I dont mind listening to her problems, and I dont like it when it seems like every guy doesnt do it, because her problems are the day to day problems, never, ever about her other boyfriends. So if I listen to her problems, I am one of those "nice guys?"

What if she is talking smack, but in a playful way, like she is doing the reverse tease? Would I stand up for myself then?

Like my girl, she hates it when I get into a fight or anything violent, so what am I supposed to do? I feel like I am being tough for myself, but you cant be nice and tough at the same time. This is realy confusing

Anymore examples on teasing would be great

[This message has been edited by ripple (edited 03-29-2004).]

like little comments, I think i explained above. But you have to have a joking teasing expression too. and dont do it all the time, just ocasioanly

quote:Originally posted by ripple:



Like my girl, she hates it when I get into a fight or anything violent, so what am I supposed to do? I feel like I am being tough for myself, but you cant be nice and tough at the same time. This is realy confusing



Hopefully one of the oh-so honest S&A women can either back me up or tell me I'm shit-ass-wrong on this one...but...

In my experience when a girl says she doesn't want you to fight for her, she's full of shit. She doesn't want you to be a macho idiot and get into a scrap over stupid macho idiot reasons. But if the reason's good enough- like sticking up for her -she'll say she doesn't want you to fight, but c'mon...of course she does...

-Nocuous