Okay here's my situation. Me and my boyfriend started going out not too long ago and I feel this strong conection with him. Especially when he kisses me. I am 15 and he is 16. He is not a virgin but I am. I want to have sex and I really feel that I want to with him. I want to really bad but I'm scared that I am going to fast. But I really want to have sex. My dad and his sister live in the same area and I am going to stay at my dad's house next weekend and he is staying at his sisters. Does anyone think I shouldn't have sex with him? If so why and what should I do?

You're 15. Maybe this guy will work out for you, but give it some time. Your first time should be special, make sure you're not going to regret it.

Well... My last boyfriend I was going to have sex with him but I didn't feel comfortable even kissing him but with Ben... I could do anything with him. Ben just i don't know completes me. I don't feel whole with out him. I know that he has had past relationships and he was in love and he said he is heading in that direction. And I want to make sure that it is special. Thanks that means a lot.

Well definitly don't have sex with him if he doesn't love you. How's that conversation going to feel:

You: that was great

Him: yeah

You: i love you

Him: yeah, i'm getting there...

i've never met a girl who would want to be in that situation.

Oh i know. I won't have sex with him unless I know that he loves me. But I would rather have him say yeah I'm getting there rather than saying I love you and not meaning it. It hurts either way but I'm getting there is better. In my opinion anyways.

yeah but either reaction means you had sex too soon.

Society puts too much emphasis on the first time being special. I think it's WAY over-rated. Most people don't lose there virginity on a bed of roses and regret it because it wasn't so special. Big deal, you'll have good sex in the future..

That being said, I will advise you to wait as long as possible. Even now, I try to wait as long as physically possible to have sex with my boyfriends for the first time. The longer you wait, the more anticipation the better it is.

If you want to have sex with him: go ahead. Be responsible, always use protection. Make sure you're mentally stable enough to handle sex. I've seen girls go nuts after losing their virginity and I think it's sad. Make sure you won't regret it before you do it.

Sex can be great. Not only is it fun, but it can be used as a means of expression of love. It also can be wretched if you have the wrong state of mind. Be careful.

Well, you said also that you wanted to have sex with your ex too. Really, wait. If you're going to do it, well, do it safely, but 15... I don't know. There's so much you will learn in the coming years...

I know i'm the execption, but i'm 20 and i've been with my girlfriend for 4 years, and we still haven't had sex yet. We're waiting to get married. I'm not saying you should do that but i am saying it's possible to wait and you're not going to regret the decision.

I would never have sex without protection. I feel that I am mentally stable enough to handle sex too. My friend just lost her virginity and she is making a big deal out of it. She was freaking out about it and it was stupid. I mean "special" like I know that he is the right person. Not like a bed of roses or something like that.

You're too young. Wait a year, and then you might not regret it, and what the hell, it might even mean something.

your 15. thats summs up all answers, i regert fucking at 14, i wish i waited till iw as at least 18