It just so happens that two of my best friends in the world are a couple. They have been going out for about 6 months now. I have been friends with her for a few years. I have been friends with him for less than a year but he is still one of my best friends. The problem is, I am totally in love with him. I have been sourt of attracted to him but always knew that nothing could ever happen, so I disregarded that attraction. But the other day I just sourt of realized that I am completly in love with him. He told his girlfriend that he was attracted to me on the night that I realized this. I haven't told anyone about my new found attraction, and I know that I can't.

So pretty much I don't know what to do because I know that I cannot do anything at all. I would never want to do anything that would ruin their relationship with each other or my relationship with them. I just can't stand watching their relationship and him being so in love with her and her taking him for granted and gah. What to do what to do!?!

(Sorry this is really rantish)

you are not in love with him; he's hot and you wanna make out with him. Get over it you can't do jack (well you can but then you'd be a skank). He said he was attracted to you? oh well! if he trys something with you just go with the flow and blame it on him later (he'll be the guilty one) but until then you're just going to have to deal with it.

I've been in a situation like that and do you you know what I did. when I masturbated, I was thinking about my friends man (yeah its horrible but that energy has to go somewhere!) hopefully they will eventually break up and you won't have to deal with being around him much.

By the way, how old are you?

that shit happened to me... but worse. My friend of many years has one of the hottest girls in the school as a gf... and everyone wants her. I basically fell in love with her last year and told him so.... he didn't know how to take it so he just dropped it. But a few months ago me and this girl went on a ski trip... and we ended up hooking up a few times on the bus and in the condo. People talked... he found out... and beat the shit out me when I was walking home. Moral of the story: don't fuck with your friends girl.

If it means that much to you, wait it out. They won't be together forever (I would assume). There isn't much more to it. It ain't worth possibly fucking up a relationship with one or potentially both of them to persue anything as of now.

[Edit] Not to mention it will give you a chance to sort out your feelings. Perhaps find out what is real and what may just be a bit of underlying jealousy.

[This message has been edited by JesusTookMyBike123 (edited 03-24-2004).]

Don't be a homewrecker... lol... if they're both your friends you can wait to see where the chips fall. If you go for him before their relationship takes it's course you can be sure you'll be the "bitch" who broke up their relationship. If you wait until it takes a turn for the worse, you can be with him and she'll either accept it or not. If you see that they are in a good relationship, if you're truly both of their friends, you'll leave it alone, be heartbroken until someone else sweeps you off your feet, and live happily ever after.

There's no graceful way for you to take him and be friends still with her... doesn't work that way. And interceding in their happy relationship isn't cool... shows you have little respect for your friend's feelings. Ain't love a bitch?

-Extant

I keep trying to tell myself that it's just jealousy or I'm getting friendship and more-than-friendship mixed up or I just wanna do him. I know that's really not the case though. And it's not a physical attraction at all...it just isn't. And when I say that I'm "In love with him" I don't mean it in a a "Oh my god I'm so in love with him!!" way. I've just always had this strong connection with him ever since we met, that's why we are such great friends.

Maybe it's just spring...mating season...maybe I just need to find someone else to fuck so I don't end up fucking things over.

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Maybe it's just spring...mating season...maybe I just need to find someone else to fuck so I don't end up fucking things over.

Are you in the Dallas area? I'm available.

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Are you in the Dallas area? I'm available.

No, sorry. But I'll keep you in mind if I ever am.