ok, me and my girlfriend are kind of starting to get use to the feeling with hands and what not, it use to be that she'd get orgasms quicker and more often then she does now, whats something i could try to change to get back to that quicker and faster era? thanks in advance

edit: ive tried the "come here technique" but she said that after awhile it starts to hurt her, so if you could help me out it would be much appreciated

[This message has been edited by Silentassault (edited 03-21-2004).]

You don't want to make her cum fast. The point is to draw it out with alot of foreplay. Don't just focus on her pussy, tits, and ass. Kiss, and suck her neck, shoulders, back, stomach, anything you can. A girl has to be primed to get mindblowing orgasm(s). If you can give a girl the best orgasm(s) in her life, she will stick with you. I hope that helped.

Oh yeah, for fingering, mix it up a bit, don't do "come here" for like 10 minutes straight. Rub her clit, and lips, open it up, maybe squeeze the lips and clit gently too. You can pretty much tell what a girl likes if you pay attention, and don't just stick to the one thing you know works.

I really hate that things have to be specifically one thing. You're a guy, think of how things feel to you. Doesn't a blow job where the girl use her hands also feel better than just a hand job? She will come faster if you combine it with oral sex. While you are fingering her, let your mouth wander. Start kissing and licking her inner thighs and move on to her clit and the rest of her vulva while you are using your hands.

But if you must just use your fingers, try the come here thing again. If it is hurting and not helping her, you arent hitting the right spot. Plus, as said above, you dont need to only do that. Make sure when you rub her clit, your fingers are wet enough, or that can cause you to hurt her. When you want to take a break from trying to stimulate her g-spot or clit, try tracing her entire vulva with the tips of your fingers.

The whole ass hole issue has been a big deal lately. Its getting pretty prevelant, and most girls like it. While you are fingering her, get a well lubricated finger and trace around her hole. Eventually, you can try to get your finger up in there. Some girls go wild...some advice with that though, you dont want to use that finger again w/o washing it or she could easily get a UTI or vaginal problems. So that may be something you want to save for later in the game.

Well the first time I fingered a girl. It was kind of like fighting a war blind-folded. We were watching a movie and all we were do in shit. Then she just put my hand down there. I coudn't see what I was doing I could just tell she was liking it, she was breathing heavy, pelvic thrusts and all that.

I guess I was just rubbin' her lips, clit and all that. It was my first time. God damn wow hahaha that was a long time ago.

alright thanks guys, i had her take a look at this thread and she has told me what she likes and dislikes, the only thing really that she disliked was the finger in the ass thing, otherwise everything else seems to be a good idea

WTF you had your gf look at a thread, hmmmm, Oh well

ok, I know how to work this finger in her ass, just start out and finger her and what not, and then when she is really enjoying it just switch hands and then you hand is already lubed up, then just kinda stick it in, she'll love it, I put a 100% satifisfaction guarnteed stamp on this post.

bushy, she said that no matter what, she absolutely DOES NOT want a finger in her ass.... lol

quote:Originally posted by Silentassault:

bushy, she said that no matter what, she absolutely DOES NOT want a finger in her ass.... lol

ask her if shed like a fist

i like to use words. if she's wet by the time your fingers get to her lips then you know you said the right thing. talking sexy to a girl and/or doing other physical things to her at the same time will get her to that (horny)mind-state where fingering will feel just as good as it did when you first did it to her. situations where you may get caught can be a turn-on for a lot of girls, also. sometimes it takes a while before they're willing to get adventurous though. gotta pay plenty of attention to the clit too, of course, but don't rub it too much. a guy can get lazy sometimes and think that just rubbing there is all they need to do everytime, gotta mix it up ya know?

I found my gf likes the shocker right off the bat (Two in the meat, one in the seat). Something else that seems to go over pretty well with her is rubbing her g-spot in a circular motion alternating between pressing hard and light. The alphabet works pretty well too if done right.

every girl would love a finger in the poop-hole, they're just too worried that your finger will come out looking..uhm..a bit different.

have a bath together first, that way she'll know all's ok down there - plus it's just a sexy fun thing to do! candles, some groovy music (Barry White... lmao) nice!