I have an ex who stalks me. I know exactly what she wants from me. She wants to, as the kids put it, "Get Jiggy with It".

Shure, it sounds like a good deal, cheap, convenient sex, without the high hooker prices, but it is really not. She obsevivly tracks me, probally has a shrine to me in her closet, and does the ackward, "Oh, what a coincidence you are here too!" move to me too frequent to be a coincidence.

I don't really want to encourage her by giving in, but though she is obviosly mentaly unstable, she is awful hot. We actually had alot of fun when we dated, and she can give a blow job that would make a gay man straight (honestly, it actually happened to a queer she converted).

I fear any actions aside from my blaitant ignoring of her advances would lead to a reunion. This would not be so bad, except I remember how bad it got, when things went sour between us.

I am quite open to suggestions from strangers who don't know any details but what I told you, so advise away.

Just go get some pussy, if she goes psycho she goes psycho, it was fine while it lasted.

Why are you spelling so badly, Bud?

Fuck her, and be mean. I mean tell her shes fat, and has cellulite, and her hair is nappy all sorts of shit, while you are fucking her. Bust out with the meanest shit you can say to her. If she thinks shes fat, call her fat, if she thinks she is a slut, call her that. You know her, and what pisses her off. Just do it. It will feel good too, after all the time of not doin it. Degrade that bitch, and she wont come back, or she just might love you more. I guess it depends on her.

You wouldn't jump on a locomotive if it was about to crash into a wall. So why would you want to jump on that train wreck? Like many problems, if you ignore her eventually she'll go away...

quote:Originally posted by pluffy:

Like many problems, if you ignore her eventually she'll go away...

they never go away... you just think they do

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quote:Originally posted by Infrared:

Why are you spelling so badly, Bud?



My eyes are tired.

quote:Originally posted by stupid noob:

Fuck her, and be mean. I mean tell her shes fat, and has cellulite, and her hair is nappy all sorts of shit, while you are fucking her. Bust out with the meanest shit you can say to her. If she thinks shes fat, call her fat, if she thinks she is a slut, call her that. You know her, and what pisses her off. Just do it. It will feel good too, after all the time of not doin it. Degrade that bitch, and she wont come back, or she just might love you more. I guess it depends on her.

She would veiw it as the attention she wanted, no matter how badly I treated her. She would want more. I guess you missed the mentaly unstable part.

If ANY attention is just going to make it worse, then just ignore her, you answered your own question. Its fun to be mean to an ex though. Everytime my babys mom starts shit, I just go off, and tell her how she sucks in bed, and how fat she is. Its funny as hell.

*slips into evil mode*

Dominate her. Just keep increasing what you want and decreasing what you offer till it is worth it or till she leaves you. If someone is going to be that dumb, might as well let them.

*goes back to my normal wonderful self*

Thats what I was trying to say before.

What's so bad about going out with her? If the sex is good and she's hot you might as well have some fun. Then just start being obnoxious, start burping a lot, be really lazy, tell her to do all your housework etc etc. Start pissing her off. Cheat on her with her best friend. Masturbate when having a meal with her.

quote:Originally posted by Easy Going:

*slips into evil mode*

Dominate her. Just keep increasing what you want and decreasing what you offer till it is worth it or till she leaves you. If someone is going to be that dumb, might as well let them.

*goes back to my normal wonderful self*

Sounds like she would be that dumb, but if that's what he wanted, he'd still be going with her.

All you can do is ignore her and let her decide what to do. Either she fades off or forces you to pay attention.. the latter is generally unlikely, but if it happens, everything's come to a head and will be over soon anyway.

Is it too awkward to call her on her actions? Like, when she says "oh what a coincidence..." you reply, "No, I don't think so, I'm pretty sure you're stalking me." When you must speak to her, simply tell her, in as neutral a way as possible, "This isn't going to work. We're not going to 'get jiggy' or anything." Or something like that.

Heh, I can't even tell my roommate he's a slob. It's much easier to advise than to take one's own advice.

The easiest path is to ignore her and see what goes on. Then you have Cindy's plan, which is really hard to do, but a great route.

You could try to bring another girl (pick a friend or something, dont use a girl as a pretend girlfriend without her knowing or it'll backfire) with you to events where she might be stalking you at. If everytime she comes to say hi, you say "I'm here with her" or "this is Jen" Or something, she will get the picture.

Should be no problem IF all she wants from you is the "Jiggy". Just tell her she can have it.........but ONLY if she is a "good girl" and STOPS stalking you!! Give her a weekly (or whatever) time and place, and THAT'S where and when she will find

the "Jiggy", for her getting!! (hee hee). That way, she gets what she wants, and you get what you REMEMBER was (once upon a time) SOOOooooo fine!! (hee hee).

HOWEVER, I really don't think the Jiggy is all she wants from you. And if she wants MORE, then she can be dangerous. If you think she wants more, then either do what Mr. easy going suggests (hee hee), or TOTALLY ignore her!!. Just my opinion. Love, Venus.