Well age difference doesn't matter if you like someone they say...

But the younger you are the more signifigant it is...

Now i've dated a lot of girls...At the age of 17 i've usualy only associated myself with girls around my age or within a reasonable range of my age.

But all the girls i've dated all really were straight up...Whores...Bitches...Dirty filthy sluts.

You get it...Anyways.

I'm hanging with my friends who by the way are 15,15 and 16 respectively.

So we're hanging out at the house of one of the guy's house and his sister has these friends...One of them was this Very Very good looking girl who has the perfect not to thin not too thick look to her.

Now i've talked to her on a few ocasions...At this party we was at she kept calling me her daddy and i slapped her ass a few times and i could tell that she really liked it.

Just a few nights ago she came close to giving me a lap dance...If it wasn't for her having to leave suddenly i would have got it.

I can tell me and this girl got some kind of connection going and i'm real close to asking her out...Only problem was i just found out how old she is...

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.......13.

Hehe...Real suprize there...Probaly won't stop me because i really like this girl but it does get me thinking about my morals...Not sure if she's had sex before but barring sex and sticking to just making out would it be moraly acceptable to date this girl given the age difference?

17 and 13...I mean it does sound kinda bad...But my friend told me something...Life is too short to let yourself be ruled my your own morality...If you want something don't let anything get in the way.

I'm just locked in a battle here with myself.

I know she might go out with me if i ask but is it right even if i dissthink sex and stick to making out?

Opinions welcome.

It is fine as long as the girl is okay with it and you're not forcing her into anything. I think you shouldn't have sex UNLESS she brings it up and says that she wants to, but then you might also feel that you're taking advantage of her and not want to cause just because she decides she wants to doesn't mean that is a wise decision. 13 year olds shouldn't be having sex, usually when they're older they regret it. So try to keep sex out of it, making out is okay. She probably already does that anyway. Another possibility is that the reason she's acting all sexy and stuff is because she wants to impress you and get you to like her. You have to let her know that the reason you like her is not because you're looking for sex. So basically you guys have to talk about this and discuss it between the two of you. And I don't mean just graze the topic i mean dig deep, thoroughly discuss it. So that you both know what your intentions are and stuff. Plus also you might have to deal with the whole "parental" issue.

ya, im in this position also. Im 18 and im goin out with a 14 year old (aaaalmost 15!).

I like her, she likes me. Im not gonna pressure her to have sex. I see nothing wrong with it.

Personally i wouldnt do it.

In my country the legal age for girls to sleep with guys is 16.

If you choose not to sleep with her than

its always going to be a temptation, especially when you get closer togethor.

You not only have your own morals to worry about, but the girls parents,family and

anyone who knows her.

People may want to fuck you up, including her dad or brothers.

I wouldnt go any further than the stage your at with her.

The older you get tho, the more exceptable it will be.When shes 16 or 17 and your 20 or 21, noone will give a shit and youve got nothing to worry about law wise.

statutory rape??? if your 18 do not have sex with a 14 year old, if your 17 dont have sex with a 13 year old. Its illegal.

Think about on terms of older people. When your young 3 years seems like forever but I have friends whose parents are 10 years apart!! I don't see anything wrong with as long as y'all like each other

interesting plight, and were i in your position i might have a different opinion, but i'm not so i don't.

a while back my 13 year old niece started dating a little 15 year old piece of shit. i mean this kid was a real sleeze, thought he could grow facial hair etc... anyway, i'm 20 and never historically liked my niece that much, but she started getting pretty cool so we started hanging out a bit and i started to genuinely care about her and her future.

one night her mom drops her off at my place while her and my brother in law go to a movie, but shithead came with them. little bastard doesn't say one fucking word to me and walks in like he owns the place. i decide to try to get along with him and he procedes to be a complete dick. finally he tells me to fuck off and stop trying to be his friend. so i chucked him off my deck and ran him off my property amid many shotgun blasts into the dirt behind him.

the moral of the story is, if you start dating her, be extraordinarily nice to the family. the only reason that kid didn't take a beating was the fact that he was well under 18. you'll be 18 soon, keep it in mind.

The differance b/w an adult couple with an age differance is that they decided to date as adults, when they were old enough and mature enough to make that decision. A 13 year old is neither. It illegal, and its wrong.

for god's sake don't sleep with her! cos if you do and her parents don't like it then,in most countries,they can have you charged with something like "abusing a minor" or some such.....wether the girl consented /wanted it or was gagging for it!

in all western countries a 13 CANNOT consent to any form of carnal knowledge SO NO BJS ,HAND JOBS!

If you have sex and her parents or anyone in her family find out you will probably go to jail for up to seven years.

to me the issue is not only the sex and statuatory rape problems, its the maturity issue.

A) she will think all you want is sex. Little girls are conditioned to think all boys want is to get in their pants. She will want to please you. When a girl is constantly trying to please you, its not a good relationship. It may seem good, but it will disturb the girl and it will end up shitty. If you dont want to have sex with her and say "no lets just make out, shell think you dont like her and cry and then you'll pity fuck her and blah blah blah, jail.

B) Mentally, she's thinking "wow. Johnny is cute. I wonder if he likes me" and your thinking "wow, Janey is hot. I wonder if she'd fuck me"...yeah im making a generalization and maybe your a good guy, but its true for the most part.

If you dont have sex with her, you cant get charged with statuatory rape, but i bet her parents will hate you.

If your both comfortable with it and like each other I see no problem.

As for sex, just treat her like you would any other girl. Don't take advantage of her because of her age, but you also don't need to stay completly away from sex with her. If your both consenting, fuck like bunnies if you want. Just make sure she really wants it, and isn't just going along with what you want her to do.

I see nothing wrong with it from a moral veiw as long as your not just going to go out with her for sex which I think you said you weren't. But theres the legality thing and the getting the shit kicked out of you thing as well. I think if your even making out with her and her parents don't like you and are assholes they could put statatory rape on you, it may just be anything past 1st base but who knows. If your over 18 and the girl is like 13-14 them im sure that even making out could get your ass busted if her parents are assholes. But the main thing id be worried about would be the ass kicking thing because I know that I wouldn't call the cops id just beat the fuck out of the guy if I did take action but I wouldn't because its the girls choice. And not all 13 year olds are immature or don't realize consequences, or will to easily think they are in love so be carefull because you may end up breaking her heart or she may break yours if you fall in love and she ends up not really loving you back(just had this happen and at first I thought shes to young to be in real love but I went against that thought and found out I was right and the girl was 13 going to be 14 this april and im 16). Id say go for it if you can deal with not having sex and are willing to risk getting her parents pissed at you and possibly getting hurt(physically).

I didn't realize i'd get as many responses as i did.

Thanks for all the opinions and insight.

I might have forgotten to add but this girl is very mature for her age.

I have seen 17 year old girls that didn't have it as together as this girl does.

I think i might as well ask her out...See what happens...And if i get my ass handed to me then so be it...

And like i said if i go out with her i'm not gonna do anything beyond what she is comfortable with...I always believed that there is more to dating a girl than just sex...Sex comes second because what's important is that your with someone you like.

At least that what i always thought.

Anyways...Thanks for all the insight and advice...If anyone wants to add more to this topic they can.

But thanks to all who posted something insightful.