im single right now but i flirt with most of my guys friends and give the impression i'd do them...and i would but, would it ruin the friendship?

[This message has been edited by Elton John (edited 03-16-2004).]

Are you asking or telling. If you are asking, then....um.....let us see here...no...

And if you are telling, then who cares?

of coarse sex wouldent ruin it, it might make it better...who knows

~~<jay>~~

quote:Originally posted by Toke420:

of coarse sex wouldent ruin it, it might make it better...who knows

~~<jay>~~

nice try jay.....

it was worth a shot

~~<jay>~~

Depends...

Sometimes when you intitiate something like that, it's hard for you guys to go back to the way you were before.

Take for example, if you were friends with a guy and then you had a serious relationship with him, In a lot of situations, the girl and guy can't be friends anymore because they've experienced that intimacy, or they will always look at them as "my ex gf" or w/e

It can work though, but you both have to agree and understand that it's just casual sex and it doesn't mean anything then the fact that you too are friends who wanna enjoy yourselves. You must make sure that you don't feel anything else for him than friendship, otherwise you'll be screwed when you want to take the relationship to another level and you can't, cause you're ONLY friends who fuck each other.

Trust me, it's happened to me before.

quote:Originally posted by Aunt Jemima:

Depends...

Sometimes when you intitiate something like that, it's hard for you guys to go back to the way you were before.

Take for example, if you were friends with a guy and then you had a serious relationship with him, In a lot of situations, the girl and guy can't be friends anymore because they've experienced that intimacy, or they will always look at them as "my ex gf" or w/e

It can work though, but you both have to agree and understand that it's just casual sex and it doesn't mean anything then the fact that you too are friends who wanna enjoy yourselves. You must make sure that you don't feel anything else for him than friendship, otherwise you'll be screwed when you want to take the relationship to another level and you can't, cause you're ONLY friends who fuck each other.

Trust me, it's happened to me before.

cool...thanks for the replay

thats all you people have to say?

I have more then one guy friend i'd like to do it with....but if i did it with one would it be completely skanky if i did it with another...there all in my same circle of friends....

Depends on how close a friendship you guys have and if they respect you as a person.

If not then they'll think you're they're personal "whore"

If you had sex with all of them at the same time they wouldn't call you a whore.

quote:Originally posted by Elton John:

thats all you people have to say?

It's generally considerate to give the peanut gallery more than an hour and a half to respond to your thread.

Can you go back to being friends? Depends on you and the guy. Unfortunately, the majority of the time it doesn't work very well. It's not magic or luck, though; it's maturity. One or both people can't handle the "downgrade" in status that comes with no longer sexing it up. It's certainly possible, but people are often too jealous or possessive to be able to handle it.

If you want to keep your friends, and you think you can handle casual sex with them, chill until you're positive one of them can do it too. As long as you both have the right attitude, there's no reason you should lose a friend over it... just be forewarned that even if you're spot on with figuring a certain friend isn't the possessive type at all, actually sleeping with you may change his outlook, and you won't be able to see it coming. You're taking some risk no matter how carefully you choose your fuck buddy.

the answer is to never stop fucking. why would you stop fucking in the first place?

well said mrMan

..its not the sex thing so much that's the problem here..it's the flirting..that's eventually gonna do ur friendships anyway in the long term. So, fuk the flirting 'with everyone' stuff.., and the sex, well,just do it..or dont do it,that's your decision..

but flirtings half the fun....

This is the funny thing about sex. If two people begin a consenting casual sex relationship, having known each other, and aparently being interested in each other (in a friends sort of way), one will develop feelings for the other. I'm sure there are cases where this will happen, but the idea of casual sex is not exactly perfect, and doesn't tend to last.

When one party wants to be more than a fuck buddy, the other tends to stop having sex with them, because they never wanted the relationship to have more than sex.

Chances are, if you had to ask on totse, you aren't mature enough to keep a relationship with no feelings whatsoever. Sorry to call you immature, im sure you could be totally grown up and stuff, but I am going to take a wild leap of faith and stick with my initial guess. So yes. Sex will change your relationship with the friends. You never know, it could change it for the better. You could find out that you both want more. But chances are you wont.

Spiffy said it best with "your taking some risk no matter how carefully you choose your fuck buddy." The man's smart. I'd listen to him, but that's just me.

eh...

~~<jay>~~

Elton John.... hmmmmmm.

If you're a guy then well, yes, anal sex will ruin your dick.

quote:Originally posted by DeAtHsTyLe:

Elton John.... hmmmmmm.

If you're a guy then well, yes, anal sex will ruin your dick.

Im a girl, dumbass.....i just happen to be an elton john fan

[This message has been edited by Elton John (edited 03-18-2004).]

quote:Originally posted by Elton John:

Im a girl dumbass.....i just happen to be an elton john fan

By using a comma I would have been called a dumbass, but as it stands you're calling yourself a dumbass.

You never said you were a female, Elton John is a hero to homosexuals everywhere, gay people are all over this board, and do I smell pms ?

Make love not hate.

quote:Originally posted by DeAtHsTyLe:

Elton John.... hmmmmmm.

If you're a guy then well, yes, anal sex will ruin your dick.

yea that was really making love not hate....ur a fine one to talk silly

quote:Originally posted by Elton John:

yea that was really making love not hate....ur a fine one to talk silly

Gay men do love anal, at least thats what I hear.

Having sex with one of your friends would probably be a bad idea. Especially for your end, since you're a female. I wouldn't suggest it. Just get a boyfriend. Then you could fuck like mad and not feel afaid of being rejected.

And yes, if you did have sex with more than one of them, you would be a slut, at least to them.

quote:Originally posted by Little Pea:

Having sex with one of your friends would probably be a bad idea. Especially for your end, since you're a female. I wouldn't suggest it. Just get a boyfriend. Then you could fuck like mad and not feel afaid of being rejected.

And yes, if you did have sex with more than one of them, you would be a slut, at least to them.



getting a boyfriend would work unless you don't wanna put the work into keeping a relationship and don't wanna be attached.

i was like that for a while ... messed around with a few guy friends (only had sex with one) ... kinda fucks up your head after a while tho ... i wouldn't really suggest it.

but if you're really into the whole doin stuff with multiple guys, remember to use protection! don't wanna be spreading or catching anything.