I have talked to my girl about anal before, and she said no, because an ex-bf just stuck it in with no lube or warning. This girl will do just about anything else for me but that.

Recently, I have incorporated some dirty talk into our sex, and she goes fucking crazy for it. Now I was thinking, I want to get her bent over, and fucking, while talking dirty, and just take my thumb, get it lubed, and rub her asshole with it. Not penetrate, just rub around. She never said anything about that.

She is a bit scared of "assplay" because she has never had anyone to do it right, and at her pace.

So my question is, do you think that it would be too much of a surprise to rub her asshole when I am fucking her brains out, and talking dirty?

I was also thinking about tying her up for the first time to make her even hornier(she is fine with that, we talked) and then doing what I planned.

What do you guys think?

As long as you stop if she tells you to.

Always remember man...No means no!

Also to reitterate what Oxy said, if she tells you to stop then you stop.

As for the rubbing her bung...Whatever man...That's between you and her.

Freaky deaky Dutch bastard!

Respect your bitch!

I do respect her. Very much, and I would stop, but I am a little afraid to get hit. She won't really give me a straight answer about doing it.

Btw, I am not dutch. I am american, unfortunatly.

as long as you do it subtile, or at least start it of subtile and do it during sex, why would she mind?

by the way, I AM dutch

this is how i've found tends to work(but it won't if she has real fears ): the key is HER PLEASURE!!

have her lying on the bed and kneel between her legs.give her loads of oral sex then start inserting finger(s) into her vagina.

when she is flowing with juices then start to gently sroke her bum hole...circling the rim lightly .keep up the finger action in the vagina and use her own juices to lube her bum hole as you start to insert a finger in there too.

once she has found that her anus can give her pleasure too albeit with a single finger then you're half way there.

the key is HER PLEASURE.take it slooooow and for god's sake check your finger nails are cut to the quick and filed round,

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

this is how i've found tends to work(but it won't if she has real fears ): the key is HER PLEASURE!!

have her lying on the bed and kneel between her legs.give her loads of oral sex then start inserting finger(s) into her vagina.

when she is flowing with juices then start to gently sroke her bum hole...circling the rim lightly .keep up the finger action in the vagina and use her own juices to lube her bum hole as you start to insert a finger in there too.

once she has found that her anus can give her pleasure too albeit with a single finger then you're half way there.

the key is HER PLEASURE.take it slooooow and for god's sake check your finger nails are cut to the quick and filed round,

Or wear latex gloves like the ones that doctors use. Put some cotton in the ends.

Dude, I know its about her. How to do the shit is not my problem. I am worried about her getting mad. Anything we do anything new, I have to initiate it, be a little forceful, and just do it without asking. When I ask, it ruins it, so it doesn't happen.

I asked her about anal over a year ago, and she said if I ever stuck my dick in her ass, she would punch me. Then I asked about a finger, and she really didn't say anything.

I think I am going to do it tonight when she gets home from work.

Who wants to find out if I get hit in the mouth or not?

thats a dead cert.of course you gonna get it wrong....its called being male...it goes with the territory kiddo...

I wanna know if you got hit in the mouth.

I should be posting my results in about 7 hours. I think if I do things right, she will go for it. I hope.