Yesterday my girl and i met out of her dads reach. So we were driving around the country and was going to stop at her friend Amandas house, when Britney Spears "Toxic" came on the radio, and Christina went "I think she hot" and i laughed and jokinly went "You wanna get in her tight pants eh?" and she giggled and went Actully jake i do in a SERIOUS voice.

Now shes got my full attention, and im... shocked, to say the least. I went "So... Your.. attracted to girls in more than a friendship way?" ans she let out a reluctant smile and went "yea... your the first to know this too Jake." Then it kind of got quiet. I was thinking "Holy...SHIT!" and remembering when we been through: Her parents catching us, though i still dont know if they saw it all, or just us putting on our clothes, Her slicing her wrist (she never went to the doctor about that, but the cuts have healed) after her dad beat her, him coming over to get Kris that same day and me calling him an "abusive fucking spic" in front of my neighbors, her finding my bag of crank because i told myself "Fuck quitting" and her flushing it down the toilet, but still stuck with me, etc... I was thinking about all the trust and love we put into each other for these 4 and 1/2 months (that may not seem long to you, but to me, it feels like we known each other for eternity, and yes, thats a damn good feeling).

THen i thought "Why did she not tell me before?!" I never seen a shed of evidence that she could have been bi: i allways suspected Amanda was.

After about 2 minutes of silence, she went "Im sorry Jake" I went "Nonono, dont be sorry, its just that this is a little... suprising."

Around 9:00, i took both of them home(thankfully Cristinas dad wasint home). I walked her the door, and she went "your not mad at me are you?" "I went "of course not! This is just something that im just gonna have to accept." and she told me that she was wanting to tell her Mom, but she didnt want her to freak out and think she was a dyke. I went "Fuck what she thinks. If she cant accept you for what you are, then shes not being a good mom in the first place". We kissed, and i left.

What do i think about it the day after i found out? I think its cool, both in the fact that shes attracted to girls and the fact that she trusted me enough to tell me. To me, its not a HUGE thing. I still love Kris either way. Im not gonna get paraniod about it: I felt enough paranoia during withdrawl (Paranioa was the worst part of it, but after 30 days, it started going away). At least shes confortable enough with her sexuality to tell me and not try to hide it.

What do you think?

Way to go, man. You're an example of the right way to handle it.

She's going to be bi whether you like it or not, so you might as well like it

Consider this an opportunity to get even closer to her. This girl is obviously special, and the two of you obviously have something wonderful.

Don't be paranoid, or anything like that. It's not any kind of threat to you. Her attraction to girls is not going to take her from you. Embrace her sexuality, support it, make her feel sexy and special for it, and she will love you all the more.

And who knows, maybe she'll trust you enough to be with you and a girl at the same time!

Way to go, man. Be cool. This girl is obviously someone special.

hmmmmm... for some reason "threesome" enters my mind...

Way to go dude... refreshing to see somepeople can hadle topics like that maturly

Way to go, man. You're an example of the right way to handle it.

She's going to be bi whether you like it or not, so you might as well like it

Hell yea like it! It makes her stand out, and shows that she has enough confidence with her sexuality to not deny it and accept it. Sure, it was a shock at first, but i love her the way she is, and this WILL NOT change that. Hell, i think its going to actully strenthen the love.

Consider this an opportunity to get even closer to her. This girl is obviously special, and the two of you obviously have something wonderful.

God man, you would never believe it. What we have gone through, the good and the bad, has done nothing but strenthen the bond we have. I mean, its fucking unbelievable. Her dad hates me after he caught us, but she told him (The day after he beat her, which he denies. Oh yea, those brusies that were left cheek that looked EXACTLY like nuckles were made by her... fucking spic) that she was going to be with me rather he likes it or not. I WOULD reconcile with him, but untill he apologizes to Kris, i wont even attempt to.

Sorry, kinda got off topic there.

Don't be paranoid, or anything like that. It's not any kind of threat to you. Her attraction to girls is not going to take her from you.

I know that. Its not a threat to me, its more like a trait about her that can and will draw us even closer.

Embrace her sexuality, support it, make her feel sexy and special for it, and she will love you all the more.

I am, believe me, i am. However, im not gonna be dumb like some people and bring it up constantly. If it does come up, i wont try to avoid it. Ill just be like i usually am to people im the closest to: Non-biased, non- judgemental, and will not hold anything back UNLESS it can be constructed as offensive or has nothing to do with the topic. Sometimes i can twist words around and it sounds worse than it means.

And who knows, maybe she'll trust you enough to be with you and a girl at the same time!

Hey, if she and the other girl wants me too, the HELL if im gonna say no!

Like i said, this opens alot of doors, and thier all positive.

Way to go, man. Be cool. This girl is obviously someone special.

Thiers not a word in the dictionary to discribe it. Shes like crank to me, and for once, i can say thats not a bad thing.

Bisexuals are far more likely to cheat on you.

If you're fine with her cheating on you with a broad, more power to you.

I'd be pretty pissed, though.

How is a bi girl more likely to cheat? Just because she has more choice won't mean anything. If she's going to cheat, she is going to do it regardless of her sexuality.

My boyfriend didn't mind me making out wtht my [female] friends in front of him because it turned him on. I would never have done it behind his back though.

quote:Originally posted by Purple Phreaxxx:

My boyfriend didn't mind me making out wtht my [female] friends in front of him because it turned him on. I would never have done it behind his back though.



true dat.

heh, my bf actually encouraged me & my best friend to make out while we were hella drunk ...

Heh, same. So good to have a boyfriend who encourages you to play with girls and boys

A bisexual has more options if they want to cheat. I guess you could say that means there's a better chance of it happening, but it's not really true. Someone open to cheating will find someone they're attracted to regardless of sexual orientation, and someone loyal isn't going to do that regardless of who they're attracted to.

Of course, if you're with one of those girls who likes guys in a relationship way and other girls only in a sexual way..

dude i think thats a blessing

Has Kris actually licked some pussy, or is she just saying she thinks some girls are hot?

Fucking idiot. I haven't met any girls lately who don't claim to be bi.

I remember the first time I dated a bi girl... I was paranoid for the longest time until we both sat down one dau(her idea) and she told me that I had nothing to worry about... I'm glad for you dude, Finally someone who has an open mind...

quote:Originally posted by lordsjohnson:

Has Kris actually licked some pussy, or is she just saying she thinks some girls are hot?

I dont think she has...

Hey elite, arent you bi?

Hey elite dance you're the guy who had the buttgasm! Hahahahahaha! You're in no position to give advice on sex or affection. Buttgasm Buttgasm Buttgasm Buttgasm

You're just lucky you're not in the U.S. Military because we beat the hell outta people like you.

that whore

she flushed the weeeeddd

quote:Originally posted by Lash Black:

Hey elite dance you're the guy who had the buttgasm! Hahahahahaha! You're in no position to give advice on sex or affection. Buttgasm Buttgasm Buttgasm Buttgasm

You're just lucky you're not in the U.S. Military because we beat the hell outta people like you.

Shut the fuck up.

That's awesome though, Speed_rebel. Just keep an open mind about thing s like that, unlike Lash Black, and you will go far in life!

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quote:Bisexuals are far more likely to cheat on you.

If you're fine with her cheating on you with a broad, more power to you.

I'd be pretty pissed, though.



Man, I thought about it, and for some reason I am convinced that I wouldnt be even the slightest bit jealous if my girl cheated on me with a girl. I am a really jealous person too.

quote:Originally posted by Lash Black:

Hey elite dance you're the guy who had the buttgasm! Hahahahahaha! You're in no position to give advice on sex or affection. Buttgasm Buttgasm Buttgasm Buttgasm

You're just lucky you're not in the U.S. Military because we beat the hell outta people like you.

shut up you ignorant piece of trash. You're in no position to give advice on anything coming into a thread to do nothing but post an off topic flame about something that could happen to you too. Piss off.

*edit*not to mention that you've obviously started a second username or got banned and got another one because you and your wanker friend have been members for less than 6 days but remember a post from a few weeks ago. Go sit in the garage and mix a gallon of bleach with a gallon of ammonia, then breathe deeply.

if she's comfortable and you're comfortable sounds like a win win situation to me.

[This message has been edited by The Misfit (edited 03-12-2004).]

I think you handled it pretty good. But don't expect it to be concrete until she actually fucks a chick. And don't ask for threesomes, that's a big no. Let her take care of it.

All girls are closet lesbians, some are just more open about it than others. Freud reckoned we're all born bisexual and that it's through social conditioning that we change. I don't know but i've never had one up for a guy. Anyway can any girls confirm that they're all closet lesbians?

I think it's cool, not just for threesome reasons. It takes someone who's really open with themselves to admit that to you.

quote:Originally posted by Fuck You, Asshole:

Hey elite, arent you bi?

Nope...