I've been talking to this girl for a decent amount of time already, and have started to think of her to be more than just a friend in the future. But recently over heard a guy talking about her to this other guy and mentioning that she is a "big hoe." and well I wouldn't believe it, but she does go to a different school than I, so a lot could not be said or observed, know what I mean?.. and the thought has been bothering me. What would you think of the situation?

Points why I would believe:

-Don't see her very often

-Some of her friends are known to be "slutty"

-She does seem to be friends with a lot of guys (I'm not saying that as if I'm jealous, just may be a factor of some sort)

-Does seem like she gets hit on a lot (though she says that she is somewhat mean to the guys who hit on her and gets annoyed by them)

Points why I don't:

-I'm in denial

-Can't think of her that way

-She says that she tells me pretty much everything.

-Says her feelings towards me have grown

-Guys are jerks and say shit like that.. ex: "she's a big hoe"

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[This message has been edited by CemetaryDoors (edited 03-10-2004).]

Sounds like you've already made up your mind.

Yes, it does.

Well yea, I've made my mind up that I don't believe it, though it is still in the back of my head. But I would like to know what other people would think in this situation.

Depends on what you mean by quote:recently overheard a guy talking about her

Did the guy say it directly to you? Kids at your school talking about her? You hanging out with kids from her school and they said that infront of you? Random people on the street randomly talking about her?

If the guy said it directly to you, or you were hanging with kids from her school, good chance they are jealous and said that for sabotage (or they just dun like her and said it for same reason). But if it is random people saying that, there is a good chance she is a slut...

People from her school have known her for a while I'm sure (or just by rumors). Generally, things someone has done in the past sticks with them as their reputation. Maybe she was a "big hoe" but wants to settle down, with a guy such as you. Maybe they know her as a 'big hoe' only because her friends are 'big hoes'.

Do 'big hoes' generally come to you? 'big hoes' often go after the same type of guys.. male hoes. Are you a male hoe? 'Big hoes' generally want guys who are quick, easy, and careless. Do you have any of these traits?

Maybe you can tell who she is simply by who you are. maybe.