Some of you may remember my post entitled 'I'm in love with a younger girl, is that really so wrong?' that I posted a while back. This is a follow-up.

Angela (Berrith on Totse) and I are finally getting to meet each other this weekend. I've been talking to her over the internet for over 8 months..and we both wanted to meet so badly, but there wasen't a lot of chance, with her being in North Carolina and me being in Georgia.

I'm going with my family this Friday to Pennsylvania to pick up a nephew whos moving down with us. My brother-in-law, whom I'm eternally grateful to, agreed to detour to her home town on the way back so I could spend about an hour with her.

You guys honestly have no idea how happy this makes me. I've suffered from depression, sometimes verging on extreme for several years, and this girl is the only person (outside of immedient family) that has really TRUELY gave me happiness.

She means everything to me, and there isn't anything I wouldn't do for her. I realize there is an age gap (21 and 16) between us, and so does she, but we've even talked of meeting again when shes about 18 or 19 and starting a relationship that could end in marriage.

This is the happiest I've been in as long as I can remember, I'm sorry, but I just wanted to share this with you guys.

We're getting pictures taken together Sunday. I'll post some of them the next day if anyone wants to see.

Thanks for hearing me out,

V. Archimiel

All i read was the title of this post, so i just wanted to say im also gonna see my woman soon. w00t!

Congratulations and I know what you mean about the happiness thing. Hope you guys get to spend the rest of your lives together. Thats to bad you only get an hour but something is better then nothing.

quote:Originally posted by Lazzaro:

It's going to be really fucking hard on the both of you after you leave her to go back home. Just an hour isn't sufficient enough, it should at least be two days.

I've been there spent the length of the movie "The Italian Job"+ previews the ride to the theatre and back with my ex girlfriend who lives far far away. It fucked us over, it drove us insane. It will to you too. You two think you will be strong enough for it, but you aren't. The most at the very most you'll be able to do is phone sex.

You should try to buy more time with her. That way you can have a longer recollection of being with her.

It's really draining emotionally, and physically. Your friends will be with you with their girls and you'll be the thrid fourth or fifth wheel. You will be lonely as hell knowing that you have a girlfriend or whatever she is to you, and you can't do anything with her than talk to her. Are you ready for it?

Trust me LD relationships don't work very well unless you can see the person at least once a week.



I know its going to be hard once I see her and then don't have her anymore Laz.. I knew that before I ever even agreed to go with my sister. But you know what? If I have to fucking WALK back to North Carolina again, I swear I'm coming back to her.

The fear I once had that shes going to get tired of me or our relationship will fall apart..I have to put that behind me, or I don't have a prayer.

As far as time goes, I'd spend the rest of it I have left on Earth with her if I could..but even if I only get 5 minutes, it will put to rest any doubts we have about each other.

It's going to be really fucking hard on the both of you after you leave her to go back home. Just an hour isn't sufficient enough, it should at least be two days.

I've been there spent the length of the movie "The Italian Job"+ previews the ride to the theatre and back with my ex girlfriend who lives far, far away. It fucked us over, it drove us insane. It will to you too. You two think you will be strong enough for it, but you aren't. The most at the very most you'll be able to do is phone sex.

You should try to buy more time with her. That way you can have a longer recollection of being with her.

It's really draining emotionally, and physically. Your friends will be with you with their girls and you'll be the third, fourth, or fifth wheel. You will be lonely as hell knowing that you have a girlfriend or whatever she is to you, and you can't do anything with her than talk to her. Are you ready for it?

Trust me LD relationships don't work very well unless you can see the person at least once a week.

You posted twice dude.

What I said still stands...I'm NOT leaving her no matter how far away she is..

Don't kidnap her!

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Vampire Archimiel:

You posted twice dude.

What I said still stands...I'm NOT leaving her no matter how far away she is..[/QUOUTE]

I didn't know. My internet is fucked up or something it said "website not responding" so I wated a little while and posted again.

quote:Originally posted by Lazzaro:

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Vampire Archimiel:

You posted twice dude.

What I said still stands...I'm NOT leaving her no matter how far away she is..[/QUOUTE]

I didn't know. My internet is fucked up or something it said "website not responding" so I wated a little while and posted again.

Its ok, no problem.

quote:Originally posted by Vampire Archimiel:

I know its going to be hard once I see her and then don't have her anymore Laz.. I knew that before I ever even agreed to go with my sister. But you know what? If I have to fucking WALK back to North Carolina again, I swear I'm coming back to her.

The fear I once had that shes going to get tired of me or our relationship will fall apart..I have to put that behind me, or I don't have a prayer.

As far as time goes, I'd spend the rest of it I have left on Earth with her if I could..but even if I only get 5 minutes, it will put to rest any doubts we have about each other.



You say that now, that you'd walk to her. I said that too. Was I really going to walk, ride my bike, drive my car, take a train, plane or whatever to see her, at the time I was going to.

Then I realized how crazy you would seem to everyone. You said she's younger than you, so she probably still lives with her parents, I doubt they would let you see her if you did that. They'd probably call the Police, have you arrested then put you in a psyche ward, then slap a restraining order on you and you won't get to see her until shes 18, assuming she still feels for you the way she does now.

It's not going to work trust me, and if it does then I guess this is one of the few. Most times they don't work out.

The time you spend with her though, will be your best. When it is finally over you will think it was a dream, and not beleive that it really happened.

I'm not trying to bring you down. I'm just stating what me, and my friends have been through.

If you get in one fight that could be it, and you never hear from her again depending on how bad the fight was. Or she could just stop contacting you out of no where her house burns down or some shit. Then you have no way of contacting her unless she contacts you.

I understand your concerns Lazz. I've thought of all this before, and I KNOW I'd look crazy to my parents or her mom. But my parents know I care for her a lot, and her mom knows we talk all the time (Hell I still live at home myself).

I know any sane person would look at this relationship and go 'You know what? No way!'. But I'm not just any sane person, and neither is she. I've already told her its like a dream come true, and I meant it.

But its a dream I plan to make reality, if shes willing.

Georgia is not that far from NC. Why haven't you just jumped in a car and driven up to see her?

Lazz makes a good point, about the one-hour-only thing, I have to say. I once met a girl who I'd talked on the phone with a lot; you could even say I loved her. I was walking on air for the couple hours we spent dining together, but as soon as I left, and the afterglow of the moment wore off, I was very depressed and missing her. I never got to see her agian, either, she just sorta drifted away..

-Infrared

EDIT: Sorry about the tone of this; I wasn't at all trying to bring you down, either. I'm happy for you, my long-haired, pentagram-wearing friend. I hope it all works out! Love can be a great healer...also a great killer, but only if it goes wrong. Good luck to you both.



[This message has been edited by Infrared (edited 03-09-2004).]