Its something I've heard said a lot, that seems to be pretty much taken as gospel, that no girl enjoys sex their first time. That strikes me a s a bit depressing, and I'm wondering does anyone know any girl who did enjoy their first time?

I remember sarc posted about her first time, and it sounded like she enjoyed it.

Most women I know enjoyed their first time immensely, myself included! This is probably why I like sex so damn much. I suspect it has everything to do with the first partner; in my case, I was 15 and my bf was loving, sexy, and fun. And it took way more than another 15 years to find one that was even better.

Most don't enjoy the first time because its really painful and it causes bleeding.

In my experience being with virgins and talking to girls, it is not that they don't enjoy it, it just gets better later and there is some pain. When I lost my virginity, the girl I was with was also a virgin. For the most part I was only using half my cock because she was in pain. It was not a bad experience at all, but things did get a lot better later.

Mine was bad. Could be because the guy was more than a little clueless. It was just a circus. Totally ridiculus.

mine was bad, the guy didn't really care, was an asshole, started banging my best friend while he was with me.

but its gotten better and better, i love sex, especially if the guy is into a bit of experimentation or knows things i dont..

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mine was good, it hurt, but once things got going it was fine!

and it just gets better every time you do it!

mine wasn't great, but it wasn't horrible, it was enjoyable once the pain was over, sharp but short lived ... was rather er, pleasant after that ... but sex has definitely gotten better after quite a few more times, hehe ...

[edit] my only problem was the non emotional attachment with the guy ... course its different now with my bf, but that was my main little sort of annoyance about it.

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quote:Originally posted by InimitableBallerina:

Most don't enjoy the first time because its really painful and it causes bleeding.

oh no, bleeding! who the fuck cares about blood or a little pain? my first time was bloody and painful. i fucked a girl on her living room floor and had bleeding rug burns all over my legs. i still enjoyed it.

all the girls i know hated theyer first time and about 5 or 6 times after but that didn't stop me de-flowering 2 girls.

Yeah, my first time was fantastic. Will forever be one of my absolute best memories.

I waited 21 years for it though, and it was with the right person, and I have a high pain tolerance... all of those were contributing factors.

So, whats the key to making it a good experience? Is it mostly a physical thing or does it need to go way further than that?

I'd say maybe 30% is physical... but even then, if it's amazing enough emotionaly then the pain, or lack of pleasure won't really matter.

I was lucky, I had an orgasm my first time, but some girls are a lot more difficult to pleasure.

Concentrate your efforts on making her feel extremely special. Be loving, tender, gentle, take it nice and slow. Do what you can to make it feel as though it's very important to you that she's giving you her virginity ('cause it damn well should be!) and all should go well.

Even if you guys don't last she'll at least be able to look back on her first time as being special, just because you cared.

quote:Originally posted by Sarcophagus:

I'd say maybe 30% is physical... but even then, if it's amazing enough emotionaly then the pain, or lack of pleasure won't really matter.

I was lucky, I had an orgasm my first time, but some girls are a lot more difficult to pleasure.

Concentrate your efforts on making her feel extremely special. Be loving, tender, gentle, take it nice and slow. Do what you can to make it feel as though it's very important to you that she's giving you her virginity ('cause it damn well should be!) and all should go well.

Even if you guys don't last she'll at least be able to look back on her first time as being special, just because you cared.

fuck that. why should he ruin his first time with her because shes a fucking baby? its about time women grow the fuck up. sex is sex, get over it.

^ I am assuming that you dont have too many girls who come back for a second round with you? It's all about playing the game, and if that's what you gotta do to keep her around then you do it.

quote:Originally posted by Sarcophagus:

Aiee! She lives!

Girls who don't have to deal with the normal pain of losing their virginity- ie. their hymen is already broken- generally have a better time. A situation like that is the exception, but it certainly acts as an argument for doing it yourself and getting it out of the way.. the tightness will be difficult enough to deal with (unless you work on that, too, ahem).

My gf's first time, she was enjoying it a lot more than it was hurting her. Though i did finger her with 3 fingers before hand, to loosen her up. Seems to work?

~es

quote:Originally posted by aloneandbroken:

^ I am assuming that you dont have too many girls who come back for a second round with you? It's all about playing the game, and if that's what you gotta do to keep her around then you do it.

sorry, what i want comes before what "she" wants when what "she" wants is stupid. im not a martyr, im not here to be miserable just so some dipshit mental case doesnt geek out. youd be amazed how far you can get without kissing ass, compromising your beliefs or being a pussy.

What if a girl likes pain?

Is it bad pain or good pain.

I like pain but there is also bad pain, like almost cutting my finger off. im a guy so i dont know what it feels like.

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quote:Originally posted by Sopron:

I'm wondering does anyone know any girl who did enjoy their first time?

I did ... I think it was more painful afterwards tho.

quote:Originally posted by deadlycindy:

Most women I know enjoyed their first time immensely, myself included! This is probably why I like sex so damn much. I suspect it has everything to do with the first partner; in my case, I was 15 and my bf was loving, sexy, and fun. And it took way more than another 15 years to find one that was even better.

Yea, we did have a good time that day, didn't we cindy?