this girl i know is a freak and i can talk about sex and the like to her. she talks about dildo's and fingering herself you know so the problem is she is nervous to have sex. and i told her to just be calm. well, she is playing hard to get cuz i told her why is she playing this game and she is like i dont know. she is saying when things go to fast like making out and then sex etc. she backs out...why?

o yea. shes a virgin that might help. she might not be ready, perhaps? i prolly just answered my own post.

Why is she a freak? Is it because she openly talks about her sexuality? Psh. Why don't you stop trying to coerce a hesitant (and rightly so) virgin into having sex with you. Asshole.

I am sure there is a complex psychological reason for her decision, but let me some it up in two words, she is what most of us understand as the formidable "cock tease".

If you really care for her than you are going to have to put some time into this realtionship before you can get her comfortable enough with having sex. If you just want to have sex you are in the wrong place as if you were capable of eliciting that sort of behavior out of her you would not be asking what is going on with her? So much time so, in your case, I imagine you probably don't have the desire to put that kind of effort into this realtionship. Move on.

This isn't really an encouraging post.

"Why is she a freak? Is it because she openly talks about her sexuality? Psh. Why don't you stop trying to coerce a hesitant (and rightly so) virgin into having sex with you. Asshole."

I am not an asshole but a very kind person. If she were not a virgin, o then i guess the situation would be differet yet because she is a virgin then im automatically assumed an asshole. Dude, she talks about her sexuality for a reason. Not to just make conversation.

She is in a strange place in her life. "girl who couldn't choose between the shower or the bath"-Tori Amos. Think about that alone. When you are a girl virgin you know you want to have sex, you know your capable, and horney, but you also have a lot of fear. Loosing your virginity for a girl isn't just about sex-it is a huge life changing event. Your not the person you were 5 minutes eairlier anymore-your a girl having sex. She talks about it because she not only doesn't have a clue as to what she is really talking about, but she is also giving you clues as to what she thinks she wants sex to be like for her. So basicly-LISTEN!!!! If you two do have sex don't let her down anymore than she is already going to be (no offense-the first time for the ladies is ALWAYS disappointing).

quote:Originally posted by DoMiNiOn:

"Why is she a freak? Is it because she openly talks about her sexuality? Psh. Why don't you stop trying to coerce a hesitant (and rightly so) virgin into having sex with you. Asshole."

I am not an asshole but a very kind person. If she were not a virgin, o then i guess the situation would be differet yet because she is a virgin then im automatically assumed an asshole. Dude, she talks about her sexuality for a reason. Not to just make conversation.



i think you misunderstand that comment, but even still, you basically did answer your own question, perhaps you're not an asshole but either way, if you understand that her being a virgin makes her a little more hesitant and can respect that and not push for sex, then it's all good, patience is a virtue. let her figure out when she feels ready, rushing things will make it seem like it's all you want, and not an actual relationship. (if this is true, then you are an asshole, but it doesn't sound like you are...you just need more experience in how the female mind works)

If she's never had it before give her a chance. You might not even be the lucky one.

i have the same problem except my gf says she wants to fuck me! and her 2 friends do 2. but see she is also a virgin and earlier this week it was planned that today i was supposed 2 go to her house and fuck her. but she backed off on that...so i think she scared but she wants to fuck...i dont know lol but hey ima fuck her by the end of the month

quote:Originally posted by XxSoulCriminalxX:

i have the same problem except my gf says she wants to fuck me! and her 2 friends do 2. but see she is also a virgin and earlier this week it was planned that today i was supposed 2 go to her house and fuck her. but she backed off on that...so i think she scared but she wants to fuck...i dont know lol but hey ima fuck her by the end of the month OK first, you are an asshole. "Ima fuck her by the end of the month" is possibly the stupidest thing I've ever heard a guy say about a girl. If you love her and she loves you, you'll probably be the one that makes her a woman. If you want her to do it, don't pressure her too much. A little bit is good because then she knows that you're interested. Too much makes her even more unsure, which is exactly what you don't want when dealing with this issue. Don't set a date either.