I have got this friend who is a girl, she often flirts with me, and hangs out with me and all that kinda stuff, her sister says she likes me and wants me to ask her out, my friends and her friends all want me to, i want to but i havent had a really good track record at it so i was wondering if any one had some tips, i dont wanna be shut down, coz i would be so ashamed,

I was in that same situation with my last girl friend before I asked her out but it was worse since I didn't know jack shit about her and same for me(it was for looks obviously but we ended up having stuff in common). All you got to do is just say hey will you go out with me. If she says no which seems highly unlikly then what did you loose? Nothing you lost nothing but if you don't ask her then your loosing your chance to be with her. And if by the track record thing you mean that alot of girls turned you down its no big deal I asked out at least 5-7 girls before I got a yes(all of them were for looks not personality so go figure). In life you got to take risks and never regret anything unless you do something like eat week old mayonaise on a dare then you can regret that lol.

Just say "I was wondering if you'd like to go see a movie with me on the weekend"

Never say "Some time" you gotta specify a certain area of time (ie weekend)

I've made that mistake many a time, and I'm still single

She is a bit of a flirter with every one but i know she loves me , any suggestions on how to stop her from flirting with others when i ask her out.

Hey man... I have found that the main thing is first not to be ashamed about yourself and have alot of courage. Just do what the other guys have said. If you still can't do it.. then being drunk (not wasted) helps too. If she denies you then I guess it's her loss, not yours cause always remember.. there are MANY more fish in the sea! Good luck, be mature and be confident!

Ok once you ask her out she wil proboly stop flirting because she will have a boyfriend duh. But if you want to make sure she doesn't, just say hey if we are going to go out though you can't be flirting with other guys or else I won't be able to go out with you, say this in a nice soft but still firm voice so that she knows that your not trying to be a complete dick head but that you do mean it (even if you are bluffing) or you don't even have to say the last part just say she can't be flirting if your going out. Also don't listen to Der_Kommunistiche_Leiter about the drinking because being drunk and doesn't do any good especially with emotions(I know I had 10 shots before I broke up with my gf and shit if I couldn't feel my legs or anything emotions+booze=fucked up but still good feeling) but then again if you are drunk and you ask her and she turns you down you can always blame it on the booze if your ashamed later.

if shes not a slut she should stop flirting once you and her have hooked up. but once a slut always a slut so watch out blake...

[This message has been edited by 30-06 (edited 03-04-2004).]