Me and my girl been going together for abotu 3 months now and were gettin pretty serious. And i have a freind whos comming to see me for a month(best freind). My girl is all worried she wont be first anymore, and i told her she has nothing to stress. But for some reason anything I try to tell her she always thinks shes right. She says I've been thru this before I know whats going to happen, i KNow your different, blah blah blah. So I TOld her "you dont have to trust me, just give me the benefit of the doubt". Shes like no I cant do that. So whatsx up with these girls thinkin they know everything? Cause I really dont think anything is going to change between me and her unless she makes it taht way and tries to rip me apart from my friend. But if she lets it flow itll be ok. So I dont understand how she mad this into such a big deal. Cause in my eyes it really isnt shit.. Oh yea and she puts me on guilt trips a lot too. Like, she is controlling, but like kinda a lot. And she got mad when i was on the phone wit her earlier today because i was in a crappy mood all day then i was talking to my ferind on the itnernet and i was cracking up on the phone but i told her all the things i was laughing at and she didnt think it was funny. So she tells me why cant i make you hapyp liek that? I'm like cuase thats my best freind for 8 years. that takes time. I dont know tell me if this is whacked cause i dont know.

I think this is one of those situations where you should back away slowly from her and run as soon as you get around the corner. She sounds kind-of obsessive. You should keep an eye on her, she might start acting like that girl in Swimfan.

Did you ever ask her about the other situations where she got ditched for a friend? She seems like the type of person that blows things WAY out of proportion, so you should confront her about those other times and keep re-assuring her that you will still have time for her.

What's the occasion that this friend is coming to see you for? If it's just a casual visit, try to plan some activities that include the three of you. Not only will this allow you to spend an equal amount of time with them, it will also give her a chance to see how close you and your friend are. If she truly cares for you, she should understand that you have other important people in your life.

Use paragraphs next time man.

As for your question...

Women think they know everything...Especially in the teen years.

They take all this "maturing faster than boys" thing a little too far...They think they are more mature than us and therefore think they are smarter than us!

Learn to deal with it...It will never change my friend!

Shit man, I'd rather be single than put up with that bullshit.

why do guys have a problem with this? dude just ignore her. if she doesnt want you to spend to much time with your friend ask her if she wants to be with you while youre with your friend, if not, too bad, you want to see your friend, if so, cool. you obviously "love" her somewhat becuase youve been going out with her for 3 months, tell her straight up, if you dont trust me, leave me. i dont appreciate not being trusted by the love of my life. i trust you, i dont control you, dont do it to me...etc etc.

basicly what im trying to say is- just cuz youre going out doesnt mean she owns you, if you want to do something, do it, its not her decision. if she doesnt like it, just dont care, spend time with her and your homies, theyre both important.

hahaha shes asking you why she cant make you that happy? you should be asking her that! honestly wtf?

quote:Originally posted by Psychotogen:

Oh yea and she puts me on guilt trips a lot too. Like, she is controlling, but like kinda a lot.

What is "kinda a lot"? Every day? Once a week? Next time she tries to guilt trip you, stand up for yourself and tell her to back off.

This girl is a posessive, psychotic, paranoiac who lacks any bit of self esteem. Run as fast as you can. In a way, stuff like this is similar to one of those relationships where the male is overly dominant and the female is extremely submissive. Don't fall into her trap, she's just going to play head games with you. Break up with her if she doesn't piss off.

Well shit, once she's got that state of mind, of course things are going to change. She needs to stop being such a sketch ball and chill out. What does she expect you to do? Tell your friend not to come? Be with her 24/7 which he's there and not chill with him? Chrsit, he'll be there for a month.

This is more her problem then yours. Of course you're going to spen time with your friend, he's down to visit you. Tell her to stop being so damn selfish and insecure. Sorry if I'm being offensive but girls like that piss me off.

She should take this visitaion as a chance to see a different side of you. To meet someone who is a part of your life. Isn't there a quote about judging someone by their company? I wouldn't neccessarily agree with that under every circumstance, but a close friend of my boyfriend, I'd definitely be psyched about meeting.

She seems like she's taking on a relationship that is WAY out of her league. If she can't compromise and stop being so pissy - dump her ass. I can smell a guilt trip from a mile away (they don't work on me), tell her to cut that shit out. The last thing you want to do is start developing serious feelings for a crazed-hormone teenage female. They're honestly the worst. No wonder high school boys hate girls and use them for sex - look what they have to deal with!

If you just read all that and still want to stay with her and work things out blah blah blah then let her hang out with you and your friend a couple of time when he's there. Do NOT, however, let her talk you into letting her go with you guys everytime you go out. If she tries to do it, rethink this relationship (for the 2nd time).

Psycho, you have a point but there is a limit. There's a time to back down and time to stand your ground. She's an insecure girl that doesn't know what she wants. It sounds like she latched onto him and won't let go, kind of like a parasite.

Anyway, yuck, what would attract you to such an unstable girl? (That's rhetorical)

thank you to whoever said "I dont appreciate this from the love of my life" everything else was bullshit. I think i was trippin tho everything is cool. Anyway shes nto a teenager shes 21 but reguardless. I'll keep that in mind next time i smell guilt trip. And yea this is a casual visit, my homeboy is commin' to stay with me for a month. I think it might have to do with some jelousy because her best freind is only comming for 5 days. Beats me but thanks again