I've been noticing this girl-next-door type for a year or so. I talk to her, but not regularly because its awkward to hang out with her friends (of which none are guys), and shes almost always with them. I tried to start something a while ago, but it was interrupted. At any rate, I'm thinking of waiting a bit before I try again.

However the problem at hand is that I think about her a lot. Not all the time, but a lot, probably 80% of the time. Im beginning to think i've subconsciously attached myself, and i'd like to get some advice on what to do now

Now you have to get something else to think about, another girl, whatever, 'cause if you let this continue, it might mean a serious mind fuck in the near future, and I'm sure you don't want that. I understand that you may wan't to give it a break, but my advice is, don't wait too long, just keep it cool and go with the flow. Do try to make something out of it, like, you shouldn't just stand idle. Action my friend, that's what real men are made of.

So what exactly do you suggest?

i could try and find a time to ask her out to a movie or something

Well that's exactly what you don't wanna do. Don't get attached. Think about anyone but her.

As far as asking her out...can't help you. Just the same old same old lines.

Ask her out, when the time is right. Don't force anything or your coolness might succumb to your emotional pressure. Stay cool, take action, simply waiting won't do you any good. Sit back, relax and enjoy the ride. Don't think too much about the final reward, while working towards it.

Well if your uncomfortable when your with her and she has her friends around then if you want to ask her out, just say hey can I talk to you for a minitue in private or theres something kinda important I want to talk to you about walk to a different room then her friends are in or just ask her to have her friends leave for a minitue and ask. Do not let yourself get to attatched unless you ask her out becuase if you never ask her and get to attatched before hand then if you do ask her and she says no it will hurt more then if you did it before you get to attatched. And my best advice for anyone getting into a realationship if your younger like a teenager (for the most part not all times) If you go into a realationship no matter how much you love/like the person always let your self know that no matter how much you want it to work it might not work because people change so you have to realize it may not last for ever and just cherish it while it lasts but realize that it might just be temperary especially when your younger(theres exceptions to this). And "bad things happen for good reasons" so don't let every little let down hurt to bad because ive had plenty (love, and life in general) but they always ended up letting something better happen.

o jeez. go me! i missed the boat (metaphorically speaking)

this other guy asked her out today

guess my problems are over

Well that sucks, theres always after they break up.

Eh, well, they say it's easier to steal another guy's girlfriend than to keep your own. Don't let that motherfucker leave you empty handed

And for god's sakes, get it right this time. He who waits masturbates.

quote:Originally posted by Canuck:

o jeez. go me! i missed the boat (metaphorically speaking)

this other guy asked her out today

guess my problems are over

Hey, that's a good attitude to have. That way you don't have to worry about her. And then, if she breaks up later, you won't be too attached to be unable to ask her out. Catch my drift?

yes corrupt Civillian im catching your drift!

thats a brilliant idea.