now i love women,ok i LOVE em but like a few of my guy friend i find attractive and once in a while think about us kissing.But like i wouldnt go any further than that.2 situations have occured.1 my friend was telling me about how his gf like it when and sucks on her earlobe(is that spelt right?),confused but what he said he decided to show me....and i enjoyed it....and the second time was at a party with a girl and another guy friend of mine...except in this case everyone at the party saw and made a huge deal outta it.

so i dunno, am i gay in denile? bisexual? or what?

Yeah, you're gay. Better commit suicide, nobody likes a fag.

gee thanks for the post,lemme go kill myself cuz im gay?.....ur an idiot

ok to make it clear...if ur gonna flame, fuck off, i need answers not taunts

Who's taunting?

You're gay. You're attracted to men. It's nothing horrible.

You're gay, just in the experimental stage. Just don't hit on me and I'm okay, god I hate homos

Are you gay? Good question. Think of it this way; you say you love women, but that you find some of your friends attractive. Thats semi normal, as a straight guy I can still tell when guys are attractive etc. To continue, you say you've been aroused and had thoughts of doin shit with guys. Here's the 2 questionsI'd ask you:

1. are you gettin any from girls? I ask because if you aren't, this could be part of the reason. When people go to prison for example, they many times become bi or gay because though they'd prefer an opposite sex partner, its just easier. Try gettin some from a girl and see if the desire to "hide the sausage" goes away. It may be a case of misplaced sexual frustration

2. Could you ever see yourself in a relationship with a man and having a "LOVE" type relationship as found between ahetero couples? If you don't think you'd ever have those types of feelings and its just a sexual curiousity then you're most likely bi-curious. Keep in mind you can be bi and still prefer girls. Most bi people have a preference its not usually 50/50.

[This message has been edited by Iceberg Slim (edited 02-25-2004).]

It sounds like you have some bisexual tendancies; and not to sound like the beacon of homosexuality, I think it would probably be good for you to explore it a little bit before

No. 1: freaking out

No. 2: writing it off/going into denile

No. 2, though, I find is often a consequence of No. 1.

Anyways, I doubt you're gay if you like women. You're probably just a little bisexual and there's nothing wrong with liking apples and oranges.

They're both fruit and they're both sweet.

Cheers,

Lost

obviously you are bi.



your friend was talking about the way he sucks his g/f ear lobes and he done it to you to show you and you liked it? if you cant tell you are gay/bi from that then idk whats wrong.

you are probably bi,

dont fret, it doubles your chance of getting lucky on a saturday night!

its cool!

Apparantly Paris Hilton gets turned on by seeing guys kiss. Your probly bi.

OMG U DISGUSTING FAGET!!!11

can we like get rid of all the fagets on totse?? i believe in freedum of speech and all but fagets are just 2 much lolz

quote:Originally posted by ATypiCalStuDenT:

dont fret, it doubles your chance of getting lucky on a saturday night!

That's If every male there was gay.

quote:Originally posted by Trippy_McGee:

OMG U DISGUSTING FAGET!!!11

can we like get rid of all the fagets on totse?? i believe in freedum of speech and all but fagets are just 2 much lolz

lik3 dat wa5 ju5t wot 1 was f1nk1n, OMG LOL!!!!LO!!!!111!LOOOOL!!!

h0w k3wl arz we!!!11!!!!! LMFAOOO

Fags are gay get off of totse you gayass fagit gaywad.....

Seriously your probobly bi. Another guy sucking on your earlobe doesnt sound like something a straight guy would do. Try it on me and i would crack your skull with a rusty iron pipe.

quote:Originally posted by KungFuJim:

Try it on me and i would crack your skull with a rusty iron pipe.

Amen.

Shouldnt matter man. As people said, nothing to freak out about. Most people are a little bi when you get down to it anyway.

You let a dude kiss your earlobe you and him are both gay.

maybe his frined is bi. Its not like he asked for it or wanted it. If a guy did that to me i woukld be fine with that, although i have bi tendenceies.

A happy way to exist:

1. Don't let things that bother you stop you from reaching your goals.

2. We are all made of atoms. You heard me right, we're a big bag of atoms.

3. (read #1)

Now go to England, form a pop band. Become famous and make a shitload of money.

You seem the have the same problem as I do, only I am a bit more extreme, you see I could have a bf/gf relationship with a girl as long as it didn't come to sex where as for guys I'd much rather fuck a guy then have a relationship with him, I think it's because most guys my age are total idiots and morons... I dont remeber who said it, but you really should explore this further, see if you friend would be up for a romp in the sack, you never know you might enjoy it. If in the end you decide you do like guys well bravo your gay and take Heiko Palms advice but go to Korea instead, the amount of fangirls out there that like yaoi is just plain stupid...

u are probly bi but dont worry its fun

your bi (like probs more a girl man than a man man, but still, bi) learn to live with it

quote:Originally posted by elf:

Apparantly Paris Hilton gets turned on by seeing guys kiss.

But as rich as she is, she's not the most attractive girl and she's REALLY annoying. REALLY.

I personally dont think that I would call you bi or gay.

First of all, sucking earlobes is sexy. If anyone does it to you, it's going to feel good. I dont care if its a guy or a girl, it will feel good. If a guy sucks you off its going to feel good even if you aren't gay.

Second of all, everyone at some point questions their sexuality. Thinking of or even going so far as Fantasizing about kissing a friend of the same sex is not gay. Kissing is something you do with someone you love, and as a friend, man to man, i am sure you love your friend. Many people allow their minds to wander and the "boundary" between the friend love and the relation love becomes fuzzy. It is not important! Don't be worried about that.

I think the word bisexual gets tossed around way too much. Kissing another person of the same sex does not make you bisexual. If you want relationships or sexual activity with the person of the same sex is bisexual. You dont seem to want this.

If you are really worried, experiment. Everyone at some point thinks about it, so why not do it. If you really are gay or bisexual, you will soon find out.

I know this has probably been said somewhere else much better but I don't think anyone is totally gay or totally straight. For instance, on a scale of sexual preference I probably fall on a 6.

Gay<-1-2-3-4-5-6-7-8-9-10->Straight

None of the flamers(no pun intended)spelled faggot right. I don't think you're a 'faggot' or gay, for that matter. Maybe bi, maybe not. I agree with whoever said don't freak out. Just experiment.

The reason people freak out about their sexuality is because they see it in binary: They're either a man's man or, uh, a "man's man," with nothing in between. Chill out!

I highly recommend "Androgyny: Toward a New Theory in Sexuality" by June Singer. It's an incredibly intelligent book, and it really changed how I think about sex. Sex and Gender ARE NOT the same thing. There are so many ways to get pleasure in this world, and some of them don't fall into neat, sterile little categories like "gay" or "straight." Life isn't binary- don't live the lie!

<stumbles off soapbox>

quote:Originally posted by ararise:

But as rich as she is, she's not the most attractive girl and she's REALLY annoying. REALLY.

I agree. Her sister is just as rich, hotter, and less annoying.

I think your friend's gay. I don't know ANY completely straight guy who would suck on another guy's earlobe. Not to mention, what the fuck is confusing about the phrase "sucking on earlobe"?

I think your friend has some bisexual tendencies, along with you.

Personally, gayness sickens me all around, but thats just me. You can either embrace this possible bisexuality, or ignore it and stick to the girls.

Being bi myself, it sounds like that's what you're closest to. Probably a 8 or 9 or so it seems like. Myself...I think I'm about an 8.5.

meh, you sound bi to me. personally, anything but complete heterosexuality sickens me, but i also believe everyone should make their own choices in life without regards to what others (including me) think. have fun, but i'll beat you if you hit on me

I don't understand how someone could be confused with their sexual orientation. I've always known I was straight. Say you're getting a blowjob but your eyes are closed. It'll still feel good whether it's a girl or a guy, but it wouldn't automatically make you gay because a guy was doing it and you liked it. You know?

Of course you were never confused, Sick_boy, because you're straight. You've always been told to be straight, and since you are, you'd have to be pretty dumb and/or impressionable to feel any confusion.

However, for someone who's not straight, it's a whole hell of a lot trickier. Everyone expects them to be a particular way, but deep down inside they feel it might be otherwise (it's especially difficult during adolescence). That's why people like hopeless_tragedy are confused about their sexuality.



P.S. To all you people who said you'd hit him if he hit on you: Everyone assumed you were straight to begin with, so you don't have to prove anything just because you spoke to a bi guy.

Why react so harshly? He didn't hit on anyone here. Are you hiding something? Feeling a bit... confused, maybe?

[This message has been edited by Tesseract (edited 03-01-2004).]

Your friend's gay too.

Guys: Would you ever suck on an earlobe?(male)

I can relate. I thought I might be gay because I wasn't really attracted to women. But I also wasn't attracted to men. Turns out its just a low sex drive, like Hitler had!

Well okay I can think some guys are hot and good looking. But see as far as I go is with my eyes. I could never see myself doing stuff. I mean think of it, no matter how good looking a guy is, they got a dirty, smelly, hairy, asshole and I would never subject myself to touching it, its just sickening. Poop comes out of it

Damn fags. Font lisen to em. Just get urself some hardcore porn STRAIGHT PORN! and wack off to some chick. Or better yet pick up some chicks. But dont be a fag beacuse fags are gay. Its just...............not natural.

quote:Originally posted by NightVision:

Damn fags. Its just...............not natural.

If it isn't natural, then how come every civilization since the beggining of time has had homosexuals?

I think that a true 100% straight, or 100% gay person is pretty rare. On FemmeFatales list I would give myself an eight and a half. While I can get attracted to the same sex, unless they are unusally hot, then I won't. I wouldn't ever do anything with another man (unless it was Devon Sawa). I don't consider myself bi, bi-curious yes, but not bi. I think a 40-60 on FemmeFatales scale would be bi.

Ok heres my personal opinion on everything. One dont worry about if your gay bi or straight. Right now just experiment and have fun and wait and see you never know. I personally am Gay but like femmefatale states no one is %100 one way or the other.

Me when i was looking for a mate(life partner) I fell for a great guy but that doesnt mean at the time I couldnt have fallen for a great girl eather.

Me personally i consider myself %90 gay and %10 straight. Some women i find attractive but there are also a lot of guys I find even more attractive too.

I think its more important that you love someone and they love you inreturn that weigth there a man or a woman love is what matters not sex. Sex doesnt make a relationship its a lot of fun tho.

Not only that but when i first started lookin into dateing i never really gave men a thought I mean yeah sure i was attracted to some of them but I was also attravted to some women too. I never really was into breasts tho I mean yeah sure there nice and all but I never understood how some men could go nuts over them but then again I do the same thing over cock too so who am i to judge them ya know. Anyway I think its more important to have fun experiment and see what you like and what you dont.

Also personally I dont think its anyones business who I love and what I do with them weather its holding hands in public or kissing as long as its not hurting anyone then whats the problem. Anyway sorry about all that guys and gals.